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peabody
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Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
I know I am getting there.
But what I am wondering is if I didn;t have a work/life related reason to wait, would I be ready now?
I am really starting to want to start a family. I am actually looking forward to it. But waiting for work/life related reasons.
Sometimes I feel like I am being to safe, that if it is what I want, I should just go for it. I am not getting any younger.
Did anyone go through these emotions?
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sometimesmommy
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Yup we waitied 6 years becuase of work issues-mainly schedule. I just had my 31st bday and realized that I have to muster up and let them know I need to leave a half hour early to get my kid if we have another one. We are BD right now so as soon as I hit 12 weeks preggo I will have the talk and if they cant deal I'll know now and interview for another position during maternity leave
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| Posted 12/9/06 8:21 AM |
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Jen2999
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Yep... I am SOOOO having the baby itch, but I dont have tenure (one more yearafter this one) and I need to finish my master's (will be done in March)
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| Posted 12/9/06 9:00 AM |
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Eva Luna
Be kind...life's hard!
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God, bless & heal my DH, JenG's DH Rob & DebG
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
We waited until "everything was right" and honestly, couldn't regret it more.
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| Posted 12/9/06 9:01 AM |
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alexlynn7
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
both DH and i are in medical residency, and the "ideal world" scenario would have been for us to wait until the third year of residency, when life gets much easier (call only one weekend day a month, much closer to 9-5 hours, etc).
but the truth is, i am not getting any younger. my mother is also not getting any younger, and i really want her to be around for a long time with my children. and last but not least, i am just ready to be a mom.
so if i am pregnant during this year (god-willing,  ) it is basically gonna suk. i have two months of night float (8p-8a, 5 days a week) ahead of me, and plenty of other badness. but don't feel like i can't wait any longer, so i will have to deal... i keep telling myself it will go by fast
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| Posted 12/9/06 9:11 AM |
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christy
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
I was ready about a year ago, but we waited because I was working on my masters + 60 for work and looking for a house. Now we have both, and we are trying. Dh just needs all the ducks to be in a row! 
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| Posted 12/9/06 9:20 AM |
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Karen
Just chillin'!!
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Yes, we waited and it turned out to be useless. We wanted to deliver in the summer, since I am an untenured teacher. Got all that right, but didn't plan on miscarrying  . Now, I just don't care about timing, I just want a healthy baby!
You can plan all you want, in the end things will just happen as they are meant to!
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| Posted 12/9/06 10:28 AM |
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DRMom
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Posted by alexlynn7
both DH and i are in medical residency, and the "ideal world" scenario would have been for us to wait until the third year of residency, when life gets much easier (call only one weekend day a month, much closer to 9-5 hours, etc).
but the truth is, i am not getting any younger. my mother is also not getting any younger, and i really want her to be around for a long time with my children. and last but not least, i am just ready to be a mom.
so if i am pregnant during this year (god-willing, ) it is basically gonna suk. i have two months of night float (8p-8a, 5 days a week) ahead of me, and plenty of other badness. but don't feel like i can't wait any longer, so i will have to deal... i keep telling myself it will go by fast
Just an FYI, I think there is another Dr on here in her residency pregnant right now. I *think* her screen name is Waytogo.
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| Posted 12/9/06 2:28 PM |
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alexlynn7
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Posted by melijane
Posted by alexlynn7
both DH and i are in medical residency, and the "ideal world" scenario would have been for us to wait until the third year of residency, when life gets much easier (call only one weekend day a month, much closer to 9-5 hours, etc).
but the truth is, i am not getting any younger. my mother is also not getting any younger, and i really want her to be around for a long time with my children. and last but not least, i am just ready to be a mom.
so if i am pregnant during this year (god-willing, ) it is basically gonna suk. i have two months of night float (8p-8a, 5 days a week) ahead of me, and plenty of other badness. but don't feel like i can't wait any longer, so i will have to deal... i keep telling myself it will go by fast
Just an FYI, I think there is another Dr on here in her residency pregnant right now. I *think* her screen name is Waytogo.
cool! when the time comes for me i will definitely track her down. thanks!! 
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| Posted 12/9/06 2:31 PM |
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luckyinlove
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Yeah-- I am so ready now, but DH is not. We also want to have a house first, b/c our apartment is so small, if we had a baby here, we would have to get rid of our couch! Soon!!
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| Posted 12/9/06 2:47 PM |
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
We waited until we (almost) had a house - when we started bidding and ready to buy. That is the only reason we waited to TTC, that was important to us. We felt ready otherwise, and of course its ok to wait for life reasons!
I think its smart to look at your entire life and know whether or not you want to bring a child into the world. That IMO should be part of what you and DH discuss before TTC. Good luck on your decision! 
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| Posted 12/9/06 3:02 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Tara, I think if you are ready, start now! Tenure isn't that big a deal in our line of work; with the state they couldn't fire you for being PG anyway.
Honestly my last appt with my gyno scared me (I am not TTC). She said seriously that we should think aboutstarting soon because of the greater risk of complications after low/mid 30s. I want two, and had planned on starting after my doctorate when I will be 30. I know we can't plan...It could take years to get PG, and I want at least 2 1/2 years between kids. My mom had my brother and I late, but had a really, really hard time getting PG. My aunt miscarried 8 times. The numbers just get scary the older you get. If you feel emotionally ready, I say go for it! You have a house and the means so the rest is up to you!
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| Posted 12/9/06 10:21 PM |
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cookben
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Posted by Eva Luna
We waited until "everything was right" and honestly, couldn't regret it more.
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| Posted 12/9/06 10:48 PM |
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JsWife
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
I think we all do this to a degree. I also think you have to follow your heart. Maybe if you delay because you say it is a work issue or a house issue - you aren't really ready. Who knows? I have always believed things happen for a reason and happen when they do or don't for a reason. Just follow your heart.
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| Posted 12/9/06 11:33 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Posted by peabody
I know I am getting there.
But what I am wondering is if I didn;t have a work/life related reason to wait, would I be ready now?
I am really starting to want to start a family. I am actually looking forward to it. But waiting for work/life related reasons.
Sometimes I feel like I am being to safe, that if it is what I want, I should just go for it. I am not getting any younger.
Did anyone go through these emotions?
YES! I went through those exact emotions and still go through them. But, at 29, I realized that the "ideal" time in my career would not be until I was 31. And, since I've been ready for at least the last year I did some serious thinking.
I thought about it like this - could I be happy if I never achieved "everything" I want career wise - YES. Could I be happy if I never had the "family" I have always dreamed of - NO. Thinking of it this way put things in perspective for me. And, now I've put it in God's hands and whatever happens happens Knowing how long it takes for some people ttc I just didn't want to take the chance for the sake of my career.
It is SUCH a tough decision though - it stinks being a woman today! This is something that a man NEVER has to worry about GOOD LUCK!
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| Posted 12/10/06 10:33 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Posted by Eva Luna
We waited until "everything was right" and honestly, couldn't regret it more.
We could have waited another 3-5 years, when faced with a medical dilemma, we tossed out the idea of waiting immediately. We had already been married for almost 4 years. We just wanted to be extra prepared.
Our first try, we did get pregnant. Medically, the problem turned out to be something very insignificant. But it was the push we needed, took, and never looked back. Things will all work itself out. Fertility is a crazy thing. You really don't know your place until you try.
At the end of the day, we just decided..above all we could be happy without a big house, more in our savings, or more trips...but a baby, honestly, I would have traded anything for one.
good luck with your decision!
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| Posted 12/10/06 10:39 AM |
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HarleyGirlFLA
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
I am but right now, I just got promoted, I have a convention in February that I am assistant production on, formal training seminars I am working on, as well as some home projects we are working on.
I want to get a little more established as the supervisor, make sure my team is operational, and 2007 is going to be a really big year at the office. 2007 is going to make or break us as the company hits its 2 year anniversary.
I think once things get a little more set in place at both home (some trips we want to take, a cruise in September, etc...) and work we'll really be ready to TTC.
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| Posted 12/10/06 11:07 AM |
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raken40
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Karen
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
we waited to TTC because i started a new job in the summer and was able to get short term disability..But in order for pregnancy to be covered, you need to have the policy in force for at least 10 months before giving birth..
We have a big mortgage now, and we'll need that extra cash while i am out of work....
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| Posted 12/10/06 11:11 AM |
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
well, sort of,I have a big career opportunity that recently came up. I question whether I can take it on if I have a baby. I am very conflicted about it. If I were younger, I would definiitely use this as an excuse to wait. I waited to get married b/c of career (and other reasons). Now I am in my late 30s.
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| Posted 12/10/06 4:23 PM |
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2girlsforme
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Just some advice/opinion from the other side. I am currently 40 and my girls are 9 and 4. This was not ideally the way I planned it. Given that my first conception and pregnancy were effortless, I got cocky and put off having my second, largely for career reasons. That turned out to be a big mistake, because I learned first hand that second pregnancy infertility is far more predominant that I imagined. Eventually, I became pregnant and successfully delivered. But the whole experience taught me not to take fertility for granted (especially in your mid thirties). I agree with the above poster's sentiment regarding living without all you hoped for career wise as opposed to not having a child. I have also found that career opportunity happens when you least expect it and sometimes we have the ability to "create" it ourselves. Hope that helps someone.
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| Posted 12/10/06 8:26 PM |
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Samnjenna
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
both DH and i are in medical residency, and the "ideal world" scenario would have been for us to wait until the third year of residency, when life gets much easier (call only one weekend day a month, much closer to 9-5 hours, etc).
but the truth is, i am not getting any younger. my mother is also not getting any younger, and i really want her to be around for a long time with my children. and last but not least, i am just ready to be a mom.
I'm so with ya! DH and I are both writing our dissertations. Plus we just moved to a new state, both have new jobs, and are buying a house -- so we're a little stressed. We have been saying that we would wait until we were both on our last chapters -- but we're also both in our 30s and we just can't wait!!!
I know life will change big time once I get pregnant (and I'm really really afraid of loving being a mom so much that I never get my career on track), but I can't imagine waiting too much longer.
DH says if we get our BFP it will give us that much more incentive to push ahead and get the dissertations done before our due date!
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| Posted 12/11/06 9:28 AM |
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Posted by Eva Luna
We waited until "everything was right" and honestly, couldn't regret it more.
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| Posted 12/11/06 10:22 AM |
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randella
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
Other than the fact that I have been at my job for 6 months and don't feel like it's the right time with that-- I really want to see a couple of more things before we are more tied down. The earliest i can see us starting is in the spring-- when we will have been married two years-- but, I really honestly believe we'll try within the next year-- and after another big trip.
I have posted like three or four posts similar to this here-- and it's really never easy. Sometimes my feeling is so strong, and other times I just want to go out and have fun and think wow, I am really not ready for that kind of committment.
I also have a demanding job and need to really spend a little more face time-- I was at work til midnight last night. ON A SUNDAY! I would not be able to do that if I was a mom-- and there is only so much longer I am willing to put up with that-- but, I need to pay my dues a bit at this new job.
I feel like, when I know the time is really right- I'll just know. And now-- I am too ambivalent-- so it's not the right time.
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| Posted 12/11/06 7:27 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Was anyone ready to TTC, but waiting for work/life related reasons?
we were going to wait until january, but we started earlier. i just got af so it looks like it may be january.
we wanted to wait to get a house but honestly, after reading these boards, i know that having a baby is not an overnight thing. but i can see why others wait, we just choose not to.
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