What do you think is harder to cope with?

Being rejected emotionally or being rejected physically?

Re: What do you think is harder to cope with?

Emotionally.

When I have been rejected physically, I could find an obvious "crutch" and it made the rejection easier. However, when the crutch no longer existed, and rejection was still happening, it forced me to look deeper and I realized I had a lot more work to do on myself - a much harder task.

Re: What do you think is harder to cope with?

do you mean someone rejecting you based on personality vs. looks?

if so, i think its harder to be rejected because of looks. i happen to like my personality, and if someone doesn't like it, that's their problem.

physically, though, i always think there's room for improvement - and if i was called out on an insecurity, it would probably hurt

Re: What do you think is harder to cope with?

I say personality.

If someone rejects me b/c of my looks, I am fine with that. For example: some guys don't like blonds, tall, short hair, etc. Rejecting me on the "outside" is alot easier to deal with then someone rejecting me for who I am on the "inside".

Re: What do you think is harder to cope with?

i think emotionally.

if i am rejected physically - i can eventually find a place where i fit in and can be accepted. i also think that for the most part you can change the physical - lose weight, change your hair, put on some makeup.

IMO - emotional rejection is so much harder. i still remember things as far back as elementary school that panged my heart. friends betraying me, insults from old bosses, broken hearts from old boyfriends - i think when you start messing with the internal it harbors so much longer.

Re: What do you think is harder to cope with?

depends on who's doing the rejecting. If it were DH, Both would hurt equally as much.

if it were anyone else, i wouldn't really care about either.

Re: What do you think is harder to cope with?

Emotional rejection definitely.

If someone rejected me for something physical, I would immediately interpret that rejection as a flaw in the other person's character so it would roll off my back.