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so let's say you are a regular poster

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rojerono
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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by tatuka

how can you not like someone and /or hold a grudge against someone you have never met based on what they post Chat Icon I don't get itChat Icon



You really get to 'know' people in this kind of environment so liking people is really easy. You become attached to their victories and heartaches.. it's strange but it happens.

Disliking - for me - is trickier, but it's the same basic theory. You see the things they say, you find yourself identifying patterns of behavior (attention seeking, drama causing, negative talk, aggressiveness, whatever) that you are not comfortable with and then you find yourself avoiding their posts in order to avoid feeling that 'way'.

BUT I don't think there is any 'active' or true dislike. I believe everyone here is intelligent enough to know that how someone seems online does not define the sum and substance of their personality. I like to believe that NOBODY on here would ever wish anyone ill based on the way that they 'post'.

Posted 3/13/09 4:12 PM
 
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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

I don't dislike anyone. There are a few who clearly think they're smarter and more in the know than someone else might...but there are also a lot who don't give themselves enough credit....

To answer, I rarely notice who posts what, but every now and then I form an impression. The person has to be really oboxious in a post for me to form an impression, though, and there's not too much of that on here.

Posted 3/13/09 4:18 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

i know i come across as snooty and harsh on the home board but i am really very down to earth. some threads in re: to furniture and decor just make me Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon. i should keep my comments to myself (and i do sometimes by not replying Chat Icon) but i hate to see people spend money on sub-par furniture items and dollar store resembling accessories.

Message edited 3/13/2009 6:03:51 PM.

Posted 3/13/09 5:49 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Oh no, don't tell me I've fallen out of your girl crush status! Chat Icon What did I say??

Posted 3/13/09 5:56 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by BJandDan

Posted by Goldi0218



Who are they on the last one?

Chat Icon LB!!!! That is Duran Duran, My all time favorite band ever!! John Taylor is Hooooot!!Chat Icon Chat Icon

Message edited 3/13/2009 5:59:16 PM.

Posted 3/13/09 5:57 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

I don't lurk all that often, but I do understand what you're saying. it's not that I "like" or "dislike" other posters, I just come to expect certain kinds or patterns of posts from particularly people. I think we all come to "know" each other's styles on here, and expect certain behavior and if its not that way all of a sudden, it is surprising.

Posted 3/13/09 6:13 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by BJandDan

Posted by kristinel

You know what. There are posters I actually envy for being able to put things to words in ways I never can.



I think this OFTEN.

BxGell2(Beth), Ophelia (Jess) just to name two off the top of my head. There are a bunch more though. I feel like such a dunce when I post before them and then read what they so eloquently type out.



YES! Don't forget nrthshrgrl and EmmaNick. And BJ, you're a riot.

Posted 3/13/09 6:14 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by kristinel

You know what. There are posters I actually envy for being able to put things to words in ways I never can.



Same here !Chat Icon

And some posters say things that annoy me but I try not to pass judgement right away

Posted 3/13/09 6:30 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

There are a few poster I love even though I have never met them, A few I simply respect because of their intelligent, well thought out posts, and some I just cant stand because of drama, snarkiness, bullying, whatever..., but most of the time I cant remember who said what unless it REALLY stands out with respect to one of the 3 catagories.

BTW ~ You know I Chat Icon you, LBChat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/13/09 6:35 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by mathteach

Posted by BJandDan

Posted by kristinel

You know what. There are posters I actually envy for being able to put things to words in ways I never can.



I think this OFTEN.

BxGell2(Beth), Ophelia (Jess) just to name two off the top of my head. There are a bunch more though. I feel like such a dunce when I post before them and then read what they so eloquently type out.





YES! Don't forget nrthshrgrl and EmmaNick. And BJ, you're a riot.

Chat Icon


Dont forget Kara, too. Always objective and intelligent!

Posted 3/13/09 6:37 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by BJandDan

Posted by kristinel

You know what. There are posters I actually envy for being able to put things to words in ways I never can.



I think this OFTEN.

BxGell2(Beth), Ophelia (Jess) just to name two off the top of my head. There are a bunch more though. I feel like such a dunce when I post before them and then read what they so eloquently type out.



Chat Icon Chat Icon Awww, thanks!

Posted 3/13/09 6:55 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by kristinel

You know what. There are posters I actually envy for being able to put things to words in ways I never can.



So true! I wish I had the eloquence and intelligence of some posters here.

Posted 3/13/09 7:14 PM
 

DRMom
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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Hmmm honestly I think people can't really hide who they are. For example I think some posters would think of me as helpful(TTC, Pregnancy, IF) while others may think I'm a b!tch(Posting on NFR, Career)

So no-because I kind of think I have people "figured out" an dthey usually don't disappoint. For example there is a regular poster on here that has a certain trait. This trait comes out in almost every post they make. I can almost think what they are going to say before they say it. I don't necessarily dislike this person-they seem very nice but this one trait annoys me. I can't say what it is because I think it will be a give away

Posted 3/13/09 9:18 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by melijane

Hmmm honestly I think people can't really hide who they are. For example I think some posters would think of me as helpful(TTC, Pregnancy, IF) while others may think I'm a b!tch(Posting on NFR, Career)

So no-because I kind of think I have people "figured out" an dthey usually don't disappoint. For example there is a regular poster on here that has a certain trait. This trait comes out in almost every post they make. I can almost think what they are going to say before they say it. I don't necessarily dislike this person-they seem very nice but this one trait annoys me. I can't say what it is because I think it will be a give away



OMG melijane the INTRIGUE... Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/13/09 9:23 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

It would take a lot for me to write someone off, even on here. People go through rough patches or have their crazy moments. I try to be forgiving and try to look past isolated incidents because I would hope others would do the same for me.

Posted 3/13/09 9:30 PM
 

lipglossjunky73
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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

I have to say, I'm not emotionally attached to anyone here enough to really dislike them. In my eyes, I automatically like anyone until they do something really awful.

I disagree with a few, but disliking someone takes too much emotional energy that I don't really have, kwim?

Posted 3/13/09 9:32 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by lipglossjunky73

I have to say, I'm not emotionally attached to anyone here enough to really dislike them. In my eyes, I automatically like anyone until they do something really awful.

I disagree with a few, but disliking someone takes too much emotional energy that I don't really have, kwim?



Just admit it, you only have eyes for Johhny Latte.....oh forget it, I think that's more me than you Chat Icon !

Anyway, if I read correctly, the OP was sort of asking if whether one post can change an opinion of someone. For me, the answer is "no." Not one post. If that was the case, many of my close friendships would be gone based on either my posts or theirs. Everyone can have a bad day and everyone can say or do something that their friends disagree with.

I do form opinions about people based on their posts. In any setting, we form opinions of people based on the way that they communicate. Online, we may have less to go on because we cannot see body language or hear tone, but we certainly do have something to go on, especially if we have been following posts for a long time. I take longer to come up with an opinion about someone but I can see how people interact on here. I don't see a need to pretend that I don't see it. There have been a few instances where people have been different in person but I don't often see a truly different personality. I might see that someone is more shy on here or more shy in real life or that someone has read more of my posts than I realized but very few people are so much different in person.

Posted 3/13/09 10:05 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Just admit it, you only have eyes for Johhny Latte.

I'll fess up... for 5 minutes, i DID have a mini crush on him.... it was all the free lattes he would give me!!!! Clouded my judgement. Then he would talk forever about the Olive Garden gig he landed... Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/13/09 10:14 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by lipglossjunky73

Just admit it, you only have eyes for Johhny Latte.

I'll fess up... for 5 minutes, i DID have a mini crush on him.... it was all the free lattes he would give me!!!! Clouded my judgement. Then he would talk forever about the Olive Garden gig he landed... Chat Icon Chat Icon



Is that where he is now? I never asked him what he is doing now!

Posted 3/13/09 10:16 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Absolutely, there are a few that I just cringe when I see their posts...and amazingly its always the same "tone" and "style" of comments...once you rub me the wrong way, thats it, you're on my blacklistChat Icon

Posted 3/13/09 10:22 PM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

As someone kind of newer to these boards, I can't really say there are people I like to dislike. I'm still making the transference from LIW. But there are people on there that have made me go Chat Icon

Posted 3/13/09 10:46 PM
 

IrishLasss334
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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

I lurk on some boards and post somewhat regularly, although not as of late.

I think you can disagree with someone's opinion but at the same time have respect that it is their opinion. I not agreed with some posts, but that doesn't mean I don't "like" them on the boards.

But I don't think posters should be flamed or drama should be started b/c they post their opinions of themselves and their life. It's the drama queens and pot stirrers that bother me.

Posted 3/14/09 6:52 AM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by Bxgell2

Oh no, don't tell me I've fallen out of your girl crush status! Chat Icon What did I say??



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you're insane, i'll never stop crushing on you Chat Icon

Posted 3/14/09 8:04 AM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by headoverheels

Posted by Bxgell2

Oh no, don't tell me I've fallen out of your girl crush status! Chat Icon What did I say??



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you're insane, i'll never stop crushing on you Chat Icon



Whew!! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/14/09 8:42 AM
 

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Re: so let's say you are a regular poster

Posted by Kerie-is-so-very

Posted by lipglossjunky73

Just admit it, you only have eyes for Johhny Latte.

I'll fess up... for 5 minutes, i DID have a mini crush on him.... it was all the free lattes he would give me!!!! Clouded my judgement. Then he would talk forever about the Olive Garden gig he landed... Chat Icon Chat Icon



Is that where he is now? I never asked him what he is doing now!

NO! It was like 20 years ago he was in that commercial!!!!

Posted 3/14/09 11:28 AM
 
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