What type of person are YOU?

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Message edited 1/20/2010 6:10:10 PM.

Re: What type of person are YOU?

I'd call them out---but that's just me.

Probably tell them that they don't need to bother with excuses, you won't believe them, and you KNOW they did it, and you will make sure it doesn't happen again. Let them know that you are not someone who will just smile politely.

I assume there is no way to get HR involved or higher-ups if these are your only 2 options?

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Message edited 1/20/2010 6:10:29 PM.

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I would call them out. I have done it and would do it again. But I don't do it in a hostile way (at work at least).

If there's hope for her retiring this year, maybe lay low and get to her by not engaging her. Hopefully you won't have to deal with her soon.

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The second option.
I've done it before.

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In general I don't say anything. It's a pretty powerful position to be in when people show you who they are. I keep the knowledge and stay aware for future reference.

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Posted by DiamondGirl

Without getting into specifics, this person has burned many bridges.

Higher up's feel said person is of no use, and actually HURTFUL to their work.

As a result of tenure and seniority little can be done--except hope for retirement this year

She is on an underhanded war path and honestly I really want to walk into her office and rip her a new one bc that is what I would normally do....

but since it is WORK I feel like maybe I am better off just continuing to be "cool" or cold and not engaging her --which for this person is probably a worse punishment.

It is just so hard NOT to say GET OUT OF MY FACE I make sure she is out of my face but in a polite way...does this make sense?

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It all depends on what it is that was underhanded. If it's something illegal or would cause the company jeopardy, I immediately bring it up to by supervisors.

If it's not that severe & it's a work thing and I have firsthand knowledge, I take them in my office & discuss it with them.

If it's something I have secondhand knowledge about, I ask them about it & see what they say.

However it is part of my job to deal with the disputes at work.

If by calling someone you out, you mean publically telling someone they're underhanded, etc, no I don't do that. I think it's best always to avoid being involved in the drama at work. It's not helpful to the office environment & even more importantly, it's not a good career move.

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Also consider retaliation and if there is anything you currently gain from her that you would lose. As much as I hate games and just wish people would be who they are and not pretend, sometimes you have to play the game too. To protect yourself.

I wouldn't do anything to put my job in jeopardy. But if she's already aware that you know, besides you gaining your own satisfaction at confronting her, what will you gain?

I'm usually outspoken about things but I'm starting to realize that if there's nothing positive that will come of it, maybe it's just not worth your time.

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Posted by DiamondGirl

Posted by greenfreak

But if she's already aware that you know, besides you gaining your own satisfaction at confronting her, what will you gain?

I think this hit it on the head for me TY


I appreciated your feedback.

I was just wondering what others would do in the situation

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Unless there was something guaranteed to be gained by calling them out on what they did, I would keep quiet and do the cool and polite thing. Better to stay above the drama, IMO.