TTC & Telling People

I am not TTC at the moment, but I think this question belongs here. We *might* (BIG MAYBE) start TTCing this summer (if DH gets his way ).

Since Jake is turning two next month, the TTC questions are NON-STOP. I get at least one comment a day:

"It's time for #2!!"
"So when is Jake getting a little brother or sister?!" etc etc

Not to mention the fact that my boss would just love it if he could pencil it all in right now. And no he has no shame in asking either, and NO we are not close like that.

Anyway, I'm debating whether or not I should just tell people that we are TTC when/IF we start, or even just lie and say that we are even if we decide to wait until next year...just so they leave me alone. Or will that make things worse? I'm convinced that most people at my job already think we are TTC anyway... and how rude that they still ask... what if we were having trouble? Of course, I'm not talking about announcing to people at work that we are TTC. But what if I answered their annoying questions with a "hopefully soon" or something like that? Would they leave me alone then?

I cannot imagine having to put up with this for another year or so...

So... did you tell people you were TTC? Only close friends or family? Do wish you hadn't? Any advice?

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The only people who know are my mom, my husband's cousin's wife (cause she just got preggo's and loaned me some books), a midwife walking buddy of mine (cause I always have a million questions and she's great with advice) and you guys on these forums!!! I can't tell anyone else!! hehe

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We aren't TTC just yet but when we do, I don't plan to tell anyone (beside this forum). I don't think it's anyone's business. We get questions all the time and we just answer, "one day, when we're ready".

So far, only my mother has asked "So when will you be ready?"

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We had told all our family & friends we were going TTC in the summer (July). The only ones that know we are now besides LIF are my 3 close friends & my SIL. It has been so hard to not tell my mom but we have plans on telling both sets of parents "when" it does happen....

I get inquiring minds at work to ask if we are having trouble bc I "should" have been pg already.

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I hold nothing back. I see no reason to hide precious things like this, but that is just me. Personally people don't ask once I tell them. they patiently wait for news if and when it comes. We had a MC 7 months ago and I'm glad I told my family and friends because I really needed the support and love that I still contiue to get as I need it at times.

Spread the joy is my motto good luck to you and DH

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We had this problem and that is why I post under a fake name. Ever since DH and I go married, less then two years ago all the questions have been when are we having kids. We don't want to tell everyone because we know that all we will hear for the next few months is "So are you pregnant yet?" We actually don't plan on telling anyone until I was pregnant and 12 weeks along.

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We plan on TTC in August and we haven't told anyone and don't plan on telling. Like an above poster said I just don't feel like hearing every month "so are you pregnant yet".

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At I first I told everyone that asked...I don't know...that didn't work...then I went to I'm not preventing it and when that didn't stop them I now answer...When God wants it to happen it will happen...that shut them up.

BTW....

Only my close friends, mom and sis know other than my DH that I've been actively TTC for over a year.

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My immediate family knows (now) b/c we told them when we lost the last pregnancy. If extended family or friends ask, we just say, "maybe next yr" or something like that.

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I have the total opposite. We arent telling anyone because no one would support us. My inlaws think we are too old to be having anymore kids and my mother just thinks we have enough. I know thought that once we do become pregnant my mother would be very supportive(even if it's not real in the beginning)My mother in law will just make rude comments about how stupid we are.

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We havent told anyone except my mom, and my SIL in TX. I dont want to hear the "when's, whynots, and the are you pg yet, whats the hold up". Thas my favorite BTW.

I figure when/if it happens it will be a nice suprise. Its hard because you will always get the ???'s. I just smile a lot.

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We have never told anyone when we were TTC. We just did it, and when I got PG, made our announcements.

If someone asks you, I would go with "Its none of your business". I think its rude when people pry into others sex lives... and basically, thats what people are doing when they ask about your plans for TTC.

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My second pg was not planned, so I heard the opposite comments that you are hearing about #2..

But when we were TTC DD, we didn't tell anyone at first then I had a m/c and everyone (our immediate family/close friends) knew then we were TTC.

HOnestly, I wish they didn't know, they pestered me about my cycle, when we were trying, questioned me all the time...blah blah blah...

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I'm having the same dilema. We have been TTC for 6 months now and I really feel like I am all alone with no one to vent to (besides here of course!) DH is understanding, but he doesn't live the everyday ups and downs of the cycle like I do. I told my best friend, but I don't feel that it's something she can relate to at all. Also a co-worker knows (she pried it out of me)- we were trying at the same time and now she is preggo, so I feel a little jealous of her. I desperately want to tell my mom, we are best friends, but I am nervous she will tell everyone. I agree that its supposed to be a happy time so we should share it with everyone, but at the same time it really doesn't feel all that exciting when you can't get PG right away

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i wouldn't
this time when i was TTC i didn't tell ANYONE, not even my parents.

I didn't want for people to keep asking me specifically if i had difficulties concieving.

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I only told a close friend (b/c she's TTC also and having a tough time) but neither of our families know and they know better than ask inappropriate questions! However, I think my mom suspects that we are TTC.

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It's none of anyone's business. I told a few close family members and firends, that's it. I only told them because I was excited about it and I know they won't tell anyone.

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I did not think it was necessary to tell anyone, not even our families. I think that TTC is something that is not predictable and for me I cannot stand the constant questions of "how's it going?" or "any news yet?" erf, just thinking about it irks me.

I think it depends on the relationships you have with people. If you know that there are certain people who will support (and not annoy) you, then go for it. I unfortunately have only annoy-me people

Seriously WHILE I was in the hospital recovering from a very rough c-section & PG people were asking when we will start again

Anyway good luck whatever you decide. Oh & kick your boss in the shins.

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We are "hoping" to start TTCing by the end of the year. We don't plan on telling anyone. Heaven forbid we encounter problems or it takes longer than we plan, I don't want to go through the heartache of hearing my family constantly asking if I'm preggo yet. Plus I want it to be a surprise.

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Besides you ladies (and a certain poster who has figured me out ), my best friend knows and that's it.