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Juliet
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Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
I know I am not the only one whose DH comes home from work, riles up DC and then expects Mommy to put the child to sleep.
So how do I fix this so I don't go crazy?
For a while now, our routine has been that DH bathes DD and I do pjs. Together we read a story and then I nurse and put her to sleep.
Well, ever since we all got sick last week, DD has screamed whenever DH washes her hair. Cries and throws her bath books at him. And wants out before she even gets washed. In this mood, she then screams when I put her diaper on, fights me with pjs, refuses to brush teeth and won't even let me read her bedtime stories.
Tuesday, though, DH was out at a work thing. I bathed DD with NO problem. We read every bath book. She smiled and played. Then I had NO problems with diapers or pjs'. We read TWO books at bedtime and she went to sleep like an angel until 8 the next morning.
LAST night, Daddy gave the bath and she screamed again. So I asked him to let me do it. She was fine. Then she saw him and screamed when it was time for diaper and pj's. She practically jumped off her changing table looking for DH. She cried a lot and then finally I calmed her down enough to get on pjs.
Bedtime was okay, but she wasn't as happy as the night before.
This whole post is very long, but the bottom line is what do I do, short of kicking DH out, to make our nighttime ritual go back to normal?
Oh yeah, DH already commented that he should stay later at work and avoid it totally but then he wouldn't see DD until the weekends.
Ugh
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Posted 12/4/08 2:04 PM  |
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Re: Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
How about you and dh doing those things together.. this way dd has you along with daddy.. this may keep her calm since your there.. then once she gets used of daddy being there, then he can adventually do alone like you do.
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| Posted 12/4/08 2:07 PM |
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dooodles
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Re: Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
Is she going through a period where she's favoring you? DD right now is constantly up my butt and while she plays with Daddy - it's not lasting long as she gets very demanding until I give her MY attention. Right now we are trying to do things with her together to keep the attitude of hers at bay, but it is making cleaning and dinner a chore for me right now.
As I mentioned, the only thing that will transition her is for us both to do something with her together and then I try and make a run for it when I need to do something.
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| Posted 12/4/08 2:11 PM |
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Juliet
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Re: Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
Posted by dooodles
Is she going through a period where she's favoring you? DD right now is constantly up my butt and while she plays with Daddy - it's not lasting long as she gets very demanding until I give her MY attention. Right now we are trying to do things with her together to keep the attitude of hers at bay, but it is making cleaning and dinner a chore for me right now.
As I mentioned, the only thing that will transition her is for us both to do something with her together and then I try and make a run for it when I need to do something.
She is favoring me a bit these days. And I have been stressed with grad school work these days. Both DH and I have been stressed with other stuff, but I think she knows she can depend on me. I think DH is questionable because his schedule is so erratic.
Please tell me they outgrow this. My nerves can't handle all of this.
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| Posted 12/4/08 2:16 PM |
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Re: Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
I'd try your regular routine for a few more nights before giving up. DS gets very clingy with me after he's been sick, since I was doing everything to take care of him. He gets used to the extra attention, but when I go back to the normal routine, he adjusts.
Sometimes it's hard being mommy.
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| Posted 12/4/08 2:46 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
well she probably thinks it's playtime when she sees daddy. my DS is only 11 wks and he already gives my DH a hard time when he tries to put him to sleep
ETA I think you should let your DH do the routine for a few nights so your DD knows that daddy means business
Message edited 12/4/2008 2:54:33 PM.
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| Posted 12/4/08 2:53 PM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
Do you have real trouble putting her to sleep?
For us, we do play a lot and get all crazee before bedtime, bed jumping, tickling, shouting, but once that story starts and he has his milk, its bedtime 100% and that kid sleeps.
Why not let him do bedtime, or do it together? We do it together and its a really special time in our day.
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| Posted 12/4/08 3:01 PM |
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Juliet
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Re: Ugh...Daddy and Daughter troubles...
Posted by racheeeee
Do you have real trouble putting her to sleep?
For us, we do play a lot and get all crazee before bedtime, bed jumping, tickling, shouting, but once that story starts and he has his milk, its bedtime 100% and that kid sleeps.
Why not let him do bedtime, or do it together? We do it together and its a really special time in our day.
Sometimes I have big sleep troubles. Other nights she is normal. I tried to let DH do bedtime with me, but he fell asleep before her and snored
Maybe this is just a stage and she will change soon
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| Posted 12/4/08 3:32 PM |
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