spin-off to my own post-Hardcore Seperation anxiety in 10 mnth old. ( long )

As I mentioned in my sleeping post, Chloe is like nothing I have ever seen.

Noah was bad, REAL bad , this is just ridiculous, there are no words.

Some of you have seen her in action and know what I mean.

She clings to me, I will sit often and play with them during the day, she will crawl literally into my lap and let our this primal screech till she pulls herself to me, and presses her face against mine..and she will STAY there....

If I get up to go to the bathroom, she has a hysterical fit, she will scream, lay her head on the floor and SOB...Like a full grown sob.

She doesnt crawl..she scoots, and she will scoot all over the house following me where ever I walk.

If I''m holding Sydney she screeches. If I'm playing with both of them, and Sydney comes to hug me etc, she will crawl over and push her out of the way, scream at her.

When we go somewhere, she sometimes literally shakes she gets so nervous...will calm down, but we have to hold her, or she has to be sitting on top of me , pressing against my face.

It's almost funny, Iw ill put her in the walker while I clean etc and she follows me at warp speed.

SOOO...I have been trying to do things like leave the room, come back and praise her, hug her when I get back but ignore the screams/screeches.

There has to be more I can do right?

This started a few months ago, so if its a phase, its a long one!

I FINALLY got my son to handle things better and I'm starting all over again.

I'm torn in 3 directions all day long , and its really wearing me OUT.

Thanks for reading, I finally had a chance to write these posts out and am looking for any advice.

Re: spin-off to my own post-Hardcore Seperation anxiety in 10 mnth old. ( long )

First off...

Jacen was incredibly attached as a baby. It was BAD. If i even moved one foot away from him, he was hysterical. Forget peeing. There were a few times i peed while he was on my lap. no joke.

Unfortunately nothing i did mattered. It took a long long time before he was actually okay with me going anywhere. So i don't really have advice for you. But hang in there. I know it's especially hard for you with 3 (i was losing my mind with the 1), but it is temporary... even if it is a very long phase.

Re: spin-off to my own post-Hardcore Seperation anxiety in 10 mnth old. ( long )

Don't have any advice but wanted to send you some

Sounds like you are doing everything you can think of, I hope it gets better soon.

Re: spin-off to my own post-Hardcore Seperation anxiety in 10 mnth old. ( long )

DD went through a very bad bout of it about a month ago. Same type of thing, constantly came to sit in my lap, I couldn't go anywhere, she literally wouldn't play with any of her toys because all she was worried about was making sure I was right next to her. I was losing my mind, so I did some research on it and all I came up with was its a phase and to give them as much attention as they are looking for because thats what helps them get past it. At first I thought I shouldn't be giving in to it because that would spoil her, but I came to realize (at least with dd) it didn't work like that. I don't know how that would really help you with an older child and a twin that obviously both need you too. I did notice that it really worked for me though, the more attention I gave her it seemed like the less she needed. If she was particularly clingy I would put her on my backpack carrier if I NEEDED to get things done. Like I said I know my advice prob doesn't help when there are other children in the mix but basically giving her the most attention that I humanly could helped dramatically. A month later it is sooo much better... good luck

Re: spin-off to my own post-Hardcore Seperation anxiety in 10 mnth old. ( long )