Spiteful peeing (I wish this was a joke).

So, Ava's been potty trained for a long time. She never has accidents, especially not a pee accident. That hasn't happened in almost a year. In the last two days, she has peed on the floor deliberately. First, she was mad at me because I told her no to something, so she walked into the bathroom and peed on the floor in front of the toilet. She laughed about it and told me she did it because she was mad at me. I told her she had to help me clean it up and that I was very upset that she would do anything like that. I didn't give her a time out because I thought it could have possibly been an accident. Then tonight as I was cooking dinner, she was whining and whining and crying and fitting because she wanted me to pick her up, but I was cooking so I said no. So, she peed all over the floor again. I said, "Why would you peed on the floor? Ava, you know when to use the bathroom!" And she just laughed again and said in a mocking tone, "Whaaat? It was just an aaaaaaccccident." With her little halo over head like she hadn't just been screaming at me. I know she's doing this on purpose, I just don't know how to handle it. Has anyone else experienced this and what have you done about it?

Re: Spiteful peeing (I wish this was a joke).

I am thinking she wants a good reaction from you. She might want some control by angering you to get back at you. I would stay calm. Dont make a huge issue and tell her if she does this again her (favorite toy) will have to go in time out for a day. Or if she is over two then calmly put her in time out . then I would not bring up the incident again unless it happens again. I am not an expert but I tend to think she is doing this to get you upset and if you let it she will win and do it more.

Re: Spiteful peeing (I wish this was a joke).

She's doing it to get you upset. You could do one of two things. Don't say a word when she does it, and when she sees that she won't get a rise out of you, she'll stop. Or, punish her, since you KNOW she is doing it on purpose. Take away a toy, or favorite activity for her.

Re: Spiteful peeing (I wish this was a joke).

Thanks She's three and she knows better. I think you're both right. She's trying to get a reaction out of me, and I need to just react as little as possible. I'll try doing that and if it doesn't work, I'll put her in time out. Ugg. This is a kid that I never really had many problems with and now, she's a nightmare. During dinner, she smeared her food all over the table and up her arms and on her face. This is not something she has EVER done. Ever. I'm just so fed up with her

Re: Spiteful peeing (I wish this was a joke).

Posted by lehcar

Thanks She's three and she knows better. I think you're both right. She's trying to get a reaction out of me, and I need to just react as little as possible. I'll try doing that and if it doesn't work, I'll put her in time out. Ugg. This is a kid that I never really had many problems with and now, she's a nightmare. During dinner, she smeared her food all over the table and up her arms and on her face. This is not something she has EVER done. Ever. I'm just so fed up with her

Re: Spiteful peeing (I wish this was a joke).

hannah has been doing the same thing. she says "i am so mad at you i'm gonna pee in my pants". and then she does it. its all about control for her. i make sure i give her alot of perceived choices. like when she gets dressed in the morning i give her a choice of 2 different outfits. or same thing with sippy cups or jackets or where to sit for dinner. i also throw in the "this is what mommy says so too bad" scenario.

i try to think of different ways of saying no to her, without actually saying "no"

Message edited 6/21/2009 12:53:15 AM.

Re: Spiteful peeing (I wish this was a joke).

my friend's daughter does this if she's wearing something she doesn't like