What noone told you about TTC (from twoweekwait.com)

My best friend who is PG, emailed this to me.

What Nobody Told You About Trying to Conceive...

That unprotected sex doesn't necessarily lead to pregnancy.
That your sex life would start to resemble a science experiment.
That you would see your OBGYN/RE more often than your DH at O time.
That the longer you TTC, the more PG women spring up around you.
That deep down inside, I can be a very jealous person.
That one day you wouldn't mind checking your CM or CP to see if it is your fertile period.
That I should have gone to medical school like my mom wanted, because I've had to do so much medical research by now just to figure out what was wrong with me, I might as well be an M.D.
That I would know more about the female reproductive system and menstrual cycle than most of the doctors I go to.
That living your life in 2 week increments would be the norm
That you never knew how much you wanted to see those 2 pink lines......until only one shows up every month
That simply relaxing will NOT get you pregnant. (your dh has to do some work too)
That you have no control over some of the goals you set...
That wishing really hard for something doesn't make it happen, and staring at your chart doesn't make it change!
That one day my DH would know so much about how my uterus functions and what it looks like from the inside (thanks HSGs).
That a pregnancy doesn't always equal a baby.
That miscarriage is so common.
That I would wish we had started TTC earlier.
That I wasted ALOT of money on Birth control pills!!
************That it would help bring a group of wonderful, caring, funny, empathetic women together like this.*************
That I'd EVER be willing to stab myself in the stomach or @ss every day in the hopes that it will help get me PG.
That it wouldn't happen the first time you didn't use birth control like we were led to believe in school.
That you wouldn't know how important a baby was to you until it took so long and you realized what you were willing to go through to make it happen.
That family would act like getting pregnant was a competition between all the young couples in the family, and the first one to get pg "wins".
That my DH is the most wonderful and caring man!
That it is insensitive to ask people when they are having a baby!
That women who do get pregnant are so very blessed!
That I could have been rich saving money on condoms, which were obviously unecessary.
That I would be happy to see abundant cervial fluid and tell my DH about it.
That medicine and procedures are not a sure fire way to get pregnant but it is a sure fire way to lose money fast.
That had I bought stock in Clearblue Easy I'd have my mansion on St. Pete's Beach in FL by now.
That docs should prescribe Zoloft with Clomid.
That having flo show up makes you cry, no matter who's bathroom you are in.
That it does not get easier, each cycle is harder than the last.
Feeling like you wish your life away in 2 week increments.
That I wouldn't want to hold or see someone's baby because it just hurts way too much.
***That a group of "strangers" who I will probably never meet, have now become my "best friends" when it comes to ttc.*****
That I would splash urine on my face while taking apart an hpt in the hopes there really was a 2nd pink line hiding in it.
That talking about sex with fellow TTCers would be so easy.
That infertility is more common than you think.
That DH would get used to doing his 'thing' in a jar.
That one day all of this will make us stronger.
That there is sometimes darkness (infertility) before the light (a baby).
That no one I know (in my non TTC life) would have any understanding as to how I feel.
That my temper and patience are much shorter than I ever thought.
That infertility is not as rare as I was led to believe.
That my faith in God would be tested heavily.
That I would make so many new, wonderful friends who totally get how I feel because we all suffer from the same affliction of infertility.
That it could hurt so much to lose your innocence.
That I am very bitter towards unmarried accidental pgcys, and slightly bitter towards married accidental pgcys.
That there is nothing to aid conception in the water at work, despite what some may say.
That someone I thought to be my best friend would hurt me by saying that she was sick of hearing about my efforts at ttc.
That I'd discover who my true friends are, both IRL and online.
That I would know about other peoples' BD, CP, CM but not know there real name, their DH's name, or their occupation.
That I could spend so much time and money on figuring out what my body is doing (or not doing).
That foreplay would consist of DH asking "How's your cervix today"
That I should have become a gyno-which I think at this point I know more then some.
That some people just say the wrong things.
That a simple blood test costs $648!
That sex would ever become a chore!
That actually having a miscarriage would allow me to understand the loss that others have felt.
That miscarriage would make me want a baby even more than before!
That DH would be overly concerned that our BD positions were the most effective ones!
That I would become addicted to POAS and not sleep at night because I couldn't wait to POAS in the morning!
That I would learn to speak in code
Like I checked Cm which was EWCM but when I will POAS who knows, dh won't let me for fear of BFN
That when AF showed up you would feel broken.
hat your friendships with your real life girlfriends would suffer because they got pregnant after being off the pill for 3 weeks.
That this would be, by far, one of the hardest things you will ever have to go through.
That you HAVE to have sex even though you don't feel like it, but because your FM says high or peak.
That I would meet such wonderful group of people that I can share my sorrow, frustration and fears with.
That the two little words of "just relax" uttered by everyone I know would enfuriate me beyond belief.
That we would have to schedule a BD session so DH could do it in a cup a few days later.
That I would have to help DH do it in a cup. (Just this morning!)
That my friends who started TTC #1 around the same time we did would already be pregnant with #2 before we get pregnant with #1.
That the people around me would become more insensitive as time goes on. "It is so hard having a new baby, you just wouldn't understand." or "Be happy you're not tied down."
That I would watch a Baby Story every day... only to cry every day.
That I spent years trying not to get pregnant, and praying for my period. Now I can't seem to lose the witch!
It's good to know I am not alone.
That I would have to listen to people complain about their children as if they were burdens while a child is the one thing in the world I want the most. Also, they sound as if they are trying to talk me out of having kids, like it is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen to me.
That being overweight would cause people to ask when I'm due, which in turn could cause me to cry.
That I would yell at commercials on the TV (that "having a baby changes everything" one really gets to me. I can't watch it without snapping "So does not having one.")
That I would have to stop watching Birth Day and A Baby Story (two shows I love) because it just hurts too much.
That your body has its own mind.
Life as you know it will be interrupted for two weeks.
That the broken heart you feel each month that is equal to the pain you feel when you lose a loved one.
That you feel stupid and naive for thinking a pregnancy would occur "when it was supposed to".
What Nobody Told You About Trying to Conceive...

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Message edited 12/28/2007 3:34:54 PM.

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I love this!!!

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oh that made me

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Posted by headoverheels

oh that made me

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Posted by BrookeD

Posted by headoverheels

oh that made me

Me too, but I realized, now more than ever, I AM NOT ALONE...........And you guys mean the world to me!!!!!!

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Yes it does. I love my Sisters!!!!!!!!!!! No one else could or would understand........ SO here's a BIG HUG And an even bigger thank you, to all of you and GL with that BD-ing and TTC

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This is great and very, very true!

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Okay now I am crying. Not surprising because everything is making me cry today. TBAF must be on her way.

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Posted by sfp0701

Okay now I am crying. Not surprising because everything is making me cry today. TBAF must be on her way.

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This is so great and I just want to add one more thing...

In the end all the stess is worth is because soon we will all have a baby on board!!!!xoxoxo

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Posted by BrookeD

Posted by sfp0701

Okay now I am crying. Not surprising because everything is making me cry today. TBAF must be on her way.

I didn't mean it to make anyone upset, even though I cried too...... Just to help us realize how special this site is..... and her's to you dear

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This made me laugh out loud as well as cry! So true, so true!

I don't know what I would be doing if I didn't have you girls to talk to!

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I agree with all the ladies...You all mean so much to me and have helped me keep my sanity in this trying time!!

Thank you!!

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Well I'm glad that we all have each other... And here's something for all of us
And again, thanks ladies...

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