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Budjeg11
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Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
What is the general etiquette for sending "thank you" cards for expressing sympathies? Are you supposed to send a thank you card to everyone who attended the wake/funeral? Only those who sent flowers, made donations or sent mass cards? Do you need to send thank you cards to everyone who sent a sympathy card?
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SusiBee
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Re: Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
When my Mom and my MIL died, I sent TY cards to everyone who signed the book. Whoever sent mass cards or flowers or food, I added a special note.
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| Posted 1/29/16 3:12 PM |
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AliceCullen
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Re: Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
Posted by SusiBee
When my Mom and my MIL died, I sent TY cards to everyone who signed the book. Whoever sent mass cards or flowers or food, I added a special note.
I did the same. If they didn't sign the book, they probably didn't get a thank you as I didn't remember everyone who was there. I didn't send to people who sent mass cards but didn't attend the wake.
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| Posted 1/29/16 3:35 PM |
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Busymomma
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Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
I know this is the etiquette but I am so against it lol. You are going through a tragic time full of grief and sadness and you need to write thank yous??!!! I would not care if I didn't receive a thank you in the least. If someone sent a nice arrangement or food to the house or something ok - but otherwise no. Just my personal feeling on the topic!
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| Posted 1/29/16 3:39 PM |
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tourist
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Re: Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
I have received thank yous for attending (if I signed the book) or sending flowers or a mass card.
Not for a sympathy card, I don't think.
I actually don't sign the book anymore, as long as I was able to see the family member(s) I know in person, b/c I don't want to burden them them writing me a thank you.
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| Posted 1/29/16 3:41 PM |
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SusiBee
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Re: Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
Posted by Busymomma
I know this is the etiquette but I am so against it lol. You are going through a tragic time full of grief and sadness and you need to write thank yous??!!! I would not care if I didn't receive a thank you in the least. If someone sent a nice arrangement or food to the house or something ok - but otherwise no. Just my personal feeling on the topic!
The cards are pre-printed by the funeral home. All they needed was to be addressed.
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| Posted 1/29/16 4:09 PM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
I never sign the book because I don't want people to be troubled with sending me a thank you.
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| Posted 1/29/16 7:47 PM |
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Budjeg11
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Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
Thanks everyone, we had quite a number of people who donated "in lieu of flowers" at my dad's wake and we are sending thank you's to them as well as everyone who sent flower arrangements, baskets etc. There are a handful of people who attended the wake but did not do the above and some who didn't attend but sent sympathy or mass cards... I was not sure what the etiquette is for those groups. We have already sent out over 100 cards and there are dozens of people who fall in those last two camps.. just want to be done with these cards already!!
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| Posted 1/29/16 10:31 PM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
I didn't send them. To me it's not necessary and I'm the queen of thank you cards. I always feel uncomfortable when I receive one. The family needs to grieve not thank me for attending or sending something
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| Posted 1/29/16 11:12 PM |
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moonmist09
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Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
i would send them to anyone who signed the book and donated a gift or made a donation. if you didn't sign the book, you probably wouldn't get one, unless i specifically remember seeing you there
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| Posted 1/30/16 12:55 AM |
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Chai77
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Re: Thank You Cards for Attending a Wake
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
I didn't send them. To me it's not necessary and I'm the queen of thank you cards. I always feel uncomfortable when I receive one. The family needs to grieve not thank me for attending or sending something
Exactly. When my grandmother died, we didn't send thank you cards. I've actually never received one nor would I ever expect one. The family needs to grieve, not write out cards that people are going to toss the next day IMO.
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| Posted 1/30/16 7:31 AM |
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