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pumpkinpye517
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spoiling a newborn?
Maybe this is a controversial topic, but when your newborn is crying and its not ready for a feeding, no wet/poop diaper and simply nothing needs to be done, is it spoiling your baby if you just pick them up to hold them and rock them? Or is it better to put them in a bouncie seat, swing etc?
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
You cannot spoil a newborn. How old is DC?
NB are trying to "adapt" to our World. They need all the comfort and reassurance they can get that we are here for them.
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eroxgirl
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
You can't spoil a newborn. Sometimes they just need to be held.
They spend 9 months in a warm, dark and closed in space and all of a sudden there's light and noise and cold. They need comfort.
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| Posted 6/18/08 6:03 PM |
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julybride0706
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
agreed with above posts. i still pick my ds up as soon as he cries and he's 5 months.
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| Posted 6/18/08 6:17 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
can't be done
newborns are learning trust and the only way they can trust you is be being held and coddled......I think I heard separation anxiety doesn't begin until about 6 months.....
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| Posted 6/18/08 6:27 PM |
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
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| Posted 6/18/08 6:36 PM |
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tabrtm
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
My baby is 2 months old and I pick him up when he cries.
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
if your DC is crying then by all means pick him/her up...i still pick up DD when she cries (shes 5.5 months)...she very very rarely does so i know something is bugging her then.
enjoy the cuddling it dosent last forever!
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| Posted 6/18/08 6:47 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
With a newborn you are supposed to pick them up, they crave your warmth and your body.
There is NO such thing as spoiling a newborn.
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Heather617
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
Posted by KateDevine
With a newborn you are supposed to pick them up, they crave your warmth and your body.
There is NO such thing as spoiling a newborn.
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pumpkinpye517
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
Ok, just as I thought. The second my DD cries, I attend to her needs and pick her up and rock her, sing to her etc.. I was arguing this with someone and I was saying how you simply can not spoil a newborn and my DD is only 6 days old!! I was just seeing everyone's responses to make sure that Im doing the right thing here and NOT spoiling my 6 day old baby. Thanks for the replies and I will continue to pick her up when she cries no matter what!
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mdt618
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
Thats what I always thought but whenever DD cries, I keep hearing it constantly from family members )parents and in-laws especially) that she's spoiled because I pick her up too much Its so frustrating!
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pumpkinpye517
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
Posted by mdt618
Thats what I always thought but whenever DD cries, I keep hearing it constantly from family members )parents and in-laws especially) that she's spoiled because I pick her up too much Its so frustrating!
YES!!! I hear this from my MIL.. she says how DD is smart and knows how to get us to pick her up.. at 6 days old I find this very hard to believe. You cant spoil a newborn, my pediatrician told me while my DH and MIL were in the room with us at her appt. that when she cries, she does need to be picked up. MIL seemed to disgree with that and so did DH it seemed. UGH! I still will continue to care for my baby and give her the love and attention she needs.
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dpli
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
Posted by pumpkinpye517
Posted by mdt618
Thats what I always thought but whenever DD cries, I keep hearing it constantly from family members )parents and in-laws especially) that she's spoiled because I pick her up too much Its so frustrating!
YES!!! I hear this from my MIL.. she says how DD is smart and knows how to get us to pick her up.. at 6 days old I find this very hard to believe. You cant spoil a newborn, my pediatrician told me while my DH and MIL were in the room with us at her appt. that when she cries, she does need to be picked up. MIL seemed to disgree with that and so did DH it seemed. UGH! I still will continue to care for my baby and give her the love and attention she needs.
Keep picking her up, she will learn to trust you and feel secure. If other people don't want that bond with the baby, they don't have to pick her up 
It would be good if you could get DH on board with this, though. It would make your life easier if you could take turns comforting her when she cries. 
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pumpkinpye517
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
Posted by dpli
Posted by pumpkinpye517
Posted by mdt618
Thats what I always thought but whenever DD cries, I keep hearing it constantly from family members )parents and in-laws especially) that she's spoiled because I pick her up too much Its so frustrating!
YES!!! I hear this from my MIL.. she says how DD is smart and knows how to get us to pick her up.. at 6 days old I find this very hard to believe. You cant spoil a newborn, my pediatrician told me while my DH and MIL were in the room with us at her appt. that when she cries, she does need to be picked up. MIL seemed to disgree with that and so did DH it seemed. UGH! I still will continue to care for my baby and give her the love and attention she needs.
Keep picking her up, she will learn to trust you and feel secure. If other people don't want that bond with the baby, they don't have to pick her up
It would be good if you could get DH on board with this, though. It would make your life easier if you could take turns comforting her when she cries.
Yes, DH isnt as bad as MIL.. he just isnt sure because he hears so many things. I told him we can put her in her swing and bouncie seat too but we still need to hold her and bond with her as well and not just during a feeding. Its all new for the both of us being first time parents. I thank everyone for their input and responses!
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
Posted by pumpkinpye517
Posted by dpli
Posted by pumpkinpye517
Posted by mdt618
Thats what I always thought but whenever DD cries, I keep hearing it constantly from family members )parents and in-laws especially) that she's spoiled because I pick her up too much Its so frustrating!
YES!!! I hear this from my MIL.. she says how DD is smart and knows how to get us to pick her up.. at 6 days old I find this very hard to believe. You cant spoil a newborn, my pediatrician told me while my DH and MIL were in the room with us at her appt. that when she cries, she does need to be picked up. MIL seemed to disgree with that and so did DH it seemed. UGH! I still will continue to care for my baby and give her the love and attention she needs.
Keep picking her up, she will learn to trust you and feel secure. If other people don't want that bond with the baby, they don't have to pick her up
It would be good if you could get DH on board with this, though. It would make your life easier if you could take turns comforting her when she cries.
Yes, DH isnt as bad as MIL.. he just isnt sure because he hears so many things. I told him we can put her in her swing and bouncie seat too but we still need to hold her and bond with her as well and not just during a feeding. Its all new for the both of us being first time parents. I thank everyone for their input and responses!
It is definitely a mother in law thing. DS was one week old and she said I was spoiling him by holding him and bouncing him when he cried.
Ignore her and hold your baby all you can. They grow so fast.
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monkeybride
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
I held my DD 24/7 for a loooong time. IMO you cannot spoil a newborn.
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FelAndJon
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
DS is 21 months old. Even still, if he is crying, it is ALWAYS for a reason (he is not a "cry baby") so I pick him up/cuddle him.
Granted, I let him CIO for naps, that is different.
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Goldi0218
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
I anticipate "spoiling" comments from particular family members. Too bad about em.
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yankinmanc
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
You can not spoil a newborn, they need to feel secure. If your baby is crying pick them up and give them a nice long cuddle.
They aren't babies for very long, enjoy all the cuddling you can!!!
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
You can't spoil a newborn. Sometimes they just need to be held
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
You can not spoil a newborn. If a newborn is crying I think it is better to pick them up and give them physical contact that putting them in their swing. If holding them does not calm them down then I would try the swing. Actually if you respond to the cries of a newborn all the time then later on they will have more confidence that you are there for them and cry less. It gives them security when they see we respond to them when they need us. I always responded right away to my DS when he cried and eventually he cried less. After awhile he stopped crying in the morning when he first woke up and eventually stopped crying for his bottle through out the day.
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Re: spoiling a newborn?
I asked so many questions about this when Cailen was born - and it really is true what they say - the more you hold them when they cry, and attend to their needs, the happier and more independent they are when they are older. At 8 weeks old his daycare teacher was raving about how good he is, and how he was so happy and content - I think it had a lot to do with me always holding him!
ETA - my grandma and stepmom always made comments about me holding him - i didn't care. DH also - I knew my time with him was limited and I wanted to be near him.
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