What are your DH/SO doing to make life easier for you?

I wonder if I am just expecting too much and wonder what everyone else's DH/SO is doing to make things easier for them.

Thusfar, DH hasn't really done anything to make things easier for me but I'm not really sure what I expect. I would love for him to clean the house or cook dinner or take dd out for a little while to give me a break but he doesn't. I'm wondering if I'm expecting too much.

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Dh helps out with everything. I feel very lucky to have him, sometimes I don't think I could do it without him. He's always been this way though, not just becuase we have kids.

I don't think you are expecting to much. Just ask him, he might very well not realize that you need/want help.

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Posted by carriegirl

Dh helps out with everything. I feel very lucky to have him, sometimes I don't think I could do it without him. He's always been this way though, not just becuase we have kids.

I don't think you are expecting to much. Just ask him, he might very well not realize that you need/want help.

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I'm probably not the person to ask because my husband does a lot for me in general. He's the one who cooks and for the most part i'm the one who cleans. But he always vacuums every week to help me and he'll clean the shower (i hate cleaning the shower).

So really since i've been pregnant, he hasn't done anything out of the ordinary. Although i haven't needed any help since i feel so good anyway.

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DH is doing so much for me already!! just some minor things.. i dont want to lift any heavy things.. he will help me clean the house . since i have terrible m/s..

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Posted by shamrock124

Posted by carriegirl

Dh helps out with everything. I feel very lucky to have him, sometimes I don't think I could do it without him. He's always been this way though, not just becuase we have kids.

I don't think you are expecting to much. Just ask him, he might very well not realize that you need/want help.

That is what gets me upset...I have asked and he rarely takes the initative. I'm just at the end of the pregnancy and between work, a small child, and a house to take care of - I'm completely exhausted on all fronts.

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He massages my lower back as it's been hurting since 11wks or so. He helps with heavy lifting, even if its just bringing the laundry down to the basement.
He cooks, cleans up, does whatever I ask him to do.

I should be pg all the time!

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DH has been really good about doing the dishes and cooking if i need him to... i am still exhausted all the time and he doesn't complain at all if i need to come home and take a 2-hour nap plus, he hasn't complained ONCE about cleaning the litter box

he's been really good about not reprimanding me about what i eat... i try to eat healthy but if i want ice cream, he knows it's not really me, it's the baby

he also hasn't given me a hard time at all about clothes shopping... and i think showing him how my belly looks in my new jeans really helped the cause

ETA: he also does the bulk of the laundry, and folds his own clothes.

Message edited 3/14/2008 9:33:26 AM.

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He has accepted the fact that I have become absent minded and does not pass judgment. Other than that, I can pretty much fend for myself and haven't needed for him to do anything special. Then again, I am still prety mobile at this point.

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Damm, i don't think i'm getting my fair share!

Don't get me wrong, my hubby is awesome and I love him to death..BUT...other than rubbing my feet, barbequing and folding his clothes...i'm pretty much on my own.

He did arrange for us to have the house professionally cleaned every three weeks.

I think that's it!

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Like some of the other posters have said...he's a man and doesn't realize.
My DH hasn't done much different from normal. The only difference is that he is less argumentative when I ask him to do something and he does it the first time I ask(usually). Other than that, he takes the initiative on nothing and watches TV as per usual....

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I have to admit..DH was been wonderful so far....He's been cleaning the bathrooms so I wont be near any toxic fumes from the Clorox, he mops the floors, he has been helping out with the laundry and he has been driving me to work every morning ...I work in Manhattan and we live in Bayside!!!!


If I would have known what he is capable of doing, I would have tried to get pregnant alot sooner!!!!

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Well, he has been kind enough to increase his volume of snoring which provides me with motivation to get out of bed and pee every night

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He's taken helping around the house to a new level. He won't let me carry anything (not even the empty laundry basket).
He cleans the bathroom - something I don't think he's EVER done in his adult life.

He tells me I'm beautiful every day and doesn't make fun of my new gas issues.

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I do most of the cooking
The dishes every night
I make my own lunch
I do all the grocery shopping

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I have asked DH to help out more around the house. At this point, I can't be on my hands and knees cleaning the tub!

He has been giving me a lot of back rubs and massages...

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since even before getting pregnant he is great as helping where needed!

Now he even does cleaning with chemicals, like the bathroom, so I don't have to.

He has been a great help through this, emotionally too!!!!

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My poor DH does everything - although he was good about that before I got pregnant.

He is currently renovating our kitchen and two bathrooms. On top of that he picks me up from the train station at night, makes dinner, does the dishes, sets me up with the appropriate pillow sequence at night and gives me nightly massages. He's been doing the laundry and other household chores too.

I feel bad when I type it out - my job is usually just to b*tch.

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Let’s see….
Pretty much since I got the news he’s helped with dinner, because I am too tired to do it myself or even help (like we used to). He’s suffered with my wacky hunger (sometimes I am, mostly I’m not). He’s suffered a long trip to Jersey for me to get some chicken (I drove). He has always done the litter boxes, he’s always been a clean up the dishes sort of guy, but he hasn’t helped with cleaning more than lifting the vacuum for me.

He complains about my being tired and lately my allergies. He complains that I made him drive me to work for a week because my truck was in the shop or I was too tired and flaky to drive. He complains at my choice of foods and choice not to eat things I bought (changed my mind). He’s not the kind to jump, cry or react at the ultra sound. He’s even told me he doesn’t really ‘get’ I’m pregnant cause he sees nothing. He’s not exactly gushing over this change for us. He complains when I even mention him coming to a doctor appointment to see the creature within.

Still, it’s his first time and mine, what does he know, what do I know? At least he’s not denying me anything (yet). I am lucky that he’s a man I know will make a very attentive father and will love our child hopelessly. He’s jus the type who has to see it to believe it kind of thing.

Hey, he clipped my toe nails and I’m not even big yet!!!

I count the little things as blessings and I’m grateful. He still loves me, that means something doesn’t it?

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Aaww I'm sorry Morgan, I hope your DH gets his act together soon and at least helps out more when #2 arrives!

If it makes you feel any better, I'm not getting any help at home. I didn't expect any though. No cleaning, no cooking, no help w/ the dog, not 1 massage, nothing. Although he takes the garbage out once every week or two now, which is new. I do have to give him that b/c it makes a world of difference for me not having to carry/drag it anymore. Same with the recycling. He doesn't do it every week, but sometimes and it really helps me.