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MrsJ
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Kathy
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Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
I told DH that I would like at least 2-3 days to ourselves after we get home from the hospital with the baby. He agreed but we know its going to be a fight with his family.
What did you all do?
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Posted 1/27/06 1:59 PM  |
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btrflygrl
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
we came home on a fri, my parents came in from ny an sat, dh sis ans her family were here on sun as well as friends. we also had friends over sun night
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:02 PM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
Message edited 12/16/2011 6:27:59 PM.
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:03 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
Lock your door
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:07 PM |
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my3bugs
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
The first day we came home with the baby (he didn't come home until about 4-5 days after birth) - we had the day to ourselves per our suggestion After that we had one day with each family. Pretty much every weekend after that someone stopped by to visit.
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:12 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
I would just speak your mind and tell people you need some time to adjust and would love visitors after a few days of being home. Too bad if they don't like it. Its your baby and your family.
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:12 PM |
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iffer042373
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
Well at the time I gave bibrth my brother was living with me so he was there and my parents came from PA when I was in the hospital with my youngest brother and they were staying at my house which I didn't mind at all I loed the company my Inlaws all came here and there my appartment was like a revolving door and I liked the company I guessI am weird
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:15 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
Posted by monkeybride
I would just speak your mind and tell people you need some time to adjust and would love visitors after a few days of being home. Too bad if they don't like it. Its your baby and your family.
Thats what I said to my family and friends, and if they didnt like it well...I really didnt care, I called everyone when DH and I were ready to have people over. I had my mom and dad and my MIL and FIL over like the 2nd day she came home but that was it. 
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:20 PM |
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paulandles912
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
No one came over to our house after we took Andrew home. I almost wished they did b/c DH went back to work and I felt helpless and overwhelmed. My parents came over the following weekend and then here and there when I would freak out and need adult company.
Inlaws, BIL and my brother didn't visit for a good month...
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:25 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
I told everyone flat out... we wanna be alone the 1st week since DH wasnt working....we wanted some private time, and since DH would be returning to work...we didnt feel he should share it...
I def think some alone time, to be a family is very important!
Although certain people werent happy  everyone else understood!
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| Posted 1/27/06 2:40 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
Posted by melijane
Lock your door
You laugh but it's true - you should!!
And don't answer the phone.
Still might not help. We did this as well as letting (we thought) everyone know that we wanted the first week with no visitors. Nevertheless, my cousin (was my MOH) showed up the day we got home with the hospital at almost 10pm at night after getting tired of calling every phone we had and us not answering. She showed up just as I had taken my pain meds and had gotten into bed (not as easy as it sounds with a c/s). I was piiiiissssssed. The next day my aunt showed up unannounced with the best of intentions but brought over her elementary school aged CHILD! I cannot begin to explain how p!ssed I was.
Suffice it to say, you should make it VERY clear to family and friend that YOU will let them know when it's time. Don't worry about hurting anyone's feelings - this YOUR baby, you are a new mom and you have no idea how you will be feeling and adjusting or how your baby will be.
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| Posted 1/27/06 3:24 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
We've mentioned it in passing already that we dont want any company for at least 2 days - preferably 3 days. But I think reiterating that fact every so often will be necessary.
Friends I know will understand. I know my parents and sister will be fine with it. My one SIL will probably be OK with but the rest of my inlaws - they have a habbit of just showing up to begin with. I'm going to be so mad if they do that after we've asked them to give us just a couple of days alone.
I'll pray its better than I think it's going to be!
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| Posted 1/27/06 4:00 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
My mom and ILs came by for a few hours the day we got home. To be honest, it was fine. I was really excited to have her home, but still recovering from delivery and it was nice to have my mom there to help out while I was moving so slowly. My ILs were afraid to pick her up, DH and his brother were both over 10lbs when they were born so they were intimidated by how little she was. I find that now that she's older and so attached to us I am much more fiercly protective of our time together as a family than I was when she was so small and didn't really understand who we were.
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| Posted 1/27/06 4:16 PM |
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MrsJ
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Kathy
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
I wouldnt mind my sister or my Dad there honetly. But I dont want my inlaws there - they make me crazy to begin with. I know it would just be a bad thing for them to be there as soon as I get home.
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| Posted 1/27/06 4:52 PM |
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Corinne
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
we came home on a saturday at 2pm, my inlaws and my folks along with siblings came over at 5pm that day, sunday was quiet but the rest of the week i had visitors here and there. you dictate when you want people there. ive gotten into a routine fairly quick and welcome guests as dh has me staying home its good to get human interaction plus my family is so excited so im happy for them to come over.
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| Posted 1/28/06 2:42 AM |
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momAGAIN
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
when i had my daughter i came home to a full house...i really didnt mind all that much everyone wanted to see hear and then we ordered food and after we ate everybody left , we had alone time at night before bed
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| Posted 1/28/06 5:09 PM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
I know that our families are going to be by to see the baby - since its the first grandchild on both sides, i know they are super excited - but at the same time i think they will respect how we feel and understand that the first couple of days will be especially tiring and an adjustment for us. Im actually looking forward to having them around as support - i just hope that im feeling well enough after the delivery to deal with it all.
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| Posted 1/28/06 11:26 PM |
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Eireann
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Re: Spinoff: Having people over after you have the baby
Posted by Corinne
we came home on a saturday at 2pm, my inlaws and my folks along with siblings came over at 5pm that day, sunday was quiet but the rest of the week i had visitors here and there. you dictate when you want people there. ive gotten into a routine fairly quick and welcome guests as dh has me staying home its good to get human interaction plus my family is so excited so im happy for them to come over.
This was almost exactly me. I knew I definitely didn't want anyone over the first time we walked in the house, but I was glad to see everyone and for the interaction during the first week especially. So, I wouldn't make any announcements until you know how you feel; you may change your mind from now till then. Just tell people to please call ahead.
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| Posted 1/29/06 8:31 AM |
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