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05mommy09
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Total vent (with kinda tmi)
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JenniferEver
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
WOW.
That's all I can say
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| Posted 4/21/06 7:56 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
well....i think i would definitely talk about it with my DH....
BUT, from what had been eluded to, it seems that you DH put her in her place...
SO in that respect i think i would let it go knowing that my DH handled it well!
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| Posted 4/21/06 7:59 PM |
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
I'll second the "WOW"...
I don't know that I'd be able to let this one slide. Time to open up a can of whoop-a$$ on the MIL!!!!
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| Posted 4/21/06 7:59 PM |
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sunny
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
 You can keep your mouth shut by knowing that she is a loon and your dh took care of it without involving you, probably because he knew you would get upset.
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| Posted 4/21/06 8:01 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Message edited 5/25/2006 10:03:02 PM.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Oh I think the best way to handle this IS to keep your mouth shut. If your DH hadn't written back I would have said to leave it alone. Just think how much more it would have bugged her to have her silly judgements be completely blown off and ignored! 
I don't know why you are bothered that your DH didn't mention the email exchange to you. I'm sure he knows about your issues with her and I think he handled it very well by sparing you (well, he tried) the stress of yet another MIL incident. I think his intentions were very good.
I wouldn't say anything to her. I know you are steaming now but what will it accomplish? It just gives more merit to her criticisms, and gives more power to hurt you. She wants to make this an issue. Don't let her.
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PrincessP
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Honestly, After all the Cr@p your MIL puts you through I dprobably laugh it off. OMG...its just a computer...as if you all are running a strip joint. She obviously wont be happy so enjoy the little things that piss her off
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Tany
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Wow, I'm sorry you have to deal with this type of bs.
You are such a good woman, you are doing a great job being Rj's mom.
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
all i can say is unbelieveable!! and sorry you have to deal with this,
I would almost speak to her about it - and put her in her place before she makes any further assumptions like she did. That's up to you though - but i think i would.
Its obvious that she has issues.
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| Posted 4/21/06 8:09 PM |
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I really don't see anything wrong with you saying something like, "listen, I heard what happened and I have to say I am very disappointed that you'd think that I would put ANYTHING before my son, much less something like that. I pride myself in being a great mom, and I just wish you'd have alittle more faith in my parenting"...something like that, and calmly. Make her feel guilty for even thinking what she thought.
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neenie
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Posted by Princessmaris
And yet why- please someone tell me why...
Beause you're the better person in this situation!! 
i know its frustrating, and its a tough pill to swallow, but i think its Great the your DH stepped up and took care of it himself without having to have You look like the bad guy- i'm not sure if i'm mixing you up with someone else- but i was thining that used to be an issue for you?
i would just let the 2 of them deal with it and fight it out. if you get involved, it's just going to make matters worse, and she'll probably write off the whole thing to your not liking her. At least if its from your DH, maybe she'll actually think about it...
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
you're a better person than me. I would have decked her 
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| Posted 4/21/06 8:12 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
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Posted by Princessmaris
And yet why- please someone tell me why...
Beause you're the better person in this situation!!
i know its frustrating, and its a tough pill to swallow, but i think its Great the your DH stepped up and took care of it himself without having to have You look like the bad guy- i'm not sure if i'm mixing you up with someone else- but i was thining that used to be an issue for you?
i would just let the 2 of them deal with it and fight it out. if you get involved, it's just going to make matters worse, and she'll probably write off the whole thing to your not liking her. At least if its from your DH, maybe she'll actually think about it...
couldn't agree more!
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juju
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
OMG! I would be soo livid!!
I would definitely approach her. I wouldn't be ugly about it....but I would!
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| Posted 4/21/06 8:21 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
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Myrockette
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Honestly, I'd just let your DH handle it if there's more to say... Once you start adding to it, things will probably just snowball and get ugly
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| Posted 4/21/06 8:47 PM |
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
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Honestly, I'd just let your DH handle it if there's more to say... Once you start adding to it, things will probably just snowball and get ugly
i'd a LIVID but as hard as it would be to keep my mouth shut, i'd have to agree with this. let him deal with her. im sorry - it sounds like you got stuck with a real winner
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Redhead
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Posted by Princessmaris
BabyAvocado- You said you wouldve told me not to respond regardless.... you feel that it would just burn her to hear her critcisims ignored...
Why do you think that? (No sarcasm- Im trying to look at it in a different light) I feel- ignoring her comments, makes her feel that shes right, and us keeping quiet about it instead of correcting her- makes her assume- her comments were needed!
i think because your MIL was looking to be mean and looking to be hurtful....
And if you didn't show her that she accomplished those goals...then there wouldn't be any satisfaction by what she said....
Planned ignoring can work wonders
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Stefanie
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Next time she comes over tell your DH to put the porn away right in front of her...
All joking aside, since it happened so long ago, you have no choice but to drop it.
Knowing me...I'd come right out and ask her..."So, you think I'm a bad mother, huh?"
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neenie
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
Posted by Princessmaris
I just feel like she needs to be notified that shes completly overstepping her boundries....
unfortunately, from what we've heard about her... it just seems like those words are going to fall on deaf ears.
remember- the opposite of love isn't hate, but Indifference. the less you feed into her negativity, eventually, the less she'll do it. Responding to her is just going to encourage her behavior. 
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| Posted 4/21/06 9:23 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
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Melbernai
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
I just think this woman tries to find anything and everything to drive you crazy. It reminds me of the MIL in the Jennifer Weiner book Little Earthquakes. Except she catches her son and DIL watching porn in the livingroom!!! 
As much as I aggree that it's over with and DH handled it so it's not worth bringing it up again, I do find it horribly annoying of her to make any remarks about what you and your DH do behind closed doors -- whether you do it or not, it's your business and NONE of hers at all!!!
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
it's not her business. you should tell her that..
and you should also tell her that she needs a life.
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monkeybride
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Re: Total vent (with kinda tmi)
She's a piece of work, that's all I can say.
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