spinoff to how many kids you will have post - what if you and DH have your minds set on different numbers?

How do you handle that?
What about if you have different ideas about the timing of the pregnancies (how far apart your kids will be in age)?
If you want more and DH doesn't, or vice versa, is it a major issue in your relationship?

Re: spinoff to how many kids you will have post - what if you and DH have your minds set on different numbers?

It is not a major issue for us but I'm hoping DH will want a 3rd within the next 2, 3, years. If not, no biggie. I mean, he has to be happy in this life too ya know? Its not like we are talking about none or some. We already have 2 and that is enough for me but it would be so great to have more! He just might not be able to handle it and I am OK w/that!

Re: spinoff to how many kids you will have post - what if you and DH have your minds set on different numbers?

Mine is very done at 2.
If I were married to someone else who wanted more, I would probably go for more. I love the idea of 4.

But DH is wonderful to me. He is my love, his vote counts.
We have our 2. I pleaded my case for #2, he went for #2 because he wants me to be happy.

I will stop at #2 because I want him to be happy.

Re: spinoff to how many kids you will have post - what if you and DH have your minds set on different numbers?

DH always wanted 3, I don't want more than 2. Its not a major issue.... especially because we are 36 and want to wait a couple of years for #2.
I told him the only way he is getting 3 is if I have twins next.
DD is 4 1/2 months, and I want to enjoy her for a couple of years before trying again. I 'd like to get preggo again at 38 and have the baby at 39 and be done.

BUT we all know what we plan and what happens are two totally different things.

Re: spinoff to how many kids you will have post - what if you and DH have your minds set on different numbers?

We both really want three but we know that it will be tough. We are both exhausted with our two now!

We are both hoping that we will financially be able to have three.

If, however, one of us feels that we shouldn't- I think the other one will respect that. We'll decide in the next year.

Re: spinoff to how many kids you will have post - what if you and DH have your minds set on different numbers?

I"m done with 2. DH wants a 3rd. it's not an issue right now bc I'm still pregnant, but I fear it will become an issue in the future. he doesn't want me on BC or getting an IUD bc he can't accept that I don't want anymore.