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CellarDweller
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Toddlers and cursing
I have a two part question: first, what to do about it? DS has picked up some curse words (that's part 2) and says them occasionally, much to my horror. He doesn't say them frequently and mostly not in context; just in the midst of his rambling dialogue. We've been ignoring it but I'm afraid he's not going to get the message that it's not appropriate. But I'm not sure if he realizes what he's saying is bad so I don't know if I should punish or reprimand him. I'd like to get out in front of this if possible so he knows he shouldn't say those words.
The second issue is that he's picking up this language at his caregiver's house. Not from the caregiver but from people who are in and out. We spoken to the caregiver about it and have agreed that it's not appropriate from DS to be exposed to that but I'm not sure how much we can do given that DS is in the caregiver's home.
I guess the logical third part of this question is: am I making too much of this?
TIA!
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Posted 10/7/09 9:56 AM  |
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My4GirlsMyLife
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
Question #1 I would definately fm Kelly ( Waterspout) she has BTDT and Im sure she can give you some advice !
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#2 Can you find someone else to watch your DC?
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| Posted 10/7/09 9:59 AM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
i would be upset...can you change caregivers...
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| Posted 10/7/09 9:59 AM |
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Merf99
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
I know that when DD says a bad word we just try to ignore it for the most part. I find that if I make a big deal out of it, she thinks it's funny and wants to say it. If we ignore it, it goes away. She really doesn't say anything in public - just when she wants to get a rise out of us.
As far as your caregiver, that would be a HUGE issue for me. Who are these people coming in and our of the house/center? You send your child there to be safe and learn age appropriate things - not curse words.
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| Posted 10/7/09 10:00 AM |
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CellarDweller
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Jennifer
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
It is a huge issue for me and I'm really upset about it. Unbelievably, it's a family member who is watching DS which is part of the problem. DH and I have both addressed the issue but yesterday DS came home with another zinger and when we asked about it, we learned that another family member was in the house and dropped something and viola! DS has added to his vocabulary.
I was kind of hoping we could combat the problem by impressing upon DS that it's not ok to say certain things because we don't seem to be getting anywhere with the caregiver.
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| Posted 10/7/09 10:28 AM |
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lbelle821
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
When my son all of a sudden started saying something that sounded like "shut up" last week and I had no idea where it came from, I asked his therapist how to deal with it.
she told me to ignore it. Words only have power when we acknowledge them and give them power.
As far as the caregiver thing, I would be upste about it and look for a switch. I really don't want my toddler to walk around swearing like a truck driver. I know I slip every once in a while and that is bad enough. But to be around it all day would really upset me.
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| Posted 10/7/09 11:33 AM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
One of the many, many reasons I fired my babysitter last year was because she told me, with pride, how when her daughter was 2 she walked around the house saying "F***, F***, F***, F***, B****, B****, B****, B****" WHILE MY DD WAS ON HER LAP. Fortunately DD was too young at the time to pick it up.
It's not okay and if the people watching DC don't realize that then they have to go.
The few times my DD has cursed I just pretended that she didn't make any sense and I didn't respond or react at all. It seems to have worked.
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| Posted 10/7/09 11:41 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
Posted by CellarDweller
we don't seem to be getting anywhere with the caregiver.
I would strongly suggest you look for a new caregiver then. This is a deal breaker for me-I would be wondering what kind of people are around my child all day.
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| Posted 10/7/09 1:03 PM |
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brownie
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
Posted by MrsFlatbread
i would be upset...can you change caregivers...
I would be upset too..know you said its family, but if you said you're not getting anywhere with them, and you don't find this acceptable, its probably time to start looking  I understand the occasional slip up, but to be using this kind of language around a baby who's learning words.... I don't get it
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| Posted 10/7/09 1:46 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
My Ds has picked up a word or two from my MIL (like cr@p and sh!t) but I don't think too much of it. In fairness, DH and I do our very best not to curse, but we are not the picture of perfection in that department. As for how to react, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. If you feel DS will understand "that's not a nice word" then I would go ahead and say that, but not make much more out of it.
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| Posted 10/7/09 1:46 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: Toddlers and cursing
DD is 3 and picked up a curse word a few weeks ago. she said it and I put her in time out and told her it was not a nice word and it really hurt my feelings. she hasnt said it since
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| Posted 10/7/09 3:51 PM |
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