Vent: long time friend (this may be long, sorry)

I have been friends with someone for 20 years. We've been through a lot..serious boyfriends, breakups, we were roommates, the death of her father, we were in each other's weddings, we worked together - everything you could imagine. DH and I got engaged 4/05 after being together a year. She and her dh got engaged in 10/05 after being together for a year. They set their date for 1 month after our wedding.

She was there for me for anything wedding-related during my whole engagement, as I was for her. However, there was a noticeable slack-off in face-to-face conversations, even though we worked together for a big chunk of time. Whatever, we got through it. She was there for everything for me, and I appreciated it.
Ditto, me for her.

Since she's gotten married in Nov. of '06, I've spoken to her twice. If I leave her a voicemail, she sends me a text message in response, telling me to e-mail her. I resent this immensely, but did earlier this week, saying I'd meet her for a drink in the city (by where she works) one day this week. Today (Friday) at 5, I finally forwarded my original message saying "Thanks for getting back to me. Maybe sometime in the first half of '07" (because she never DID get back to me).

Either I'm the only one she's doing this too and I should be offended (which I don't entirely think is the case), or she's doing this to all her friends, and is risking alienating all of us. I'm really annoyed, and I think she knows, but I don't know if I really drove the point home. How would you deal with it?

I'm really sorry this is so long.

Re: Vent: long time friend (this may be long, sorry)

Since email seems to be her only communication I would send her one last email stating how I feel...asking her if she is OK (Something could be going on she doesn't want you to know about)....and say in the email that if i didn't hear back from her then I know my answer regarding the friendship....then I would wait and see

Re: Vent: long time friend (this may be long, sorry)

If it were me I would probably stop emailing, text messaging back until she made more of an effort. If she doesn't make the effort, I'd say that was my answer.

As Moe said, something could be going on that she's not comfortable talking about anything from problems with DH, weight gain to infertility. It could be her way of avoiding people until she's ready to talk to them.

Re: Vent: long time friend (this may be long, sorry)