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dm24angel
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Toddlers and hitting....
Ignore it?
Sydney has now decided hitting is fun, and she 100% does it for a reaction, she hits and then stops to look at you.
I tried the stern ' WE dont hit'...but I think the reaction is what she wants.
Is it ok to just simply ignore this and pray it goes away?
ETA- she is only 15 months
Message edited 1/18/2011 11:24:57 AM.
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brownie
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
My DD started doing this too to our dogs. We give her one warning and then do a 1min time out....She doesn't do this often but I want to nip it in the bud. I know not everyone agrees about TO's though 
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| Posted 1/18/11 11:16 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
Posted by brownie
My DD started doing this too to our dogs. We give her one warning and then do a 1min time out....She doesn't do this often but I want to nip it in the bud. I know not everyone agrees about TO's though
I never thought of this...
Two issues though
1- she does it ALL DAY  and its like a funny hit..like Look what I'm doing...and then smirks
2- and then I feel like I'm giving her the attention still?
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| Posted 1/18/11 11:18 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
DS sometimes hits out of excitement. Depending on how severe it is, we tell him to say sorry or we give him a time out.
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angnick
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
DS sometimes does this out of excitement also- and sometimes for a reaction.
We follow the 'we dont hit policy'
then we threaten with time out.
if he hits again, he goes right in time out for 1 min.
then when he comes out he aplogizes to whomever he hits and goes on with his business....
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| Posted 1/18/11 11:22 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
Posted by angnick
DS sometimes does this out of excitement also- and sometimes for a reaction.
We follow the 'we dont hit policy'
then we threaten with time out.
if he hits again, he goes right in time out for 1 min.
then when he comes out he aplogizes to whomever he hits and goes on with his business....
But Sydney is only 15 months, and doesnt talk. I dont know if this would work for her?
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| Posted 1/18/11 11:24 AM |
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Mkr09
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
Just throwing this out there, but what if you give attention to the person/thing she hit rather than giving the attention to her. Like if she hits her brother or sister go over and give them attention.
I don't know if that would work with her so young.
ETA: Or just remove her from the situation without saying a word to her. No communication/no eye contact. Just pick her up and move her away from whatever she is hitting.
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headoverheels
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by angnick
DS sometimes does this out of excitement also- and sometimes for a reaction.
We follow the 'we dont hit policy'
then we threaten with time out.
if he hits again, he goes right in time out for 1 min.
then when he comes out he aplogizes to whomever he hits and goes on with his business....
But Sydney is only 15 months, and doesnt talk. I dont know if this would work for her?
Just because she doesn't talk doesn't mean she doesn't understand  We started time outs at 18 months and that was later than we should have since he really started understanding everything we said by 15 months. Now at 2 years the threat of time out is usually enough.
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| Posted 1/18/11 11:34 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by angnick
DS sometimes does this out of excitement also- and sometimes for a reaction.
We follow the 'we dont hit policy'
then we threaten with time out.
if he hits again, he goes right in time out for 1 min.
then when he comes out he aplogizes to whomever he hits and goes on with his business....
But Sydney is only 15 months, and doesnt talk. I dont know if this would work for her?
Just because she doesn't talk doesn't mean she doesn't understand We started time outs at 18 months and that was later than we should have since he really started understanding everything we said by 15 months. Now at 2 years the threat of time out is usually enough.
no not the time out...more the saying I'm sorry.
I'm thinking of trying the time outs. I do worry it is too much since this happens literally every 10 minutes. Its not a mean hit..Its like a slight smack and then she looks at you to get your attention. Thats the hit I am avoiding commenting on.
When she is mad at someone and hauls out and hits them, that I think I will start the time outs on.
I just dont wanna make it worse...cause she scares me 
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| Posted 1/18/11 11:49 AM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
DS started hitting me around 15 months. Yelling, ignoring and re-directing didn't work. I started giving him time outs. I only had to give them a few times before he stopped hitting. He hated them so much that he immediately stopped the behavior after the threat of a time out. It's worth a try. 
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| Posted 1/18/11 11:55 AM |
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angnick
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by angnick
DS sometimes does this out of excitement also- and sometimes for a reaction.
We follow the 'we dont hit policy'
then we threaten with time out.
if he hits again, he goes right in time out for 1 min.
then when he comes out he aplogizes to whomever he hits and goes on with his business....
But Sydney is only 15 months, and doesnt talk. I dont know if this would work for her?
Just because she doesn't talk doesn't mean she doesn't understand We started time outs at 18 months and that was later than we should have since he really started understanding everything we said by 15 months. Now at 2 years the threat of time out is usually enough.
no not the time out...more the saying I'm sorry.
I'm thinking of trying the time outs. I do worry it is too much since this happens literally every 10 minutes. Its not a mean hit..Its like a slight smack and then she looks at you to get your attention. Thats the hit I am avoiding commenting on.
When she is mad at someone and hauls out and hits them, that I think I will start the time outs on.
I just dont wanna make it worse...cause she scares me
I think even though the child doesnt speak you can tell him/her to say sorry- make a gesture- show the child how to 'do nice' etc..
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Xelindrya
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by angnick
DS sometimes does this out of excitement also- and sometimes for a reaction.
We follow the 'we dont hit policy'
then we threaten with time out.
if he hits again, he goes right in time out for 1 min.
then when he comes out he aplogizes to whomever he hits and goes on with his business....
But Sydney is only 15 months, and doesnt talk. I dont know if this would work for her?
Just because she doesn't talk doesn't mean she doesn't understand We started time outs at 18 months and that was later than we should have since he really started understanding everything we said by 15 months. Now at 2 years the threat of time out is usually enough.
no not the time out...more the saying I'm sorry.
I'm thinking of trying the time outs. I do worry it is too much since this happens literally every 10 minutes. Its not a mean hit..Its like a slight smack and then she looks at you to get your attention. Thats the hit I am avoiding commenting on.
When she is mad at someone and hauls out and hits them, that I think I will start the time outs on.
I just dont wanna make it worse...cause she scares me
AJ has been doing Time out since about 14 or so?? can't remmeber, but I know it was around her 1yr bday. In my mind I just recall of 'where' I was when we started.
AJ was late to speak (only really started recently) but she understood wrong from right.
In the beginning after time out was over I would tell her "No hitting, ok?" and she'd look at me bewildered. Then She'd started to say "k" or nod.
After awhile it did sink in. We moved from No hitting repeated to "are you going to be a good girl" and she'd nod or say Ok. Then we're repeat after that "no hitting" to reinforce it.
Then after awhile of that and when she began to give hugs and know what 'sorry' meant, we added Hugs and Kisses, and sorry after time outs. We're still there.
But every time she has to say she's sorry now and she has to be told again 'no hitting/kicking'
Honestly though, its a lot less now. We also tickle instead of hit when we play. I feel guilty sending her mix messages to say its ok to hit if we're playing but not other times. What is 'other times'. I thought that was too much for a small mind to comprehend so we went the route of total absolution of hitting .
Kinda not fun, but its easier? *shrug*
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Kmarie36
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Re: Toddlers and hitting....
DD went through this stage two weeks ago. She would hit us and laugh. We would hold her hands and firmly 'you don't hit' while looking into her eyes. After a few days she stopped. GL
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