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Ali1
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So I broke Down Last Night...
I am into my 2nd trimester and have not been feeling any better then my 1st. I am still exhausted when i get home, I have really bad stomach issues, and this in between stage with clothes has made me miserable. I am totally convinced I am not going to have this honeymoon phase a lot of you mention in the 2nd trimester.
I also feel like a horrible wife to my DH....I am so boring these days and absolutely miserable and of course he is the one i complain to....and I apologize all the time to him about being a bad wife, but with the way i feel I really can't do anything more right now for him.
On top of all this all i can think about is the issues i am going to have once they are here with daycare and going back to work, etc.
My DH has been really sweet, but i don't think he gets that i am really overwhelmed emotionally. He started talking about something last night and i just told him i needed to go to bed and went upstairs and cried my eyes out. Is this normal?? I am very happy to be having the babies, but emotionally i am just drained......
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dandr10199
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
We have all been there. Sometimes the "honeymoon trimester" takes a little longer to get there for some. Hang in there. 
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| Posted 3/30/06 9:23 AM |
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KittyCat
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
I am going through the same thing, very tired, not as bad as 1st trimester though. On weekends, I don't want to get up and go out and do stuff, I want to lay my A$$ on the couch and watch TV, DH gets frustrated and I don't blame him. I am having stomach issues too, just started a few days ago. I work 8-5
M-F, not allowed outside, - it is a 1 girl office and I am sitting here all day, exhausted get home, sometimes cook and exhausted to the point where I am giving myself anxiety over it. I try not to think about the daycare right now, it is too far away, I am due in Sept. and will be home for 2 months hopefully before I have to work. I am stressed too, I try to take it one day at a time. DH has been doing TONS around the house, so that helps.
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| Posted 3/30/06 9:23 AM |
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DebG
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
Posted by Ali1
I am into my 2nd trimester and have not been feeling any better then my 1st. I am still exhausted when i get home, I have really bad stomach issues, and this in between stage with clothes has made me miserable. I am totally convinced I am not going to have this honeymoon phase a lot of you mention in the 2nd trimester.
I also feel like a horrible wife to my DH....I am so boring these days and absolutely miserable and of course he is the one i complain to....and I apologize all the time to him about being a bad wife, but with the way i feel I really can't do anything more right now for him.
On top of all this all i can think about is the issues i am going to have once they are here with daycare and going back to work, etc.
My DH has been really sweet, but i don't think he gets that i am really overwhelmed emotionally. He started talking about something last night and i just told him i needed to go to bed and went upstairs and cried my eyes out. Is this normal?? I am very happy to be having the babies, but emotionally i am just drained......
Please know that you are not alone.
I am just about 23 weeks and never really had the honeymoon phase of the second trimester. I suffered from morning sickness until about 20 weeks and I have been having some wierd face numb/tingleing/throbbing eye problem like thing since the first week of Feb with a sinus infection thrown in just cause I am "lucky".
Like you, I am very emotional all the time and I don't have a lot of energy to get things done around the house.
I was trying to hold a lot of this in and not bother my DH with it because he has been slammed at work. However, the best thing I did was just sit down and have a very real and honest conversation with him about what I have been going through. Once I did that, I stopped feeling guilty and DH really started helping out a lot more with little things (always picking up/making dinner, making sure my humidifier is always filled, doing more housework, letting me sleep (cause he knows I am lucky when I get it)
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and encourage you to speak openly with your DH about your feeling, afterall, you are in this together.
FM if you need to talk.
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| Posted 3/30/06 9:36 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
Posted by Ali1
I am into my 2nd trimester and have not been feeling any better then my 1st. I am still exhausted when i get home, I have really bad stomach issues, and this in between stage with clothes has made me miserable. I am totally convinced I am not going to have this honeymoon phase a lot of you mention in the 2nd trimester.
I also feel like a horrible wife to my DH....I am so boring these days and absolutely miserable and of course he is the one i complain to....and I apologize all the time to him about being a bad wife, but with the way i feel I really can't do anything more right now for him.
On top of all this all i can think about is the issues i am going to have once they are here with daycare and going back to work, etc.
My DH has been really sweet, but i don't think he gets that i am really overwhelmed emotionally. He started talking about something last night and i just told him i needed to go to bed and went upstairs and cried my eyes out. Is this normal?? I am very happy to be having the babies, but emotionally i am just drained......
I felt the same way you did. I ended my 1st trimester and wasn't feeling any better. I felt like a completely boring person because I didn't want to go any where, see anyone, do anything and I couldn't even clean or cook. But one day, I fould myself not needing a nap. Then the next couple of days, I had enough energy to actually clean and/or go out. It was well into my 4th month til I felt this way.
Don't give up hope yet. Your honeymoon phase may just be around the corner.
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| Posted 3/30/06 9:54 AM |
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Sharon
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
You are so not alone. I am starting my 19th week and still feel terrible. I think alot of it is also because we are carrying twins, so the hormone levels are off the charts.
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| Posted 3/30/06 10:02 AM |
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Diane
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
Im in my 2nd trimester officially today. Im so tired, and I feel like I wrote your post a few weeks ago, I was so sick, and neglected my DH. At night after dinner I dont feel so great, and when we are watching t.v I fall asleep at 8-9pm, and feel like I havent been intimate or even want to kiss DH.
Like Sharon said, it is so the hormones.
Maybe one day over the weekend you can go out to dinner together.
If you need to talk, you can FM me
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| Posted 3/30/06 10:23 AM |
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ana6178
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
Were you reading my mind? 
I am feeling the same way!!!
Like Deb G- I had m/s til 20 weeks.... I cry myself to sleep a lot.
We started re-searching daycare and nanny's and I was so depressed....
Just take it one day at a time.
We are all here for you.
FM me anytime. I am always up for a good vent session.
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| Posted 3/30/06 10:37 AM |
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Ali1
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
Thanks ladies. I really thought i was losing my mind last night. I am glad i am not the only one who feels like this. I was talking to DH this morning and i was saying i need to go away on a weekend getaway next month or in May...just to sit around and do nothing all day. He said he thought that was a good idea and i already told him I can't promise i will be much fun, but i need this before i get really big and really uncomfortable. Hopefully that will help. It will be nice to just have nothing to do all day but nap, read, watch TV and eat!
Of course i even feel guilty about that because this will be more vacation time i am eating up that i can't use when i am out on maternity leave, but for my sanity I'm gonna get over that.
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| Posted 3/30/06 10:53 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
Posted by Ali1
Thanks ladies. I really thought i was losing my mind last night. I am glad i am not the only one who feels like this. I was talking to DH this morning and i was saying i need to go away on a weekend getaway next month or in May...just to sit around and do nothing all day. He said he thought that was a good idea and i already told him I can't promise i will be much fun, but i need this before i get really big and really uncomfortable. Hopefully that will help. It will be nice to just have nothing to do all day but nap, read, watch TV and eat!
Of course i even feel guilty about that because this will be more vacation time i am eating up that i can't use when i am out on maternity leave, but for my sanity I'm gonna get over that.
Enjoy!
Don't worry about using vacation time. You should indulge a bit before the babies come because you wouldn't have that luxury again.
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| Posted 3/30/06 11:04 AM |
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pinky
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Re: So I broke Down Last Night...
i am also going through this awkward stage - its the worst. nothing fits and you feel horrible about yourself and drained and gross.
i also feel like the worst wife, i havent cooked in months and i am so lazy.
i'm SURE its going to get better. hang in there!!!
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