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dm24angel
Happiness
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Tell me That I should relax....
We have a wedding to go to tonight and DS will be with my Mom here at our place and Im freaking out with nerves about it?
WHY?
He is 4 months old and overall a good baby but sometimes he has "meltdowns" when Im not holding him. He has trouble relaxing enough to fall asleep. And if you dont catch the meltdown and control it, he will go fullblown and screams till its scary......
My mom is a worrywart and gets nervous when he cries, making the situation even worse.
I am just scared about being far away.
I need to get over this so I dont have a panic attack.
I mean its silly to feel this way.
Im not nervous leaving him with DH for hours on end.
Thanks for letting me get it out.
Message edited 10/5/2007 3:13:51 PM.
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yankinmanc
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
She raised you and you turned out all right, didn't you?
He will be fine. She can handle it, and if she needs you, you are only a phone call away.
Good Luck! Enjoy the wedding!
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:14 PM |
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dm24angel
Happiness
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Donna
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
Posted by racheeeee
She raised you and you turned out all right, didn't you?
This is totally debatable 
But seriously I guess its that she is a different person then who she was 33 years ago and not really around babis too much.
Im being ridiculous right?
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:16 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
I think the first time we all left our babies we were nervous. Nervous for them, nervous for us.
He may cry, he may not sleep, he may a huge meltdown. That's ok. It happens. He will survive this.
It sounds like you need this. It's a way of easing into having some time alone with DH.
It sounds like your mom can have some time alone to get used to babies again & to gain some confidence with him.
It also sounds like he needs it. He needs to get used to other people for all of your sakes.
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:22 PM |
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dm24angel
Happiness
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
Posted by nrthshgrl
I think the first time we all left our babies we were nervous. Nervous for them, nervous for us.
He may cry, he may not sleep, he may a huge meltdown. That's ok. It happens. He will survive this.
It sounds like you need this. It's a way of easing into having some time alone with DH.
It sounds like your mom can have some time alone to get used to babies again & to gain some confidence with him.
It also sounds like he needs it. He needs to get used to other people for all of your sakes.
very true!!!!
Ok can someone reassure me a baby cant die from crying right?
Thats all Im worried about, that he will cry and be 100% uncontrolable.
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:23 PM |
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ml110
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
if he cries, it'll be your moms problem  she'll find a way to calm him down... just like i'm sure she had to when you were his age. its a lot of trial and error.
he'll survive, and you and DH will have a great night out by yourselves, and it is great for your son to get used to being wtih other people and spend some bonding time with his grandma- there is NOTHING better than the relationship between a grandparent and grandchild now go get dressed up and enjoy the wedding
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:30 PM |
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Sweets13
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
I am sure your mom will do all she can to comfort your DS if he starts to cry.
As far as your question about a baby dying from crying too much,,,no~
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:31 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
Posted by dm24angel
Ok can someone reassure me a baby cant die from crying right?
Thats all Im worried about, that he will cry and be 100% uncontrolable.
Lily had an episode when she was about 2 months old where she was crying uncontrollably. It got so bad we brought her to the hosiptal and they ran tests to see what it was.
Turns out it was nothing and they sent her home.
The moral of the story (not to make you worried that your mom will bring your baby to the hospital for tests  ) is that Lily is FINE. She cried that day from 3pm until about 1am. And she lived. She's happy. She's healthy. And she doesn't remember a thing from that day.
The baby will be fine. Your mom will love spending time with him, and if he cries....no worries!
Go out and have a good time. You deserve it!
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:33 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
Relax. He will be FINE. The time will fly by and you will be home with him so fast!
Listen, you KNOW what a control freak I am and I have to bite my tongue all day long when Chris tells me something he did or didn't do. And now Christopher is SO happy to see my when I get home. Noah will be SO happy to see you tomorrow morning
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:50 PM |
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drewsgirl
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
i can understand how you feel..dh and i are going to mohegan tomorrow - leaving at 6 am and coming back after she goes to bed..im getting nervous and sad about not seeing her tomorrow..mil is watching her, i know she will be fine but mil never watched her for such a long time..i have to remember she had 4 boys and will prob be better then i am lol
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| Posted 10/5/07 3:59 PM |
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2kids2cats
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
It will be okay. We had a wedding when DD was 2 months old and she had a BAD witching hour. My mom held her and tried to soothe her but it was so stressful to me being away from her. But I figured so she's crying in my mom's arms and not mine. It will be okay. Enjoy yourself! Oh and I called her like 10 times.
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| Posted 10/5/07 4:06 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
Donna - Jack is SOOOOOO much better with my parents then he is for James (you know, on my big nights out to Target )
And - to make you feel much better - my father babysat Jack all by himself the other day when I had a work meeting for about 5 hours. I thought I would have a coronary! But, you know what, I came home and the two of them were chilling on the couch having the best time.
Your mom will be great - try to have a good time!!
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| Posted 10/5/07 4:38 PM |
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dm24angel
Happiness
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Re: Tell me That I should relax....
THANK YOU everyone! It wasnt bad at all and I feel so much better now about leaving him in the future!!!
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