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eddiesmommy
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SPR - need advice for work tomorrow
Its just me and my boss on my "team" at work and last weekend her mother passed away. So needless to say she was out all last week. My boss and I are really close, only bc we used to be just co-workers, then I was laid off and she got me my new job and we kept in close touch for a few years, until July when she asked me to come back to work for her, and I did.
So I went to the wake on Monday, but tomorrow she is back at work. Im really bad at these things and dont know what to say to her. I dont want to be all awkward, but I dont want to be impersonal either bc we are fairly close for people who are boss/employee. Im just really bad at this kind of thing.
What should I say when I see her in the morning? Im sure shell cry at some point during the day. She cried a lot when her mom was sick before she passed away. I wanted to say something supportive to her then, and always sounded cliche and insincere. Not bc I wanted to be but again bc Im SO BAD at this kind of thing. WWYD?
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Posted 10/4/09 9:31 PM  |
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Re: SPR - need advice for work tomorrow
honestly - i'd just tell her that you are there for her if she needs anything.
if you feel you come across weird or cliche - maybe get a card and write inside of it that you will be there for her if she needs anything, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen...etc.
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| Posted 10/4/09 9:34 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: SPR - need advice for work tomorrow
As someone whose already lost their mom...I would just say "Im so sorry about Mom. How are you holding up? if theres anything I can do for you, plse let me know"
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| Posted 10/4/09 9:35 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: SPR - need advice for work tomorrow
I would just play it by ear in the morning, let her know you are there for her, but let her set the tone
Maybe bring coffee or munchkins or something to break the ice?
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| Posted 10/4/09 9:36 PM |
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Celt
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Re: SPR - need advice for work tomorrow
You know I really think you should just go with your gut on this one; you sound very sincere in wanting to be helpful so why not just honestly ask her "and how are YOU doing?" and let her cry/vent/whatever.. When my dad passed away the immediate days afterward are so filled with required activities that you barely have time to just grieve your loss. Getting back to work is a big step for her so just tell her that whatever she needs you've got her back...
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| Posted 10/4/09 9:36 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: SPR - need advice for work tomorrow
As soon as you see her I suggest telling her how sorry you are for her loss and that if there is anything she needs you're there for her...whatever she needs to get done and if she needs someone to talk to.
I also suggest having a box of tissues handy
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| Posted 10/4/09 9:39 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: SPR - need advice for work tomorrow
thanks so much, ladies!
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| Posted 10/4/09 9:44 PM |
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