What reactions do you get when people

ask what names are you thinking about and say you are keeping it between you and your DH?

One person said to me, "Why is it a big secret? My daughter would never do that to me."

Did I ask your opinion????

I love the fact that it will be a surprise to friends and family and also I really don't want anyone's feedback about the names we pick.

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We didn't find out the sexes or tell anyone our names. Boy did people hate us! We did have our girl names for almost 2 years at the time so it would be a lie if we said we didn't know what they would be (actually our second daughter's middle name was changed about a month before I gave birth).

We just told people it was a surprise and we didn't want to hear anyone's opinions if they didn't like the names...I heard too many horror stories on LIF of people commenting on their chosen name!

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Posted by FireIslandLove

We didn't find out the sexes or tell anyone our names. Boy did people hate us! We did have our girl names for almost 2 years at the time so it would be a lie if we said we didn't know what they would be (actually our second daughter's middle name was changed about a month before I gave birth).

We just told people it was a surprise and we didn't want to hear anyone's opinions if they didn't like the names...I heard too many horror stories on LIF of people commenting on their chosen name!

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That's why I always told people we were undecided. That saved that response. We really weren't 100% although we were pretty certain.

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How do you feel about lying? Can you say the technician wasn't able to find out? And that you don't have a name chosen?

I was a hormonal mess I guess (and stuck on bed rest) so I asked DH if he was sure about the names almost every night. I was like what about this name, or that name? It was probably a good thing we didn't announce them just in case we wound up changing it last minute. Same thing goes for the next time, we won't find out (and yes that moment when the doctor says what it is really IS that amazing IMO ), and we won't be telling our names.

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We knew our names a while before the baby was born. We just dodged the question for a long time saying that we had a few ideas, but couldn't agree. Then, the last 6 weeks or so we did start saying we had names but just weren't telling.

A few of my friends tried to get it out of me, but it was more like "Please? I promise I won't tell anyone...." I found most people said that we were smart not to tell, so we wouldn't have to hear all the comments.

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DH family keeps bugging us...I finally told them that DH wants to be able to announce something after she is born...pls give that much to him and leave us alone...
my grandmother stuck up for me at one of my family dinners and told my brother that he needs to nevermind in due time so that is what she has been calling her ever since lol...my baby shower card was made out to "nevermind in due time" so funny

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Well we found out the sex & kept it a secret between us & wouldn't share names w/ anyone. If people would ask we'd come up w/ ridiculous names & say it w/ a straight face

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So far we really are undecided but I think we will keep it a secret when we do decide. I don't want to hear anything negative about the names we pick.

Also, the middle names we are considering are after special people in our family, I'd like to surprise them with that when they meet the baby for the first time.

Don't let anyone make you feel bad about keeping the names between you and DH! Everyone will find out eventually.

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we actually gave out fake names for each sex, and then did a swoop and swap after she was born..every one felt like they knew but it was a great surprise when she was born.

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We just told DH's extended family were pg at a family party last night. So far we only have one name picked out for a girl and when asked we shared. We got the one eyebrow raised response followed by a "what was that name" and a chorus of mispronunciations. DH's aunt chimed in how all of her children are named after important people of the bible as if we should be doing the same. I learned my lesson, to keep my mouth shut. Besides, the only people who have to approve of the names are the two of us.

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We didnt tell anyone our names....

When people gave us crap about it (which was rare, actually ) we would say we want everything to be a surprise (we also werent finding out the gender...)

We also would say, "I dont want the name to be tainted by a bad reaction."

The last thing we wanted is to hear the following:

I know someone who named their dog that
I knew someone with that name in HS and I hated him/she was a slut
What? WHY would you name your child that?

The list goes on and on - I also didnt want the baby to be called by that name until he/she came out of me... it was important to me...

We went with Cailen for our son - I knew people would have trouble saying it right and ask why we were naming him a "girl" name... I figured it would be easier for them to keep their mouths shut if they saw the person behind the name...

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We did not tell anyone our names. People took it better than we thought they would. My mom kept telling me that she figured it out but would not tell me the name she thought we had picked. That was her way of turning it around on us. Now she admits she had no clue.

I am happy with the way we did everything--we found out the sex and told people but the name was a secret.