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Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

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mrswask
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Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Background:

I am a high school guidance counselor - we have a part time school nurse. Whenever a kid is really sick ( or not really sick) they call an ambulance and take the kid to the hospitalChat Icon Guess who has to accompany them to the ER - yup - you guessed it - one of the guidance counselors - supposed to be an administrator which we are NOT but that's a whole other vent/post! I also work with a student population that many do not come from stable homes, etc - meaning not the most reliable parents and typically at a minimum you are waiting in the ER with the kid for about 1.5 hours and some people have gotten stuck for 4+ hours!!!


So - It popped in my head Sunday night that sooner or later, one of my students would go to ER and they'd ask me to go. No way am I going and exposing myself to sick people for hours in the ER thank you very much - flu, Swine flu, g-d only knows, right?

So I go in on Monday and respectfully tell my guidance director the above - not going to ER this year, etc - felt it was appropriate to bring up now before the situation arose, etc.

She comes back to me today and tells me my principal wants a doctor's note - really?? Seriously??? I have no problem getting a dr's note but really?? Can you use a little common sense or compassion or intelligence? I have to PROVE from a doctor that it's not the best idea for a pregnant woman to sit in an ER for hours, exposed to tons of sick people???? I'm in a county in South Florida where there were reported cases in the county last year AND in the schools!
Micro-managing azzhat!!! BTW - this jerkoff docked me pay for coming in four minutes late to work one day last week but told us we need to come in before contract hours on testing days - and we're working with no raise or contract right now!!

G-d I can't wait until January!!!!!


Thanks for letting me get this out!!

Posted 9/16/09 4:56 PM
 
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twinkletoes807
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

What a douche!! I would try and think of something else that the doc can 'forbid' you from doing to really stick it to them. And I would NOT go into school any earlier than necessary esp since he docked you 4 minutes! If he has a problem with this, tell him he can suck it! Hang in there honey, I am dealing with boobery over here too. I have 10 more weeks left until maternity and time is not moving fast enough!! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 9/16/09 6:26 PM
 

kabo0831
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

that sound like my boss, She told me that if i call out sick to much from this pregnancy or it get in the way of my job they are going to have to think about letting me go. I cant believe some bosses.

Posted 9/16/09 7:01 PM
 

summerBaby10
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

idiots! Chat Icon

Posted 9/16/09 7:18 PM
 

twinkletoes807
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by kabo0831

that sound like my boss, She told me that if i call out sick to much from this pregnancy or it get in the way of my job they are going to have to think about letting me go. I cant believe some bosses.



Aaaaand, that would be discrimination. Make sure you document everything you do, say, meetings you have with bosses, conversations, emails- everything!! Just in case they do fire you and you can possibly bring a suit! Chat Icon

Posted 9/16/09 7:23 PM
 

Dani77
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

I think all bosses jobs are just to annoy and be retarted to the people below them. Lots of Chat Icon

Posted 9/16/09 7:29 PM
 

mrswask
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Thanks girls! He's a total and complete douche. It gets worse but whateverChat Icon
I seriously think a lot about karma biting him in the azz - just hope it happens someday!

Posted 9/16/09 7:45 PM
 

Celt
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by twinkletoes807

What a douche!! I would try and think of something else that the doc can 'forbid' you from doing to really stick it to them. And I would NOT go into school any earlier than necessary esp since he docked you 4 minutes! If he has a problem with this, tell him he can suck it! Hang in there honey, I am dealing with boobery over here too. I have 10 more weeks left until maternity and time is not moving fast enough!! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



OMG GABI this is the best. advice. ever.
That doctor's note would be 5 pages long for me - no lifting, no extended standing, no extended sitting, no exposure to chemicals & cleaning solvents, etc etc. *Perhaps* your boss is trying to cover himself in the event that the other guidance counselors have a "problem" with you not going Chat Icon -- he can simply say "doctor's orders, no ER" and they'll have no choice but to accept it. But I realize I'm being generous with that theory if he docked you for 4 minutes.

Posted 9/16/09 9:37 PM
 

Alex110879
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

when i was preg with ds i was working ft midnights and was alone on the shift.. one night i had prob and it took me 2 hours to hold of a supervisor to get assistance so when i saw my boss after that i asked what the procedure would be if i went into labor while at work.. she promptly told me to cross my legs until the next shift came in.....

Right after i told her i was preg she also mandated me to work an extra shift as a double to cover a lack in staffing due to someone being on vacation.. that person on vacation was ME!!... when i asked waht would have happened if i had had vacation plans she told me i would be fired... the next time i worked i nicely came in with a note saying i was not to work more then my scheduled time.. so i went from working any shift she needed to my 5 a week... so she screwed herself


i hate bosses sometimes

Message edited 9/16/2009 9:47:04 PM.

Posted 9/16/09 9:44 PM
 

munchkinfacemama
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

I remember you told me this! Wow, have our bosses met? What a jackarse! Seriously, this doesn't take a huge leap in logic to figure out why a preggo just might want to avoid the ER.

Is it bad to silently hope for bedrest? Chat Icon

Is this a South Palm Beach County/Broward County thing to work for places that are azz-backwards? Oy Vey!

Posted 9/16/09 9:48 PM
 

spooks
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

What a jerks! At least you only ahave a few more months before a break!

Posted 9/16/09 10:05 PM
 

mrswask
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Michal

Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by colette

Posted by twinkletoes807

What a douche!! I would try and think of something else that the doc can 'forbid' you from doing to really stick it to them. And I would NOT go into school any earlier than necessary esp since he docked you 4 minutes! If he has a problem with this, tell him he can suck it! Hang in there honey, I am dealing with boobery over here too. I have 10 more weeks left until maternity and time is not moving fast enough!! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



OMG GABI this is the best. advice. ever.
That doctor's note would be 5 pages long for me - no lifting, no extended standing, no extended sitting, no exposure to chemicals & cleaning solvents, etc etc. *Perhaps* your boss is trying to cover himself in the event that the other guidance counselors have a "problem" with you not going Chat Icon -- he can simply say "doctor's orders, no ER" and they'll have no choice but to accept it. But I realize I'm being generous with that theory if he docked you for 4 minutes.




No - there was a pg counselor in the office last year and we're all friends and support each other. We are all treated like sh1t and are all united in our hatred for him! I like the idea of a 5 page doctor's note though - lol!

Posted 9/16/09 10:05 PM
 

mrswask
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Michal

Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by munchkinfacemama

I remember you told me this! Wow, have our bosses met? What a jackarse! Seriously, this doesn't take a huge leap in logic to figure out why a preggo just might want to avoid the ER.

Is it bad to silently hope for bedrest? Chat Icon

Is this a South Palm Beach County/Broward County thing to work for places that are azz-backwards? Oy Vey!




Bite your tongue!! I can't afford to lose all my FMLA on bedrest before the little one even comes!

Posted 9/16/09 10:07 PM
 

munchkinfacemama
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by mrswask

Posted by munchkinfacemama

I remember you told me this! Wow, have our bosses met? What a jackarse! Seriously, this doesn't take a huge leap in logic to figure out why a preggo just might want to avoid the ER.

Is it bad to silently hope for bedrest? Chat Icon

Is this a South Palm Beach County/Broward County thing to work for places that are azz-backwards? Oy Vey!




Bite your tongue!! I can't afford to lose all my FMLA on bedrest before the little one even comes!



Darn. Don't you wish we were rich?

Well, I understand why you don't want to be with me on bedrest Chat Icon Not that I will get paid either

Posted 9/16/09 10:27 PM
 

Blu-ize
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by kabo0831

that sound like my boss, She told me that if i call out sick to much from this pregnancy or it get in the way of my job they are going to have to think about letting me go. I cant believe some bosses.



That's illegal. That's harassment.

Posted 9/17/09 10:20 AM
 

Deeluvsvinny
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Whatever

Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

wow, I can't believe bosses can be like this!!
I haven't told anyone here at work yet! But, I do work with some awesome ppl, so I'm not too worried.

Posted 9/17/09 11:19 AM
 

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Posted 9/17/09 11:46 AM
 

sometimesmommy
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by twinkletoes807

Posted by kabo0831

that sound like my boss, She told me that if i call out sick to much from this pregnancy or it get in the way of my job they are going to have to think about letting me go. I cant believe some bosses.



Aaaaand, that would be discrimination. Make sure you document everything you do, say, meetings you have with bosses, conversations, emails- everything!! Just in case they do fire you and you can possibly bring a suit! Chat Icon



Its unfortunately not discrimination--if they would terminate a nonpregnant employee for taking too many sick days then unfortunately they can for a pregnant one. I would recommend anyone who is at risk of taking too many sick days to try and start FMLA.

Posted 9/17/09 3:29 PM
 

eddiesmommy
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by sometimesmommy

Posted by twinkletoes807

Posted by kabo0831

that sound like my boss, She told me that if i call out sick to much from this pregnancy or it get in the way of my job they are going to have to think about letting me go. I cant believe some bosses.



Aaaaand, that would be discrimination. Make sure you document everything you do, say, meetings you have with bosses, conversations, emails- everything!! Just in case they do fire you and you can possibly bring a suit! Chat Icon



Its unfortunately not discrimination--if they would terminate a nonpregnant employee for taking too many sick days then unfortunately they can for a pregnant one. I would recommend anyone who is at risk of taking too many sick days to try and start FMLA.



I was just going to write the same thing.

Posted 9/17/09 4:41 PM
 

gck0708
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Wow, he sounds like a real winner.

I'm sorry you had to put up with that cr@p!

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Posted 9/17/09 5:07 PM
 

gck0708
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Re: Vent - My Boss is an #!@&!!

Posted by eddiesmommy

Posted by sometimesmommy

Posted by twinkletoes807

Posted by kabo0831

that sound like my boss, She told me that if i call out sick to much from this pregnancy or it get in the way of my job they are going to have to think about letting me go. I cant believe some bosses.



Aaaaand, that would be discrimination. Make sure you document everything you do, say, meetings you have with bosses, conversations, emails- everything!! Just in case they do fire you and you can possibly bring a suit! Chat Icon



Its unfortunately not discrimination--if they would terminate a nonpregnant employee for taking too many sick days then unfortunately they can for a pregnant one. I would recommend anyone who is at risk of taking too many sick days to try and start FMLA.



I was just going to write the same thing.



Also...in regards to the above discussion:

In Ireland (where I live) it's actually against the law to fire a woman once she has declared that she is expecting. Your job is secure. You also get 6 months maternity leave standard. There are perks, even if you have to put up with a crazy medical system to get them!

AAAAAAAAAND, my sister's good friend is from Sweden where, I've been told, you are entitled to 1 - 1.5 years maternity AND paternity leave with FULL pay and your job guaranteed for you when you come back.

So, are we all moving to Sweden or what?

Posted 9/17/09 5:17 PM
 
 

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