Spinoff to taking food home and being rude

Did you ever bring something to someone's house and them actually "get rid of it" when there was still more left?

Either it being by FORCING it upon other guests to take home or throwing it in the garbage?

My mil ALWAYS does this to me and I'm starting to get very insulted, it makes me not want to waste hours and hours cooking and baking when she clearly doesn't appreciate it.

For Xmas I brought over Oreo stuffed choc chip cookies and oreo truffles, both of which I spent alot of time on and at the end there were a decent amount left so she bagged it all up and said she was sending it to bil's fire house bc she didn't want it.

She didn't even offer it to any of the guests to take home or ask me if I wanted some back, just bagged it up and said she was "getting rid of it".

I really can't stand her sometimes

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I probably would be a little insulted if the host threw it out but not so much if they bagged it up and gave it out to other guests. I know that when we have people over for dinner, we tend to have soooo many leftover desserts and to avoid eating it all myself and getting fat, I will try to divide it up amongst the guests.

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I am guessing there are other issues with her?

Sorry, but when I host, the first thing that I do is bag up the desserts and send them with hubby to work. The last thing I need is extra dessert starting at me when I am home all day.

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Yes she is very rude at times and has horrible etiquette. I'm insulted that she wouldn't offer it to the other family members first instead of throwing it away or giving it to strangers.
Made me feel like I brought cr*p over

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I don't want all the desserts around, so I will divide. Whatever is leftover goes to work.

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If it's something I don't want in the house, like dessert, I usually try to get whoever brought it to bring it home. And then if they don't want it, I will try and give some out to other guests to take home. Whatever is left we keep. I wouldn't be insulted if the host gave away the dish I brought but I would be upset if they threw it out in front of me. That's just rude.

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My mom does this but it's because she doesn't want the extra in her house since she'll eat it & my dad is a diabetic. With both my husband & I being overweight, I completely understand that.

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I think her phrasing is what bothered me most. She could have offered it to you or other guests, but she also could have said "this is too tempting for me to keep in the house, but the boys at the firehouse will love it"... "get rid of it" is totally insulting.

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Wow. That's rude. I would not bring anything to her home ever again. She is def being a BIOTCH IMO to do this and say all that, to your face.

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Everyone knows I don't like to keep desserts in the house. Too easy for me to take advantage of. So whenever I host, I'll dish out what I can for people in doggie bags. If people refuse I blatantly tell them "then it going in the trash because I can't have it here!". At that point they'll either take it or tell me to trash it.

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Right there with everyone else. Offer it to guests first, ask if you would like to take it home and only THEN send it to work or to someone else not there at the party.

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I wouldn't mind if she sent it home with someone else or even sent it to work. I think if she were to throw out food then I would be upset. If she did not want it and and already offered it to people to take hom and no one else wanted to take anything then throw it out after you leave.