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johnsae
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Time outs at 16.5 months?
DD is testing me all the time now. She can open all doors and she will open the bathroom door and then close it and stand in the dark and cry. Today, instead of rescuing her, I stood outside the bathroom door and listened to her cry for 1 minute and then she opened the door and walked out...once she saw me she ran back again to test me again.
She also starts to cry for no reason...just to get my attention. She has also started to throw things with force (sippy cup, toys) in frustration.
When is an appropriate time to use time out at this age, and are there any good tips that you have that work well?
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Posted 11/5/08 12:29 PM  |
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Re: Time outs at 16.5 months?
Posted by johnsae
DD is testing me all the time now. She can open all doors and she will open the bathroom door and then close it and stand in the dark and cry. Today, instead of rescuing her, I stood outside the bathroom door and listened to her cry for 1 minute and then she opened the door and walked out...once she saw me she ran back again to test me again.
She also starts to cry for no reason...just to get my attention. She has also started to throw things with force (sippy cup, toys) in frustration.
When is an appropriate time to use time out at this age, and are there any good tips that you have that work well?
I was going to post the same.DD is almost 15 mo and we are having the same problem past week or so, She started taking toys away from other kids, throwing things in frustration when I say no and going up to the TV and touching it while looking back at me b/c she knows she isn't supposed to. She is like a totally different child and I get so upset(I actually cried last night). I guess this must be the age they start testing you . I don't know where my sweet baby girl went Can't wait for the responses.
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| Posted 11/5/08 12:35 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Time outs at 16.5 months?
Hey Alicia 
For mikayla, I began using time outs at around 14 months
she will get a time out for the following "offenses"
Hitting out of anger
Willful disobedience (like when I tell her more than 2-3 times to stop doing something....I will say "once more and you are getting a time out"...of course, she will look at me and do said thing again  )
I place her with her back to the wall and leave her there for 1-1.5 minutes. Then I will go to her, pick her up, make her apologize for hitting or tell her what she did wrong. We then hug and all is forgiven. I think TO's work great. Lately, she has been pretty good, not too many time outs, maybe 2x a month
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| Posted 11/5/08 12:41 PM |
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Smileyd17
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Re: Time outs at 16.5 months?
Im trying to do timeouts but this is what I get, MOMMY, and comes chasing after me!
I also have a child who is def testing the waters big time and I refuse to let her become a child that is not well behaved.
I have to be firm and put her back in, dont I?
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| Posted 11/5/08 12:47 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Time outs at 16.5 months?
Posted by Smileyd17
I have to be firm and put her back in, dont I?
yes, if she gets up from TO, pick her up without saying a word and place her back into TO
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| Posted 11/5/08 12:54 PM |
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lbelle821
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Re: Time outs at 16.5 months?
When you first start doing to's, how is it that you get them to make the connection that they are meant to stay there out of discipline for their actions? My son is testing us big time too and I just keep thinking that if I put him in timeout he'd think I was playing a game with him. Do they just "get it"?
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| Posted 11/5/08 1:08 PM |
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Sweets13
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Re: Time outs at 16.5 months?
Posted by Smileyd17
Im trying to do timeouts but this is what I get, MOMMY, and comes chasing after me!
I also have a child who is def testing the waters big time and I refuse to let her become a child that is not well behaved.
I have to be firm and put her back in, dont I?
When Anthony used to get up from TO, I would place him back on the chair. At first he thought it was game and would get off and run to me laughing. After I continuously place him back on the chair, he would start to cry and would sit there until I told him it was okay to come down. Now when he needs to go to TO, all I say is..."timeout" and he walks over to the chair sulking. Like Mikismom,,,DS goes to timeout for certain offenses and by him now understanding that those offenses put him TO, they rarely happen.
Def stay firm!!
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| Posted 11/5/08 1:18 PM |
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NJmom
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Re: Time outs at 16.5 months?
I don't think my DS understood the concept of time outs at that age. Instead, if he threw something, I would take whatever it was away. If he did other things to get my attention I would ignore him unless he was going to hurt himself, then I would intervene, but still not give him any attention or eye contact. Jumping on the furniture was a big one for us. He was sooo seeking attention. When I would ignore him he would stop almost right away, but if I told him no or whatever he would laugh and do more. If she's acting out of frustration I would model the appropriate language for her.
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| Posted 11/5/08 1:42 PM |
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