Time out at 14 months old?

My sweet little baby is turning into a monster. Since I left my job we have been very active with playdates and classes and Landon has now learned to HIT and yell at other kids, especially the baby girls! He will just walk over and hit a baby for no reason at all.
I don't know what to do to stop this behavior. He seriously changed in a matter of a few days. He bites too, but only me for now.
He seems to young to do time outs. I don't think he would stay put.
Any advice?

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My son is a little older, but we did a time out at 18 months and he pretty much got it....I think he was more upset at our reaction (tried to bite DH) and that is why he sat - did it work? not sure, but he did sit for the time (I set the timer for 1 minute)....good luck, my little one changed from sweetie pie to monster in a matter of days too

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CONSISTENCY! DS was in TO around 1 year. He wasn't exactly walking and he was kind of scared so he didn't move. Now that he is older and walking, he tries to move a little and I just walk over and sternly say, TIME OUT.

I take away toys, binky, bottle anything else he may have. I do it on the spot - at my moms, in the store, in a parking lot. So he knows why he is getting into trouble.

We have a ranch so we just started sitting him on the floor infront of the bathroom, near the corner. So if we are out, he goes right on the floor.

There was a period where he got back-to-back-to-back (3) TO's b/c he didn't want to get dressed but once he saw mommy and daddy were on the same page and he was going back to TO - it stopped.

If you threaten it, you have to follow thru - empty threats won't work.

We give a chance or two (depending on what it is) then say you'll be in TO if I count, then we count and then that's it.

We do 1 min/year - now he gets 90 seconds (ish) - if he's just sitting chilling out, we let him go longer. If I have a huge headache, if it seems like a minute its good enough - sometime those screams go right thru ya!

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I was just talking to DH about this over the weekend. Our DD is 18 months and is such a fresh little girl, so I was thinking of trying time out to. If it works for you let me know tips, if it works for me I will let you know.lol

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I really don't know what to do. He will not stay in a corner, spot on the floor, etc. He is too young to understand. Someone in my playgroup uses a chair where her DS can't get out, but I don't want to make him afraid of his highchair at home. And what do I do when we are out?

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when you are out, pack up and leave...even if you sit in car for 5-10 minutes.

At home I would put him in either his room or mine and close the door. He hated this.

Mine has a quick hand for anyone who takes something away from him. Its annoying as hell. He is a real rule stickler, he won't take a toy from you, but you better not touch the shovel he is digging with or he attacks.

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This is a great topic. My 13 month old certainly has his moments.

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Personally, I wouldn't punish my DS this young by putting him in his room - I don't want him to associate punishment with bedtime.

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my ped suggested holding them in your lap for 1 minute. (One minute for age one, two minutes for age two - etc). Holding them on your lap removes them from playtime and also sends a message that when they behave negatively, they don't get to play.


Now if I could dish this advice out to my own girlfriend who's DD hits and pulls DS's hair, we'd be in business

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I am not at this point yet, but I was with one of my friends the other day and her daughter is 16 mo. At my house, her DD bit her because my friend wouldn't let her get to something that she wanted to touch.

My friend said to her sternly, "Do not bite Mommy!" and she picked her up and placed her in my kitchen and walked away from her. We could still see her, and only about a minute later, her DD walked over and laid in my friend's lab and touched her...almost to say she was sorry.

I thought it was a good idea because it got the message across without actually having to make her stay seated. My friend said she does this at home as well...just picks her up and puts her down somewhere visible...kind of like ignoring her.