what should i do..friend drama?? (long)

I have had a very very close friend since 7th grade, we have been threw alot together...for college she went to school in AZ yet we maintained contact for the 3 yrs that she was there, when she would come home to NY i would see her once or twice but we always chatted threw email or phone... after graduation in may she moved to israel.. obviously it was hard to keep touch...once in a blue moon we would exchange an email or phone call... in september she came to NY... it was her brothers bar mitzvah here in the US..
The same week she was here was when I had started that new job (u all kno the story of how depressed i was, and how broke i had been) I called to tell her that id love to see her but was really busy so we would work something out to hang out...she went to the city one nite and left me a VM by the time i got the VM (i was in the gym) and i called her back she was not home ( her cell had recently been disconnected) so the entire week she was in NY I never saw her and we spoke like 1 time...

with my work/life drama.. and her cell being disconnected it was really hard to mantain contact and to be honest, i didnt make much of an effort when my life was in chaos and our friendship had kinda been on and off with her never in town...

after she left NY and went back to israel (in septemeber) i emailed her 5 times... got no responses...and tried the only cell number i had (still to hear it was disconnected)

so obviously... shes either ****** off with me or doesnt care to mantain the friendship...

so today i called her home here in NY--her parents house to "say i was concerned cause I havent heard from her" and her mom said oh heres her new cell number...

its an international cell number...
im soooo ****** off that she has a new cell and i never heard from her...and my emails have gone un answered..... im sure shes ****** off i never made time for her when she got to ny..but now that i kno she has a cell and ignored my emails i dont know what to do...

call her cell and what?? say how f*cked up i think it is?? act nice?? apologize?? dont bother calling...

Re: what should i do..friend drama?? (long)

I'd give it another shot. From what you're telling us, it seems like there wasn't a reason NOT to be her friend, just that life kind of got in your way. That happens, sometimes.

I know how it feels, though.

Re: what should i do..friend drama?? (long)

Michi- Try to give her the benefit of the doubt, IF you think its worth it. I know its easy to jumpt to conclusions that she is angry or mad that you two couldn't get together when she was in NY. But perhaps, like you were before, she has some things going on in life right now.
Honestly, I f I had friend from that long ago in my past I would do just about anything to hold on to the friendship.
Either way

Re: what should i do..friend drama?? (long)

I had a similar situation, my best friend moved away to Israel. We kept in touch. I knwo that she would have been very hurt if i didn't make efforts to see her when she was home. Its very hard when you're away and when you try to connect with someone at home and they don't seem that interested.

It sounds to me like she thought you were blowing her off - you even said you didn't make such efforts because of what was going on in your life.

I don't understand why you are angry- I would be hurt and disappointed that she didn't respond to e-mails, but she may have been hurt and disappointed that you didn't make more efforts to see her when she was here. I don't think she is right- its not right not to respond to th e-mails- but you never know- maybe she changed her e-mail or doesnt' check it very regularly.

I think you need to be understanding of her. Now you have her cell number. Give her a call and try to clear things up.