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Porrruss
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What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
She's biting, she's whining, and she's tantruming. She is only 14 months old! PLEASE tell me this isn't the start of terrible twos ALREADY?!
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Posted 8/13/08 1:01 PM  |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
It really should be the "terrible toddler yrs" because all these different phases can strike at any time. good news is, it goes away, bad news is its usually replaced with another phase!!! DS did that, it lasted a couple mos, but then it got better. Everyone reassured me it was a phase and just when I thought I couldn't stand it another second or i'd never leave the house with DS again it was gone, just as fast as it appeared. 
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:08 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
oh yes, we are there too....MIkayla has her nice days and her witchy days.....she is strong willed and DOES NOT like to be told no 
Hold on and good luck
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:13 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
When she acts out though- what should I do? I know she's too young to understand "time-outs". If I make a mad face and say, "No bite", she just laughs.
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:36 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
Posted by Porrruss
When she acts out though- what should I do? I know she's too young to understand "time-outs". If I make a mad face and say, "No bite", she just laughs.
IMHO, she is not too young for time out. I started with miki at 14 months.....
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:37 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
Posted by Porrruss
When she acts out though- what should I do? I know she's too young to understand "time-outs". If I make a mad face and say, "No bite", she just laughs.
If dd bit me, she would definitely be in time out but that is just me 
Message edited 8/13/2008 1:38:22 PM.
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:38 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
OK- HOW do you do time-out? I'm really wanting to nip this in the bud.
Also- she has started biting herself as well as whatever is frustrating her (her push toy getting stuck warrants a bite on the toy's handle). Would I reprimand her for those as well- or only when she bites people?
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:42 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
Posted by Porrruss
OK- HOW do you do time-out? I'm really wanting to nip this in the bud.
Also- she has started biting herself as well as whatever is frustrating her (her push toy getting stuck warrants a bite on the toy's handle). Would I reprimand her for those as well- or only when she bites people?
I am by no means an expert but I can tell you what I do
I use time outs for when mikayla hits out of anger (she has not bitten yet - knock on wood) or when she severly disobeys me (like when I tell her to do or not do something numerous times)
The first time I did time out was for her wacking her then 2 months old cousin 
I picked her up, said "no hitting" and placed her on the ground...I told my family, who was there visiting to ignore her for one minute. Of course, she did not stay where I placed her and went up to everyone in the room with her arms outstretched to be picked up. No one picked her up, I turned my back to her when she came up to me (that BROKE my heart)....
She did not cry during this time. After the minute was over, I got down to her level and said "we do NOT hit the baby, you need to make nice", then she started to cry
I brought her over to Aidan and she gave him a kiss
I gave her a BIG hug and all was forgiven 
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:53 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
Posted by Porrruss
Also- she has started biting herself as well as whatever is frustrating her (her push toy getting stuck warrants a bite on the toy's handle). Would I reprimand her for those as well- or only when she bites people?
I would not put her in time out for biting herself, I would say "make nice, no biting" but my dd is not a biter so I am not sure if that is effective
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| Posted 8/13/08 1:54 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Porrruss
When she acts out though- what should I do? I know she's too young to understand "time-outs". If I make a mad face and say, "No bite", she just laughs.
IMHO, she is not too young for time out. I started with miki at 14 months.....
I agree. I started Time outs right around 12 mos. I never made him sit for a length of time at that age, but I put him in the time out spot and told him why he was there. Now he is 2 and I usually set the timer for 1 1/2 minutes, it almost always works. Even if I just say "your going in time out if blah, blah, blah" he usually does what I am asking of him.
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| Posted 8/13/08 3:47 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: What happend to my sweet, easy-going baby?!
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Porrruss
OK- HOW do you do time-out? I'm really wanting to nip this in the bud.
Also- she has started biting herself as well as whatever is frustrating her (her push toy getting stuck warrants a bite on the toy's handle). Would I reprimand her for those as well- or only when she bites people?
I am by no means an expert but I can tell you what I do
I use time outs for when mikayla hits out of anger (she has not bitten yet - knock on wood) or when she severly disobeys me (like when I tell her to do or not do something numerous times)
The first time I did time out was for her wacking her then 2 months old cousin
I picked her up, said "no hitting" and placed her on the ground...I told my family, who was there visiting to ignore her for one minute. Of course, she did not stay where I placed her and went up to everyone in the room with her arms outstretched to be picked up. No one picked her up, I turned my back to her when she came up to me (that BROKE my heart)....
She did not cry during this time. After the minute was over, I got down to her level and said "we do NOT hit the baby, you need to make nice", then she started to cry
I brought her over to Aidan and she gave him a kiss
I gave her a BIG hug and all was forgiven
I basically use the same technique and as DS got older and I expected him to sit for a full minute he got carried back to "the spot" each time he moved, but I do not engage in any conversation or give him attention at that time. Now that I have introduced a timer I do not start the timer until he is in "the spot." I am not ashamed to say if you watch supernanny, my technique mirrors hers.....the lady knows something....it works!
The key points are not to entertain them in anyway when they are in time out, to explain as best you can why they are there and to repeat why they are there when you go to get them out, and then give a big hug/kiss and then its over.
Good luck.....like I said early, this too shall pass.
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