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What do I do with MIL for three weeks?
I know I have complained in the past about my MIL's upcoming three week visit (the big issue being the sleeping arrangement since we have no place except our couch).
My big issue now is not a complaint (do I hear some of you rejoicing?), it is wondering what to do with her for three weeks?
I am currently working full and part time and taking two grad classes as well as growing a baby. DH is working full time (and long hours at that) and taking two MBA classes at NYU (which adds commute time to the city).
DH has been so stressed with work, school, and preparing for baby that he has not thought twice about what his mom will do for three weeks.
Should we be thinking of activities for her or should we just make sure she rents a car and let her figure it out?
Also, how do we retain some private time for each other? We already rarely see each other and three weeks of spending all free time with her is not fair.
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Re: What do I do with MIL for three weeks?
Posted by MrsKL
Before I answer that - does she know the area you live in? Does she know anyone that lives nearby?
IL's lived one town over until they moved back to Poland this past summer. DH has aunts and uncles (his father's cousins) on LI. His mom is close with a few of them. I just don't know their work schedules, etc.
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| Posted 10/25/06 4:28 PM |
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Re: What do I do with MIL for three weeks?
I think she should be the one to figure out what to do. There is no need for you to have to entertain her. Of course, I'm sure you may want to spend some time with her on the weekends, if you have it, but she should be fine on her own.
Good Luck!
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| Posted 10/25/06 4:33 PM |
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Re: What do I do with MIL for three weeks?
Posted by Juliet
growing a baby.
That's adorable. I've never heard it termed that way before. 
I'd feel her out, ask her if she has anything in mind for visiting friends and family. Whatever time she doesn't have, she could help you around the house, or you could see about local things to do together?
It all depends on the person. I've had guests that wanted their every need satisfied and didn't lift a finger. I was polite but was so damn glad when they left.
I also resented having no personal time towards the end, but you just have to suck that up. It's only three weeks. 
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Re: What do I do with MIL for three weeks?
I would make sure she has a car available so she can get around. I can't imagine that she would expect you to entertain her 24/7 for three weeks but I would be sure to schedule lots of visiting time with her. I would try to get another relative to take her off your hands (so to speak) a couple of times to give you and DH some quiet time.
But I know when my mother comes into town, she generally schedules her visiting for during the day so she can spend evenings with my sister or I since she is mostly here to see us. Just thought I would warn ya.
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Re: What do I do with MIL for three weeks?
Posted by Christine
I would make sure she has a car available so she can get around. I can't imagine that she would expect you to entertain her 24/7 for three weeks but I would be sure to schedule lots of visiting time with her. I would try to get another relative to take her off your hands (so to speak) a couple of times to give you and DH some quiet time.
But I know when my mother comes into town, she generally schedules her visiting for during the day so she can spend evenings with my sister or I since she is mostly here to see us. Just thought I would warn ya.
She is going to rent a car since our schedules are such that we can't rely on the other to drive us to work AND DH doesn't really feel comfortable with his mother driving his car (and if he feels that way, I surely will not loan her mine)
I know she wants to see us but I am still  as to why she HAS to come when she is. Why not wait until Christmas break when we are finished with grad classes for the semester?
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