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sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

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saraH
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sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

does anyone in your family or a friend do this? for example, they don't tell a certain person something that happened or is happening b./c they think they are protecting that person? my mil can be like this and i think it does more harm then good. my family is not like this, not that we talk about every little thing, but things that need to be discussed are discussed.

thoughts?

Posted 8/30/06 12:18 PM
 
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

OMG this is a HUGE problem I have with DH's family. They do this ALL the time.

IMHO...it's lying!

Posted 8/30/06 12:19 PM
 

eroxgirl
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

My inlaws have 4 adopted kids - they've never been told. I think it's horrible. One of them thought something was up and actually accused my MIL of cheating on my FIL because of the difference in their skin color. He was maybe 9 or 10 at the time. I hope they handle it well when they learn the truth, if they ever do.

Posted 8/30/06 12:20 PM
 

saraH
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

Posted by eroxgirl

My inlaws have 4 adopted kids - they've never been told. I think it's horrible. One of them thought something was up and actually accused my MIL of cheating on my FIL because of the difference in their skin color. He was maybe 9 or 10 at the time. I hope they handle it well when they learn the truth, if they ever do.



what? that is ridiculous. what is the harm in telling them they are adopted? and it is lying.

Posted 8/30/06 12:23 PM
 

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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

I think that nobody knows there family better than each other.
IMHO - I don't think that everyone needs to know everything.

Posted 8/30/06 12:25 PM
 

Ambersmom
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

It happens alot in husband's family. They don't tell FIL anything because they claim he's "ill" and can't handle it. Like MIL wanted me to "lie" about how bad the house was when we originally bought it, etc. However, oneday when were all together and MIL decided to make some stupid comment about how we really didn't have to do much other than carpet and paint, I busted out the photographic history we had on the progress and specificically pointed out to FIL "Oh yes, this is when we had the fire, this is when we had the wind damage, etc.". You should have seen MIL's face!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

When she does decide to "disclose" some family drama, she has to call a freaking town meeting. It's all so melodramatic, I would rather NOT know what's going onChat Icon

My family is an open book. We spread the news faster than the AP. EXCEPT to my 95 year old Grandmother because she's a little wacky and plays post office with whatever we tell her. It goes from "Anthony went to the hospital due to a sprained ankle" to "Anthony is in critical care and they've read him last rights". Sooo not worth it!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/30/06 12:25 PM
 

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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

My family has a tendency to so this with me...

Like when my cousins wife was pg, everyone kept it from me until she was just about to give birth.

Or, if my grandparents are sick, or having minor surgery, etc.

I don't know why they feel I am so fragile.

Posted 8/30/06 12:26 PM
 

saraH
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

Posted by MikesWife

I think that nobody knows there family better than each other.
IMHO - I don't think that everyone needs to know everything.



i agree on that not everyone needs to know everything. but at the same time, to keep someone from someone regarding someone they care about, that is just messed up.

Posted 8/30/06 12:26 PM
 

nferrandi
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

My mom tries to keep certain things from my dad, because he gets very upset about things and won't eat and he's a diabetic. I personally tell him anything I want if I feel he has a right to know. Sometimes it pizzes my mom off. Chat Icon

Posted 8/30/06 12:38 PM
 

MsMBV
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

Yes. it really irks me.Chat Icon

Posted 8/30/06 12:55 PM
 

Beth
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

that about sums up my family

my sister was not told all the details of my mom's illness and it made her dealth harder to deal with

Jake always says all my family does is lie about things to protect us- but still a lie

Posted 8/30/06 1:00 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

yes, DH and I keep a lot of stuff from his mom. mostly because she's got a big mouth and we don't want her telling everyone Chat Icon we learned the hard way! Chat Icon

Posted 8/30/06 1:03 PM
 

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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

Posted by lorich

OMG this is a HUGE problem I have with DH's family. They do this ALL the time.

IMHO...it's lying!



same here

Posted 8/30/06 1:12 PM
 

MrsDiamondgrlie
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

In my family, no. I love how open and honest we all are but the IL's are like that. I guess every family is different.

Posted 8/30/06 1:14 PM
 

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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

This is my family. It began with my mother, but I see that I now have a tendancy to do the same. Sometimes I have to think twice before I say something to other family members in case it's something they are not supposed to knowChat Icon DH doesn't get it, but he'll get used to it.

Posted 8/30/06 1:18 PM
 

Akajt98
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

My DH's family are famous for this. They are sales people and I think it comes natural. Don't get me wrong, I totally love them....but I get very tired of trying to decipher what part of the story I am missing, wondering what is being kept from me, and wondering if it is ok to talk about things that others might not be aware of. I have kinda come to terms with it and let it roll off my back as best as possible, but it is sometimes really frustrating and even upsetting. Sometimes I get to the point where I want to cut all communcation off, but I think then I would be hurting myself and DH.

Posted 8/30/06 1:26 PM
 

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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

My Mom does this all the time! I hate finding out stuff like family illness etc after it has been going on for awhile.I'd rather know up front than find out later.

Message edited 8/30/2006 1:41:42 PM.

Posted 8/30/06 1:41 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: sort of spinoff - keeping things from others

Of course I do.....my MIL!!!!!!!!! She then gets caught in these little lies and does not make herself look good.

Posted 8/30/06 1:41 PM
 
 

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