Spin off: kids teasing others

When you were a kid, was there ever anyone that YOU teased and now feel badly about it?

I ask because a girl that EVERYONE teased mercilessly is on FB, and someone "friend suggested" her to me. I feel SO badly about the way she was treated that I am almost embarrassed to "friend" her
Id love to apologize to her, but do not want to dredge up bad memories. Not that I teased her, but my friends did, and standing near them while they did it makes me guilty by association.

A girl who TERRORIZED me throughout our ENTIRE school careers (2nd grade through senior year of high school) sent me a friend request, and I just ignored it because it still hurts to remember the things she did to me. I was scared to go to school so many days because of her

Message edited 1/27/2010 9:12:46 PM.

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As a "kid" no--I was chubby and I was teased sometimes, not terribly--well to someone else it may been terrible but luckily my parents gave me such an inflated sense of self it didn't bother me all that much

In HS I didn't really "tease" anyone--but I told people off (if they were jerks) and was somewhat of a big mouth...I grew out of that a lot--learned to let things roll off my back more or mind my business

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Well, I was teased as a young kid for the color of my skin, but it wasn't so much so that I can even think of anyone who did it. I just remember being teased. As I got older, I didn't tease people, but I had a major wall up and was really shy but came off as a biotch instead and since then, I have made amends with quite a few people that I purposely was nasty to for one reason or another. I felt like it was important because I genuinely felt badly. I was just extremely shy and guarded and it came off as me being defensive and bitchy instead.

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I don't think I ever did. But A girl who used to tease me about stains on my teeth (she used to call my house and yell brush your teeth and then hang up, I would hit *69 and her # would come up) just recently friended me. I hit ignore. I was kinda shocked she would even request me!

Had she sent a message with the request I might have forgiven her, but she still would not have been added as a friend.

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I don't recall teasing or bullying anyone. It just wasn't my nature or maybe it's because I was teased and bullied (from jr high to HS.) And I can't say the people I hung out with teased/bullied classmates either. (Or maybe I'm blocking things out and living in denial. )

Although I do have to say as someone who was teased and physically bullied, the best revenge is living well.

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I was a teaser and a teasee.

I don't think I was really mean. A teaser yes, but downright mean, no.

Case in point - friend 1 (FB friend one) - we'd walk through a school yard to get to the stores and every time we walked through the fence I'd say "Hey Jane, you have to go home, it says no dogs allowed! Hahahahahaha." She'd get all ****** and then we'd go to Cheap John's.

I was not 'teased' per se but in MS I was always afraid that this one girl was gonna kick my asss. I think she even slapped me once.

I kind of just rolled with it and tried to stay out of her way.

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I never teased. I was teased a couple of times in Jr HS but it did not affect me at all.

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I didn't tease. I was the fat kid. I got teased.

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I never teased anyone. From 4th grade to 12th, my locker was next to a girl that had a learning disability and she was teased mercilessly. I stuck up for her and befriended her. I could never imagine what joy someone would get out of making fun of someone.

There was a mean boy on the other side of my locker that would just harp into her until she cried. I yelled at him a few times during school but if I ever saw him again, I'd give him a piece of my mind. He was the elementary school's principal's son too!

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I was shy and got teased in elementary school. I believe it was mostly because I didn't fight back much. I really was not teased much by the time we got to Jr. High and not at all in HS. The one person I mentioned in my prior post was the one who just would not let it go . As we got older, his own friends didn't even stand behind him in teasing me.

There was one girl who was teased mercilessly in school and it had to have some major long term effects on her. I can still picture her looking over her shoulder everywhere she went. I think I teased her once or twice but most of the time I was pretty nice to her as her locker was right near mine.

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i never teased anyone, i was the one being teased. one of the biggest bullies fb friended me too. i ignored it. she sent a second one. i ignored it. she sent a THIRD request and i blocked her!! i accepted a friend request from someone who mildly teased me. but later i unfriended him.

being teased really affected me in the long term. I'm not nearly as "affected" as i was, but I still cringe and have no idea how to respond when someone's mean to me, and I have some minor social anxieties and phobias.

Mrs. Riviera - good for you!!!!!! that is so awesome!

ETA: If someone who bullied me apologized it really wouldn't make much of a difference to me today. But, that is just me. Others might find peace with an apology.

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I was quiet and didn't stick up for myself so I was an easy target. I was a daydreamer and never felt part of the class. I grew up in an alcoholic home and didn't want anyone coming to my house. (Although I desperately wanted to feel comfortable in school and have many friends.)

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I never teased anyone. I was teased at various times in my life, mostly because I was smart, quiet, and an easy target. I never was interested in becoming friends with the "popular" girls in elementary school, and jr. high, and I don't think they liked that. Looking back, I probably gave off the impression that I thought I was better than them, because I wanted nothing to do with them.

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I was never really teased, except by this one kid in elementary school. By the time we got to Jr. High, he became the one that everyone teased. I'll never forget, one day he was walking across the courtyard carrying a huge stack of books and papers, and someone tackled him at the knees. All the books and papers went flying. To this day I still smile when I think about that...what goes around comes around!

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No, I was never the teaser - always the teased. I blame my fourth grade teacher for that. I had a learning disability and had to leave class for special instruction 2 hours a day, and when I came back to the classroom, she would ridicule me in front of everyone else about my "special" instruction, and how I was missing out on everything they were doing during those two hours

I was bullied unrelentlessy in high school - a group of boys poured macaroni salad all over my car, and actually peed on it What I find to be SO bizarre, is that the ringleader tried to friend me on facebook a few months ago. Needless to say... I ignored it.

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I was teased mercilessly. I had glasses, was smart, had foreign parents, was extremely tall and very sensitive, so I cried at the drop of a hat. Talk about a nightmare combination. It made for rough school days.

But you know what, it all contributed to the person I am now. And since I'm happy with the person I am now, it doesn't really matter. Do I want that for my own kid, no. But I'll give her good coping skills (hopefully) if it doesn't. I have even started now.

And funny- I ran into one fo the guys who teased me when I graduated college at a LI bar- and he asked for my number. I was very happy to blow him off.

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i think i made fun of some kid once when in Jr. high but outside of that i was the one being punished in High School. That is what you get when your a "freak"

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In 6th grade there were these 3 girls out of nowhere near the end of the school year that were so mean to me for no reason. I am still very bitter and would love to tell all 3 of them where to shove it. Sorry to be so brutual- but they were really mean to me. It made me a stronger person and I am more outgoing for it. I heard the girl who was the ring leader is still so mean and no one really likes her. Ha ha- on her , but on the mature side of things she needs therapy. Sorry, I am still bitter.
ETA- I never teased anyone.

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I never did the teasing, I was the one who was teased.

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yea in middle school- my girlfiriends used to tease this girl danah- she was a little different- I joined in a couple times

then karma kicked me in the behind and those same girls turned on me... when it happened, I apologized to danah and we actually have been lifelong friends every since.

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I wasn't teased nor did a Itease, but I did have a big fight with my BF in 5th grade and I still get upset thinking about it. I have seen her on FB, but haven't done anything about it.

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I never teased when I was a kid, I was always empathetic to other people's feelings and would have felt terrible if I was the cause of someone feeling bad about themselves.

I was actually never teased as well.