vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

ok i will just quickly vent
my aunt who is rather young (38) and has 4 kids (youngest is 6) is annoying the you know what out of me!!!!
first she calls my cell during the day on fri (i dont pick up) i was doing laundry bc DD was napping! so she calls the house! I pick up - she says OH DID I WAKE U guys up?!? (it was like 11am) !?! well not ME bc im doing laundry and I dont know about Victoria!!! What do you know I go into V's room and shes wide awake - Ok whatever I get over it right?!?!?
Then Sunday night she calls my cell almost 10pm. Lady - if its not an emergency is there really a need to call me so late, escp since you know i have a CRANKY 7 month old who is teething & you are a mother of 4 so you went through this 4 times - not so long ago!
Ok - so i was still fine but this really put me over the edge - today at work I email her asking her to tell my little cousin to call me when she gets back from school (so this is like 3pm correct?) I'm trying to put cranky DD down since 7:30 -
Shes alsmost down - my cellphone rings at 9:20pm!!!!
DH turns it off - MY HOUSE PHONE RINGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I pick it up & say to my aunt (bc she was calling - not my cousin) listen can I call emily tomorrow bc V is cranky and im trying to put her down - trying to get off the phone ASAP - and she says to me well you said for Emily to call you!
I said BYE>

I said for her to call me at 3 or 4 NOT 9:30pm when I have an infant trying to fall asleep AND do people not get the hint - If im not picking up my cell DONT CALL THE HOUSE!
If I see a missed call I WILL CALL YOU BACK
Wow Im soo annoyed & I feel like saying something to her!!!
Or maybe have my mom do it!!!
Ok thanks for listening
Vent OVER!
or
Maybe im overreacting

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

Okay numero uno when your little girl is sleeping you should put the phone on silent or unplug it. Let your DH know because he should be the only one contacting you. I cannot stand when people call me that late but then I remember what is late to DH and I is NOT late to alot of people.

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

No i'd be pizzed too. I dont think you're overreacting at all. I dont let anyone call the house after 8pm and if someone did i would have no problem telling them not to do it again. This was even before I had DS. I just think its rude. If you need me, text and I'll get back to you kwim.

She knows you have an infant so I would just make a blanket statement to everyone so as not to single her out not to call after 8pm because you're putting DD to sleep.

Message edited 3/16/2010 10:02:32 PM.

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

id be mad too. the phone rang tonight about 10 mins after DS went to sleep and I put the phone on Do Not Disturb. It happened to be my grandma (she left a msg) but she knows I put DS to bed at 8pm - everyone knows!

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

I'm with you -- why can't people just leave a message??

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

I know EXACTLY what you are talking about!!! My aunt is just like this. I have this crap with her like every week. She tracks me down and calls my mom to "make sure i'm ok" if I dont answer! So friggin annoying! I dont have any advice for you, just vent whenever you can so you dont take it out on her I guess.

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

i always call people up til 10pm. since thats prime time shows, people are up.

perhaps try putting the phone on silence at that time?

the phone doesnt wake my 10 month old up

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

We keep only one phone ringer on in the house that way it doesn't disturb anyone. You can't assume your aunt understands b/c she has 4 kids. My sister has 4 kids and she never put them to bed early or had a problem with people calling her. I put my boys to bed btw 7:30 and 7:45 and people still call I just don't answer. I don't get mad about. Everybody has their own schedules. B4 kids I thought 11 pm was early now it feels like the middle of the night to me.

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

My cell phone gets turned off when I get home from work, and the ringer on the house phone gets turned off at 7pm. I've been doing this since DD was a newborn.

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

I don't think you are overreacting..

But, she tried to call you at 11am, and she couldn't have known DC was trying to sleep, and then called you late, maybe hoping DC was down for the night and you could have a free moment?

As for the "after school thing" unless you said specifically 3-4pm, I don't think you can get mad, isn't it "technically" after school?

Sorry. I hope I don't sound bitchyy that isn't my intention, but it seems like she is just trying to find a way to talk to you.

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

I agree w/ KateDevine.
Maybe it's best to turn your phone ringer off when your DD is sleeping?. I do not call people after a certain time at night, but I would never be mad if someone called my house late. Maybe she figured that was the best time to speak to you.

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

I say this with great compassion for parents of babies who have trouble getting to sleep, but I think you are slightly overreacting. When you have a baby, especially one going through a difficult sleep period, so much revolves around the baby and his/her schedule. But I think it's easy for BTDT or childless friends to forget that or not realize it. You also can't expect everyone else's schedule to follow yours and your child's schedule. I do remember getting angry with friends for calling around 8-9 or later, but they worked, this was the first time they had to sit down and chat during the day, and honestly, I don't think they were thinking I can't call, I might wake the baby. They just wanted to talk to me.

I would talk to her frankly and tell her what a hard time you have getting DC to sleep, and you would really appreciate no calls at the house after 9. Tell her to leave a message on your cell phone and you'll get back when you can. And turn off the ringer on the phone once you get DC to sleep, especially on really difficult days.

Good luck

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

Re: vent - re: people calling the house after 9pm!!

when i was home on leave everyone would call while i would be trying to get DS to nap. never failed!!

i started taking the phone off the hook during the day and DH would call my cell that i kept on vibrate.

if its important, leave a message and i'll call back.

never failed that it was always my MIL calling too!