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SweetTooth
I'm a tired mommy!
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Lauren
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wanted to share
I saw this on another website and wanted to share it with you. Hope I don't get any nasty comments like on that thread that was pulled since its about the same thing.
Anyway:
Thoughts on Becoming a Mother
There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body. I have been tried by fire and h*ll many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother
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MrsRbk
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Re: wanted to share
Beautiful and moving. 
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| Posted 4/1/08 9:59 AM |
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leighdvm
My golden boys!
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I don't get how this would be pulled.....it was beautiful and very touching.....
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| Posted 4/1/08 10:10 AM |
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Daisy32
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That was lovely 
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| Posted 4/1/08 10:26 AM |
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karenk71
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Very nice! Thanks for sharing.
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| Posted 4/1/08 11:10 AM |
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fullofhope13
Please stay little one
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Re: wanted to share
Beautiful; thank you for sharing.
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| Posted 4/1/08 11:12 AM |
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Bops
My 3 wishes
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Loved it Thanks for sharing that with us !
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| Posted 4/1/08 11:35 AM |
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MrsPornStar
Partners in crime
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Absolutely beautiful.
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| Posted 4/1/08 11:42 AM |
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IrishLasss334
I'll be there soon!
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Patty
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OMG, I'm crying! It's awesome!
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| Posted 4/1/08 3:12 PM |
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LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
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L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)
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Beautiful 
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| Posted 4/1/08 3:15 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
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Leslie
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It was lovely Lauren.
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| Posted 4/1/08 4:53 PM |
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ynot2
LIF Adolescent
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That was quite possibly the best thing that I have read so far!!
Thanks for sharing and posting that!!!!
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| Posted 4/1/08 6:47 PM |
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Myrtle1
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Just because I conceived my children easily doesn't mean that I don't know what pain is. My 3 pregnancies were beautiful but unfortunately my pain started after the pregnancies. My 3 beautiful boys are severely autistic. My hopes and dreams that I had for them during my pregnancies have died. I know without a doubt that I love my boys as much as any mother loves her children, no matter how long it took her to get pregnant. I pray that your pain ends when you conceive and you have a healthy baby and you never have to experience anymore pain.
Good Luck
please no hate FM as with the last reply it was taken the wrong way.
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rose825
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Posted by Myrtle1
Just because I conceived my children easily doesn't mean that I don't know what pain is. My 3 pregnancies were beautiful but unfortunately my pain started after the pregnancies. My 3 beautiful boys are severely autistic. My hopes and dreams that I had for them during my pregnancies have died. I know without a doubt that I love my boys as much as any mother loves her children, no matter how long it took her to get pregnant. I pray that your pain ends when you conceive and you have a healthy baby and you never have to experience anymore pain.
Good Luck
please no hate FM as with the last reply it was taken the wrong way.
and I am sure someone has written something similar on a forum which is a support board for mom's of children with autism.
However, this is an INFERTILITY board, a forum where women with INFERTILITY can support each other.
It has nothing to do with you, I dont know what happened with your last reply, but it seems like you still think this is about you, and its not. Its about us. Now move on.
As for the OP.
This was very moving. Thank you for sharing. As someone with secondary IF I really see the truth in this. I am aware of everything my son does, and while sometimes I get frustrated I never take him for granted. I look at some of the other parents around me IRL, and I see that what I have with my DS is something special.
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DRMom
Two in Blue
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That was beautiful. I may even print it out and put it in a special book. Thank you for sharing!
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| Posted 4/5/08 10:56 AM |
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MrsMessina
Thankful for our miracles!
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Posted by Myrtle1
Just because I conceived my children easily doesn't mean that I don't know what pain is. My 3 pregnancies were beautiful but unfortunately my pain started after the pregnancies. My 3 beautiful boys are severely autistic. My hopes and dreams that I had for them during my pregnancies have died. I know without a doubt that I love my boys as much as any mother loves her children, no matter how long it took her to get pregnant. I pray that your pain ends when you conceive and you have a healthy baby and you never have to experience anymore pain.
Good Luck
please no hate FM as with the last reply it was taken the wrong way.
Lauren, do you have a stalker?  This is the same person who responded to your last post- which ultimately is the one that made it get pulled....
Myrtle1- I saw your post right when it came on the boards... and again, was annoyed at the tone in your response... but wasn't sure how to respond so I sat on it until this morning... My mom has worked w/ children who attend BOCES for most of my life- and I see how difficult it is for their parents, and I'm sorry for you that you have continued pain now that you have your children.
However, as Rose825 said, this is an INFERTILITY board... and what the OP shared with us was beautiful and inspiring. NO WHERE does it state that people who get pg easily don't appreciate their children. or don't understand pain, but it is a different type of pain..... and I feel that's the way you've read into both of SweetTooth's posts...
I know I wrote it on the other thread, but that's gone so I'll say it again- if you don't have something nice to say- please, just keep it to yourself. This is our safe haven- not a place that we care to be confrontational- we have enough of that in our every day life.
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juju
Welcome to the World!
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That was beautiful! Thanks for sharing!
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snowflake08
Love my boys!!!
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Beautiful!! thanks for sharing
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