Telling our families....w/poll

So I need some opinions...

Since this is out 3rd pg this year and since we just had that big scare on Monday, we have decided not to tell our families just yet.

we were thinking of telling our immediate families after next week's follow up but now we aren't sure...we told both immediate families right away the last 2 times and we want to make it special this time but are out of ideas...

We are having a big thanksgiving dinner with my family and his family and some aunts, uncles and cousins.

Do you think we should tell our parents after next week or do a big family announcement at thanksgiving which will be a few days shy of 12 weeks?

TIA

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Re: Telling our families....w/poll

i think if you can hold out until Thanksgiving.. that would be awesome!!

it feels like such and appropriate holiday too!! its perfect!

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Posted by MetsGirl07

i think if you can hold out until Thanksgiving.. that would be awesome!!

it feels like such and appropriate holiday too!! its perfect!

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Posted by MetsGirl07

i think if you can hold out until Thanksgiving.. that would be awesome!!

it feels like such and appropriate holiday too!! its perfect!

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I say thanksgiving!

We told my fam at a big 'thanksgiving dinner' even though it was in August!

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I say if you can wait, do it! It will make the day that much more meaningful.

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Here is my question.....If god forbid something does happen with this pregnancy, will you tell them the bad news???

We had a miscarriage, and didn't know I was even pregnant until it was almost over.

We got pregnant 2 months later, and decided to tell our immediate families right away, only because if god forbid something did happen again, we would be telling them that news also. Our motto was start with the happy and know that it may not work out.

We were also in a bit of a different position, because we did not know we were pregnant the first time, so there wasn't the build up and excitement with the crash of the bad news.

In your position, based on what I have seen from your last two, I would say wait til Thanksgiving. I could just picture it, as everyone goes around and says what they are thankful for.

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it's just so hard not telling my mom....every time i talk to her she's like "what new anything think interesting?" and i'm always just like same old, same old mom....

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Posted by MetsGirl07

i think if you can hold out until Thanksgiving.. that would be awesome!!

it feels like such and appropriate holiday too!! its perfect!

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Posted by Dee0522

I say if you can wait, do it! It will make the day that much more meaningful.

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I say wait for thanksgiving...Maybe you can say grace and say what you are thankful for and say that you are thankful you are pregnant

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Posted by LoveyQ

Posted by MetsGirl07

i think if you can hold out until Thanksgiving.. that would be awesome!!

it feels like such and appropriate holiday too!! its perfect!

I completely agree!!! It will be SOOOO special! I know it might be difficult to wait that long, but if you can, it would be great.

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I think Thanksgiving is a grea time to tell everyone.

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Posted by laura33

I say wait for thanksgiving...Maybe you can say grace and say what you are thankful for and say that you are thankful you are pregnant

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Thanksgiving is my vote too. It is closer than you think.

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Joe and I had a m/c at 10w2d after EVERYBODY knew we were pg and it was so hard on our family's. We waited until after the ultrascreen this time to tell most people, but my mom, grandparents, dad, and step-mother knew because we had to tell do to a previous engagment. I know you're excited, but to be honest I would wait until Thanksgiving. At the 12wk mark you'll also be more relaxed and it'll be a point that people will feel more excited then nervous for you. I just remember my mom, and family being terrified for those 4wks waiting for us to make it to the 2nd tri. As excited as I was I was very happy to see the looks of relief when people knew we were out of the "danger" zone after we announced it and how far along we were.

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Posted by jennarose023

Posted by QuackQuack

Here is my question.....If god forbid something does happen with this pregnancy, will you tell them the bad news???

We had a miscarriage, and didn't know I was even pregnant until it was almost over.

We got pregnant 2 months later, and decided to tell our immediate families right away, only because if god forbid something did happen again, we would be telling them that news also. Our motto was start with the happy and know that it may not work out.

We were also in a bit of a different position, because we did not know we were pregnant the first time, so there wasn't the build up and excitement with the crash of the bad news.

In your position, based on what I have seen from your last two, I would say wait til Thanksgiving. I could just picture it, as everyone goes around and says what they are thankful for.

if we have to cross that bridge then yes, we will tell them but i'm that we will only have good news this time