Wanted to share an observation with you...

that left me feeling good.
We went to my aunt & uncle's house tonight for a BBQ. We weren't going to go b/c we aren't really in the mood to be social but my parents were going and we found out there were only going the be them and one other couple there with their son (who was thru IVF though we've never spoken of it), besides my aunt and uncle- and they have a really nice pool, so I wanted to go and swim since I haven't been allowed to in weeks. Anyway...

I was younger and had no clue about IF back when this couple was trying- and it was very 'hush hush'. I remember when she got pregnant how everyone was SO excited- more so than for the average person b/c she really struggled.(I say she b/c she is their friend- but know it's 'they' who struggled). I remember her shower being a BIG to do... and how thrilled everyone was to be throwing her one.
I found out earlier this week that they did IVF 3 times (among other things) before getting pregnant w/ their son (who is 10 now I think), and that was their last attempt b/c the funds had run out. I don't know if it's b/c I am just more sensitive and aware of things now than I used to be or what, but I noticed something tonight.

Her son is the ultimate center of her world. The way she talked about him to us the whole night, and watched him- it was just absolutely beautiful. You could really tell how much she appreciated and valued him- and I truly think that's b/c she had to work so much for him, that she's very aware of the blessing she has. It was just really heartwarming. My husband even noticed it- the love in her eyes and her voice was just tremendous- to the point that you had to take notice. She doesn't seem to take 1 second with him for granted.

I said to my DH after we left how I could see how she acted towards him and about him- how different it is than what I'm used to seeing w/ so many ppl we know who have kids- and he completely agreed. He thought it was interesting that i mentioned it, and said he thought maybe that was the lesson we were supposed to learn throughout all of this---- not to take the things we have or will get for granted (among other things) and never to lose sight of that.

I hope no one takes this the wrong way- it's just an observation that I picked up on tonight. I know plenty of people who haven't struggled a day to get pregnant, who absolutely adore their kids and whose kids are the center of their world as well--- but I've never seen someone almost in awe of what they have in front of them, especially 10 years or more after giving birth, if that makes any sense- you could see each day with him is a blessing to her. It was just really touching to me and beautiful to watch- and I wanted to share.

Message edited 9/1/2008 11:04:01 PM.

Re: Wanted to share an observation with you...

awww sweet story.... thanks for sharing