What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

What are some common misconceptions you have that made you scared to be a mom? Have any been proven wrong?

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

I though I woudl be totally nervous and neurotic. I wasn't. It all came so naturally.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

That DH and my relationship would be hampered (don't know if that's the right word) by having a child. It has made us so much more solid, and we were doing great beforehand, but now, being a family, it's so amazing. Having our son has only bettered us as a couple. Even if we're usually too tired to act like it ;)

This sounds selfish but weight gain. I only got 13 lbs to go and honestly, who cares. I'll get there eventually.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

That my life would be over.

Seriously.

It sounds horrible but that's the way I felt.

I was afraid I would resent my child because my life would be 100% devoted to raising a child.

I was afraid I'd be miserable and just have to "grin and bear it" until the child went off to college and then I could start my life again.

I WAS SO WRONG.

Quite the contrary has happened, in fact. There are so many things that having a child has opened up in my life. There so many things to look forward to and so many new surprises....so much more love in my life.

It's almost like getting to relive your childhood again through your child's eyes...it pretty amazing. The total opposite of my life being over...more like it just started...again.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

This is going to sound silly. I was worried that my brain would turn to mush & all I would talk about would be my kids.

There is no doubt my mind is preoccupied with many more things than before. Having children, exploring & explaining everything around (what does a Dead End mean? Do people die if they go down there?) has become a more interesting way of looking at things. It also means I have to brush up on the why part of my world around me so I can explain it to them.

As for talking about them all of the time - on a parenting board I do, but not in real life. It's just an added facet rather than the sole topic to my everyday conversation.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

Posted by BabyAvocado

That my life would be over.

Seriously.

It sounds horrible but that's the way I felt.

I was afraid I would resent my child because my life would be 100% devoted to raising a child.

I was afraid I'd be miserable and just have to "grin and bear it" until the child went off to college and then I could start my life again.

I WAS SO WRONG.

Quite the contrary has happened, in fact. There are so many things that having a child has opened up in my life. There so many things to look forward to and so many new surprises....so much more love in my life.

It's almost like getting to relive your childhood again through your child's eyes...it pretty amazing. The total opposite of my life being over...more like it just started...again.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

Finances. I was petrified that things would be so traumatically different. Yeah, having a baby was different on our finances, but it all worked out. The second baby it was a lot tougher, financially, but this too shall pass.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

Posted by BabyAvocado

That my life would be over.

Seriously.

It sounds horrible but that's the way I felt.

I was afraid I would resent my child because my life would be 100% devoted to raising a child.

I was afraid I'd be miserable and just have to "grin and bear it" until the child went off to college and then I could start my life again.

I WAS SO WRONG.

Quite the contrary has happened, in fact. There are so many things that having a child has opened up in my life. There so many things to look forward to and so many new surprises....so much more love in my life.

It's almost like getting to relive your childhood again through your child's eyes...it pretty amazing. The total opposite of my life being over...more like it just started...again.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

Posted by BabyAvocado

That my life would be over.

Seriously.

It sounds horrible but that's the way I felt.

I was afraid I would resent my child because my life would be 100% devoted to raising a child.

I was afraid I'd be miserable and just have to "grin and bear it" until the child went off to college and then I could start my life again.

I WAS SO WRONG.

Quite the contrary has happened, in fact. There are so many things that having a child has opened up in my life. There so many things to look forward to and so many new surprises....so much more love in my life.

It's almost like getting to relive your childhood again through your child's eyes...it pretty amazing. The total opposite of my life being over...more like it just started...again.

Re: What were you worrying about for nothing before having kids?

i was worried about finances, but it turns out we're doing just fine. i also worried that having a baby would change the relationship i have with DH. things have definitely changed, but i think our relationship has gotten even better than before.