Spinoff to showers for baby #2 ...

Just a question because I wonder why some think this...why is okay to have a second shower only if there is a large age gap?

My 2 children will be about 19 months apart. I will need things for just that fact since I'm still using stuff for #1 when #2 comes along.

I understand the thought process that with a large age gap, you might need some things but every baby needs new things. Why should moms that have babies close together not have each one of their babies celerbrated just for the fact that there isn't a huge gap in ages?

FYI...I am NOT having a second shower.

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I think it's really because people are figuring that you are "recycling" certain items that you used for a newborn, younger child that you necessarily wouldn't be using for an older child.

That's just my thought....

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My DDs were 20 months apart and I did not have a 2nd shower. I don't know...I don't think I really needed much. I did need clothes since the girls were totally different seasons, but I got a ton of clothes when DD#2 was born. I bought a 2nd monitor and a 2nd humidifier...hmmm...not much else.

I think if there's a large age gap, the older DC's stuff is probably out of date--like the carseat, for example. Also, I would think many of the larger items may have gotten thrown out through the years.

I wouldn't have minded a small luncheon or something when I was pregnant with #2, but a full shower, for me, would have been a waste.

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My thought process is, that when there is a large age gap, some items may have already been discarded, donated, or given to someone else. Plus there are new items which a mom may not have had 10 years ago.

When they are close together, you move most of the baby stuff you will need. For example by 19 months your DC will be out of the infant carrier so you have that and its not old enough to really NEED a new one, alot of the clothes you would already have, bottles, etc. Plus personally I think its a lot for people to give 2 gifts within that short of a time for 2 babies, plus I know that I also send a birth gift so thats 4 decent size gifts in what I feel is a short time.

I am not saying its right to have a second shower in one case or the other. This is just my opinion.

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Another thought -- people might feel "gift giving fatigue" if they just attended your last shower a year ago. It might seem like a bit much to be attending another shower for the same person.

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I think it's nice to have a shower for each baby. Each one is special and deserves that love and attention...even if still in the womb. JMO.

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I think it would be nice to have a celebration w/o the gifts. The Gifts are what make me not like a shower for number 2. It is not my guests responsibilty to furnish my child with what they need. It is nice that people want to give just like I want to. But I think it gets to a point when its asking for too much.
JUST MY OPINION!!!! Please don not yell at me for it.

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I had a "ladies night" for #2. My children are 2 and 1/2 years apart and different sexs.

It was just some close friends at a local resturant and the theme was "girly"

I got gifts such as dolls, some cute gymbo outfits, blankets, decorations for her room.

I would never expect anyone to buy any big items for #2 especially if #1 is close in age even if they are irish twins your second would be out of it's infant seat, boucy seat, exersaucer, bumbo, swing... etc by time #2 is born. In my case a crib also since my son was out of his crib at 14 months and well if they were closer in age #2 could sleep in a pack n play for a few months.

I think there should be something special for each pregnancy/baby but some people allow it to get out of hand.

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I honestly wouldn't want a shower for #2 so I don't have to write thank you notes! I'm so overwhelmed right now.

I t hink we will need girl clothes, a crib (mine will be 16 months apart) and another humidifier.

She will use Matty's bouncy, play mat, car seat, etc.

the double stroller we are getting as a present for Christmas.

I think its a nice idea to have a second shower- I'm just too tired to deal with it!

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Posted by DmarieK

I think it's nice to have a shower for each baby. Each one is special and deserves that love and attention...even if still in the womb. JMO.

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Posted by MelToddJulia

Posted by DmarieK

I think it's nice to have a shower for each baby. Each one is special and deserves that love and attention...even if still in the womb. JMO.

ITA! Not sure if I'm going to have one though since were not finding out the sex, so I don't need any clothers (hate green and yellow), and I'm using some stuff that I got when I was preggo with Julia, like the swing and excersaucer. If I have another shower, I will be very happy, but I'm not going to ask for one.

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I think EVERY baby should be celebrated and I DO NOT understand the whole shower only for the 1st baby thing

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