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islandersgirl74
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Today's The View

Did anyone see the view today? I cant believe how they all went at it about if a spouse cheats does it mean they are not a good parent. I cant stand Elizabeth!

Posted 1/23/07 9:46 PM
 
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Nicole728
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Re: Today's The View

I didn't watch it...but I CANNOT stand Elizabeth too! the things she says make me want to Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/23/07 9:48 PM
 

DebG
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Re: Today's The View

I dont watch, which one is Elizabeth?

Posted 1/23/07 9:49 PM
 

islandersgirl74
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Re: Today's The View

the one that was on survivorChat Icon

Posted 1/23/07 9:50 PM
 

DebG
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Re: Today's The View

Posted by islandersgirl74

the one that was on survivorChat Icon

Chat Icon that doesnt help me as I dont really watch that either.

ooh well

Posted 1/23/07 9:56 PM
 

jenny
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Re: Today's The View

Posted by DebG

I dont watch, which one is Elizabeth?



She is the youngest one.

Posted 1/23/07 9:58 PM
 

Nicole728
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Re: Today's The View

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this one

Posted 1/23/07 10:00 PM
 

Arieschick29
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Re: Today's The View

I miss the good old days when the "young" one had important and educated things to say... boo on Elizabeth!!!

On a side note...was I the only one who thought Debbie Matenopolous was actually entertaining???Chat Icon

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Posted 1/23/07 10:05 PM
 

Nicole728
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Re: Today's The View

I don't really remember Debbie on the show....I enjoy Lisa Ling, b/c she actually said intelligent things...but she is doing great th ings on the National Geographic show

Posted 1/23/07 10:07 PM
 

CathyB

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Re: Today's The View

I missed it. Did they all say that cheating on your spouse means that you'd be a bad parent? What was the rationale?

Posted 1/23/07 10:18 PM
 

june262004
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Re: Today's The View

They didn't all say that! That's what makes the view the view Chat Icon They all have different Vews

She Elisabeth said how can you teach your kids values especially about woman if you are cheating on your wife.

Posted 1/23/07 10:33 PM
 

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Re: Today's The View

Posted by june262004

They didn't all say that! That's what makes the view the view Chat Icon They all have different Vews

She Elisabeth said how can you teach your kids values especially about woman if you are cheating on your wife.



That makes more sense. I misunderstood the OP.

Posted 1/23/07 10:37 PM
 

leighla
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Re: Today's The View

Posted by june262004

They didn't all say that! That's what makes the view the view Chat Icon They all have different Vews

She Elisabeth said how can you teach your kids values especially about woman if you are cheating on your wife.



Gotta say I agree with that.

If you find someone else and want to be with them, be mature about it and end your marriage first.

If you cheat, you have poor values in my mind. Chat Icon

Posted 1/23/07 10:46 PM
 

islandersgirl74
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Re: Today's The View

Posted by leighla

Posted by june262004

They didn't all say that! That's what makes the view the view Chat Icon They all have different Vews

She Elisabeth said how can you teach your kids values especially about woman if you are cheating on your wife.



Gotta say I agree with that.

If you find someone else and want to be with them, be mature about it and end your marriage first.

If you cheat, you have poor values in my mind. Chat Icon



I tended to agree more with the other three women. I defintly believe that it sets a poor example and you are not a role model at all, but I dont believe it necassarily makes you a bad parent.

Posted 1/23/07 10:48 PM
 

neenie

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Re: Today's The View

Posted by leighla

Posted by june262004

They didn't all say that! That's what makes the view the view Chat Icon They all have different Vews

She Elisabeth said how can you teach your kids values especially about woman if you are cheating on your wife.



Gotta say I agree with that.

If you find someone else and want to be with them, be mature about it and end your marriage first.

If you cheat, you have poor values in my mind. Chat Icon



i didn't seeit, but i do agree.

i dont think it means that they don't love their kids, but it doesn't lay the best foundation either.

i have friends who's parents cheated, and it took a LONG time, and many sessions in therapy, to finally forgive, and 'respect' their parents. Though the parent, in their mind, isn't trying to hurt their kids, children internalize those things and feel that it was their fault.... not really the best approach towards parenting, imo.

Posted 1/23/07 10:49 PM
 

leighla
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Re: Today's The View

Posted by islandersgirl74

Posted by leighla

Posted by june262004

They didn't all say that! That's what makes the view the view Chat Icon They all have different Vews

She Elisabeth said how can you teach your kids values especially about woman if you are cheating on your wife.



Gotta say I agree with that.

If you find someone else and want to be with them, be mature about it and end your marriage first.

If you cheat, you have poor values in my mind. Chat Icon



I tended to agree more with the other three women. I defintly believe that it sets a poor example and you are not a role model at all, but I dont believe it necassarily makes you a bad parent.



Bad parent, no.

Poor example of the value of relationships and the person you are married to, yes.

Posted 1/23/07 10:50 PM
 

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Re: Today's The View

I have to agree-to be an effective parent you have to have the respect of your children. I do not know how a child could respect a parent who cheated on their mom/dad. Not saying the cheater wouldn't still love his kids, but it takes more than love to be a good parent imo.

Posted 1/24/07 8:23 AM
 

Lucky09
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Re: Today's The View

Posted by CrankyPants

I have to agree-to be an effective parent you have to have the respect of your children. I do not know how a child could respect a parent who cheated on their mom/dad. Not saying the cheater wouldn't still love his kids, but it takes more than love to be a good parent imo.



I agree also.

Posted 1/24/07 8:25 AM
 

neenie

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Re: Today's The View

Posted by CrankyPants

I have to agree-to be an effective parent you have to have the respect of your children. I do not know how a child could respect a parent who cheated on their mom/dad. Not saying the cheater wouldn't still love his kids, but it takes more than love to be a good parent imo.



well said.

Posted 1/24/07 10:06 AM
 

joenick
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Re: Today's The View

Well...in the eyes of the law, it doesn't make you a bad parent.

My SIL cheated on my BIL. When they were going through the divorce, while in court, my BIL wanted full custody of the kids. His basis for that was that his wife was a cheat and not a fit mother.

The judge said, that though she was not the model wife, it doesn't take away from her being a good parent.

Don't know if I agree, but that's what was said.

Posted 1/24/07 10:19 AM
 

Ltdentway99
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Re: Today's The View

Posted by neenie

Posted by CrankyPants

I have to agree-to be an effective parent you have to have the respect of your children. I do not know how a child could respect a parent who cheated on their mom/dad. Not saying the cheater wouldn't still love his kids, but it takes more than love to be a good parent imo.



well said.



It's true. When a child grows up and learns that their parent cheated, they will have a hard time respecting that parent. Also, regardless of the problems in the relationship, they will always blame the parent who cheated and have anger towards them. Cheating is a selfish act that betrays the entire family.

Posted 1/24/07 10:46 AM
 

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Re: Today's The View

Posted by Ellebelle1
It's true. When a child grows up and learns that their parent cheated, they will have a hard time respecting that parent. Also, regardless of the problems in the relationship, they will always blame the parent who cheated and have anger towards them. Cheating is a selfish act that betrays the entire family.



I don't agree with this. My dad cheated on my mom and I don't have issues respecting him or have all this anger toward him. I did when it first happened, but now I feel bad for him that he made the choices he did and that his life has turned out the way it did. Yes, it was hurtful, but he's human and we all make mistakes. His just had bigger ramifications than some other ones do.

Posted 1/24/07 10:49 AM
 

neenie

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Re: Today's The View

Posted by CathyB
I don't agree with this. My dad cheated on my mom and I don't have issues respecting him or have all this anger toward him. I did when it first happened....



i think eventually, most people learn to forgive.. but like you said, when it first happened, no. I can't speak from firsthand knowledge, but from what i saw in my friends, it took years to get past. I also think it depends on the age. But generally, most children are not okay with this, and it can have very lasting effects.

Posted 1/24/07 10:55 AM
 
 

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