Telling people

I want to tell everyone. DH has been waiting. We are probably going to see his sister tomorrow. Should I follow his lead or mention it tonight??? I feel like I can't tell certain people because other more important people like his mom and sister don't know yet.

ETA: MY mom knows, there was no way I could not tell her And my sister knows. Oh, and my 2 BFs. I guess I am just waiting on him to tell more like my aunt and cousins.

Message edited 1/26/2008 10:22:56 AM.

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that's something that you should def discuss with your DH.

i know that when we found out, Brian was adamant that we not tell anyone til we passed the 12 week mark....

heck - we didn't even tell our families til about 11 weeks in....

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It is up to the two of you. We told our families right after the ultrasound at 7 weeks and gradually started telling close friends and family.

I will tell work sometime after week 13

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This was my thought on it: Some say you should wait to make sure everything is ok first, but if god forbid something was wrong or something did happen it's not like your closest friends and family would not be informed anyway. I think family and close friends can know as soon as you want to tell them. Maybe co-workers or casual friends can wait.
I went through the same thing at first because I was soooo excited the nite we found out and I wanted to call my BF and family and DH wanted to wait, but the very next day he broke down too because he wanted to call his family!

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i can't believe you guys have been able to wait this long!! we told our parents right away, our sisters when i was 5 weeks, and some friends when i was 6 1/2 weeks. we will be telling the rest of our close friends when i am 8 weeks, provided that the sono on the 31st goes well

it's definitely something you and DH need to discuss, but i know that i wanted to tell people sooner than DH did and he was receptive to my point of view.

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We told our parents and siblings right away. We also told our close, close friends. (We've all been friends for 20 years.......I could not hold out!!!) But we've decided to hold off on telling all of our extended family until towards the end of the first trimester.

I am glad we told some people, I've been SO excited..........I could not have held it in for 12 wks. And as someone else mentioned, god forbid something happens my family would know anyway so for us we were okay letting the cat out of the bag right away.

Message edited 1/26/2008 10:22:05 AM.

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We told imediate family right away. Friends and extended family at about 11 or 12 weeks and work after 13 weeks.It is a very personal decision between you and DH. Talk it over and decide together.

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I am in the school of thought to not tell a soul until our 12 week mark. We didn't and ended up miscarrying at 7 weeks. When I found out I was miscarrying, I then told my mom and my 2 sisters. So in hindsight I think we made the right choice by not telling everyone. If and when we get pregnant again I still will wait the 12 weeks.

I just want to say that just because you choose to tell or not has no bearing on the outcome of the pregnancy. It's what you are most comfortable sharing.

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My DH and I couldn't wait, we told our parents right away. It was actually the same night we tested, we were super excited!! It was kind of quick for us to have even told a soul at the time. You just basically need to do what your heart tells you. Your almost at the end of your 1st trimester so if you and your DH agree on it then why not.

Message edited 1/26/2008 9:35:51 PM.

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I'm so afraid of a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy

we're at 5 weeks, and I literally only told my mom. my first sono is at 8 weeks.... if we see a heart beat and have a relatively clean bill of health, we'll tell DH's parents the next time we see them (which will be at the beginning of week 10)..... After that, we'll feel safer...

I know there are many miscarriages between 5-10 weeks.... I just want to lay low and keep it quiet.
but I agree with everyone else... it's a very personal decision... as long as you and DH come to it together, go for it!

Message edited 1/26/2008 9:36:29 PM.

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we told family and close friends...DH couldn't stand to wait. I guess if something was to go wrong it would be nice to have them as a support system.
Everyone else we will tell around 12wks

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I told my family, some close friends, and some co workers. (unfortunately, I do not have a poker face.) DH doesn't want to tell anyone till 3 months is up - and thats ok with me. I don't mention it to any of his friends and family, but he is going to have to mention it soon, atleast to his mom!

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I told DH 4 days after I found out, told 3 friends the next day (totally unplanned), then we told our moms & siblings 3 days later. I called my close friends w/in the next few days and DH's brother told all their friends so he didn't need to say anything b/c they knew before even talking to him. It didn't bother me to tell people right away. It's a personal decision for everyone.

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