Speaking of difficult children (re: biting)

Alex has a new habit - BITING - HARD - it hurts - BAD. Any BTDT advice? I tell her very sternly NO but she just laughs at me. Yesterday, she did it for like the 8th time, so I said NO, and put her on the floor and turned my back to her, and she started crying, so maybe that will work, but I just felt so bad I don't want to have to push her off of me everytime I want to get a point across.

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can you start doing time outs? 1 minute for each time she bites.

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How do I do a time-out with a 14 month old? Will she even understand? I know she won't sit still for a time-out...

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I don't have any advice, but you should see the size of the bruise on my tum from Noah biting me. He has 8 razor sharp teeth of steel apparently!!!

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Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by racheeeee

I don't have any advice, but you should see the size of the bruise on my tum from Noah biting me. He has 8 razor sharp teeth of steel apparently!!!

Try to imagine how that feels on your cheek with a baby who has 16... YES SIXTEEN teeth

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I am not BTDT yet, but i did read something yesterday on disiplining maybe it will help

Babies up to 18 months, the only recommended methods are positive reinforcement and demonstrating what's acceptable.

LEt me see if i can find what i read, i think it was from DR. Phil.

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Claire went thru a terrible biting stage for months. From about 11-18 months old, it was HORRIBLE!....I gave her time outs for 1 minute by puttting her in a corner of whatever room we were in and sternly telling her 'no biting'. She definitley got the point of time outs and I do beleive it helped in the long run.

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Posted by racheeeee

Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by racheeeee

I don't have any advice, but you should see the size of the bruise on my tum from Noah biting me. He has 8 razor sharp teeth of steel apparently!!!

Try to imagine how that feels on your cheek with a baby who has 16... YES SIXTEEN teeth

Oy! Good luck! Noah is just too young to understand NO I think, but I keep trying.

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Here's the link

Age Appropriate Disciplining Techniques



Here's an exerpt up to 3 years old

Age-Appropriate Discipline Techniques
The disciplining techniques parents use should be based on age-appropriate expectations. For example, explaining to a 13-month-old why she is being punished for hitting her sibling isn't going to get you very far if she can't yet understand reasoning. Using guidelines outlined by the American Academy of Family Physicians, Dr. Phil suggests the following discipline techniques and when they are effective to use.


Positive Reinforcement
Focusing on good behavior instead of bad behavior. Parental attention is one of the most powerful forms of positive reinforcement.


Redirecting
This technique literally involves the simple act of redirecting your child to appropriate behavior.


Verbal Instruction/Explanation
Going over what you want your child to do and why can help him/her develop good judgment.


Time-outs
Time-outs involve physically removing your child from a problem situation. Sending your child to a neutral and "boring" area, such as the corner of a room with no toys or television, and ignoring him/her until he/she is calm and quiet. Time-outs should not last longer than five minutes. One minute of time-out per year of life is a good rule of thumb.


Establishing Rules
Explain your rules and be prepared to repeat them until your child learns to follow them on his/her own.


Grounding
A technique effective with school-age children and teenagers, it involves restricting your child to a certain place, usually home or his/her room, as punishment. For example, "grounding" your child on a Saturday night as punishment for breaking curfew on Friday night.


Withholding Privileges
Children should learn that privileges come with responsibility and they need to be earned. In order to be effective, this technique should be used infrequently. A privilege that is valued by the child, such as watching television or playing with friends, should be removed.

Birth to 18 Months

Effective:

Positive Reinforcement

Redirecting

Ineffective:

Verbal Instruction/Explanation

Time-outs

Establishing Rules

Grounding

Withholding Privileges

18 Months to 3 Years

Effective:

Positive Reinforcement

Redirecting

Verbal Instruction/Explanation

Time-outs

Ineffective:

Establishment of Rules

Grounding

Withholding Privileges



I have seen friends and family of mine try to do timeouts, and rationalize and explain things to a 1 year old, and it really doesn't work, they don't get it just yet.

And on the opposite end, a friend of mine redirected and used pos reinforcement, her toddler was biting and hitting, and I saw it work for myself. You know Alex the best and what will work.
Good luck!

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Sorry to hear, I have a hair puller here

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Posted by sweetness

Here's the link

Age Appropriate Disciplining Techniques



Here's an exerpt up to 3 years old

Age-Appropriate Discipline Techniques
The disciplining techniques parents use should be based on age-appropriate expectations. For example, explaining to a 13-month-old why she is being punished for hitting her sibling isn't going to get you very far if she can't yet understand reasoning. Using guidelines outlined by the American Academy of Family Physicians, Dr. Phil suggests the following discipline techniques and when they are effective to use.


Positive Reinforcement
Focusing on good behavior instead of bad behavior. Parental attention is one of the most powerful forms of positive reinforcement.


Redirecting
This technique literally involves the simple act of redirecting your child to appropriate behavior.


Verbal Instruction/Explanation
Going over what you want your child to do and why can help him/her develop good judgment.


Time-outs
Time-outs involve physically removing your child from a problem situation. Sending your child to a neutral and "boring" area, such as the corner of a room with no toys or television, and ignoring him/her until he/she is calm and quiet. Time-outs should not last longer than five minutes. One minute of time-out per year of life is a good rule of thumb.


Establishing Rules
Explain your rules and be prepared to repeat them until your child learns to follow them on his/her own.


Grounding
A technique effective with school-age children and teenagers, it involves restricting your child to a certain place, usually home or his/her room, as punishment. For example, "grounding" your child on a Saturday night as punishment for breaking curfew on Friday night.


Withholding Privileges
Children should learn that privileges come with responsibility and they need to be earned. In order to be effective, this technique should be used infrequently. A privilege that is valued by the child, such as watching television or playing with friends, should be removed.

Birth to 18 Months

Effective:

Positive Reinforcement

Redirecting

Ineffective:

Verbal Instruction/Explanation

Time-outs

Establishing Rules

Grounding

Withholding Privileges

18 Months to 3 Years

Effective:

Positive Reinforcement

Redirecting

Verbal Instruction/Explanation

Time-outs

Ineffective:

Establishment of Rules

Grounding

Withholding Privileges



I have seen friends and family of mine try to do timeouts, and rationalize and explain things to a 1 year old, and it really doesn't work, they don't get it just yet.

And on the opposite end, a friend of mine redirected and used pos reinforcement, her toddler was biting and hitting, and I saw it work for myself. You know Alex the best and what will work.
Good luck!

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I totally think time and consistency is KEY!

Gianna has already at 7.5 months old been hitting, pinching and biting=thank god no teeth yet.

We have already started redirecting, and pos reinforcement, she def doesn't pinch as much, oh boy that kung foo grip hurts, i totally believe in age appropriate disciplines so sooner or later they will "get" it. We do it in a gentle way, i would never raise my voice or say it sternly, cause that at 7.5 months she doesn't understand yet.

The biting we are battling now, cause i know my mom/dad/dh think it's cute that she lunges for shoulders and arms with mouth open, ya cute now cause no teeth! But they do learn right from wrong sooner or later, they just need boundaries and consistency.

At least that's what i believe.

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good advice....my husband swears he can reason with him


DS almost bit my finger off when I was brushing his teeth.

He usually bites me when his teeth hurt.

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Mi doctor told me not to say No, because they get a reaction from mommy and think that is funny. She said to put him on the floor if he bites me and ignore him.

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