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PrincessP
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wedding invite
a VERY gossipy neighbor after many yrs gets back in touch with my parents about 3 yrs ago. Invites them both to their daughters wedding. In turn they are invited to mine. My dad passed away this winter and they came in for approx 5 min and left very suddenly never returning calling etc... The neighbors then are all invited to their other daughters wedding shower (my mom excluded...y...no one knows). My mom was insulted etc... Do u believe she just received an invite to the wedding (its 3 weeks away). I think shes part of the "B" list. Shes not going and really wants nothing to do with them as they were unsupportive when my dad passed. Does she have to give a gift? If so how much?
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Posted 6/14/06 3:12 PM |
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MABLE03
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Member since 6/06 4563 total posts
Name: Fabulous
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Re: wedding invite
I don't think she needs to give a gift and thats pretty rude. If she really wanted to be polite I would send them something inexpensive off of the registry. But if it was me I would not send a gift.
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Posted 6/14/06 3:15 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: wedding invite
I would send a small gift that they can't trace the amount but could vary widely in price (ie a Marshalls crystal frame).
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Posted 6/14/06 3:15 PM |
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nov04libride
big brother <3
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Name: Me
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Re: wedding invite
I would just write on the invite "Would love to have attended but given the very short notice have other plans."
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Posted 6/14/06 3:16 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: wedding invite
no gift.
According to "The New Book of Wedding Etiquette" page 142:
"Guests who receive and decline a wedding invitation are under no obligation to buy a gift."
And, even people who attend a wedding are not REQUIRED to give a gift.
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Posted 6/14/06 3:17 PM |
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Christine
2nd verse same as the 1st
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Re: wedding invite
She doesn't need to send a gift unless she wants to.
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Posted 6/14/06 3:22 PM |
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GenLCSW
Baby # 3 is here!!!
Member since 7/05 21138 total posts
Name: Genna
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Re: wedding invite
I wouldnt give a gift either!
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Posted 6/14/06 3:46 PM |
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ana6178
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Re: wedding invite
I would not give a gift.
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Posted 6/14/06 3:47 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: wedding invite
based on what you said, I would absolutely NOT go and NOT give a gift
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Posted 6/14/06 3:48 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!
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Re: wedding invite
Posted by nov04libride
I would just write on the invite "Would love to have attended but given the very short notice have other plans." GOOD ONE!
I would change the "very short notice" to "extremely short notice"
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Posted 6/14/06 3:49 PM |
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PEACH28
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Member since 2/06 974 total posts
Name: Denea
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Re: wedding invite
no she doesn't have to give a gift i wouldn't if i was your mom i mean come on last minute invite?? nope. and plus not very supportive of your dad's passing? nah, can it.
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Posted 6/14/06 3:55 PM |
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dpli
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Member since 5/05 13973 total posts
Name: D
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Re: wedding invite
If I didn't care about maintaining a relationship with these people I wouldn't give a gift or feel guilty about it.
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Posted 6/14/06 6:46 PM |
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traceyd
Big Sister to Be!
Member since 5/05 3644 total posts
Name: Tracey
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Re: wedding invite
She definately does NOT need to send a gift
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Posted 6/14/06 7:21 PM |
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