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What would you do?

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Melmel821
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What would you do?

So I work many weekends and since I have this one off I figured DH and I could invite our parents out to dinner on saturday. My parents obviously say yes. He asks his parents if they want to have dinner... just the four of us and they say yes. He refuses to ask to change plans to include my parents.

I understand that his mother hasn't been in her best health and as DH puts it "not sociable." And we live closer to and see my parents more often.

But from my point of view I wanted to get the parents together since we haven't all been together since the wedding.

So now he expects me to just cancel plans with my parents!

I really don't know what to do. Maybe he should go out with his and I go out with mine?

Posted 4/3/09 1:46 PM
 

TheDivineMrsM
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Re: What would you do?

Explain your rationale to him, and that you want your family together. I think the six of you getting together is a sweet idea. I'd question his resistance to all go out together as a family.

Posted 4/3/09 1:49 PM
 

Melmel821
Love being a mom!

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Melanie

Re: What would you do?

Posted by TheDivineMrsM

Explain your rationale to him, and that you want your family together. I think the six of you getting together is a sweet idea. I'd question his resistance to all go out together as a family.



Maybe there is something going on with his mother that he hasn't told me. Shes been dealing with cancer for long time.

Posted 4/3/09 2:03 PM
 

MissRadiant
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Re: What would you do?

Posted by Melmel821

Posted by TheDivineMrsM

Explain your rationale to him, and that you want your family together. I think the six of you getting together is a sweet idea. I'd question his resistance to all go out together as a family.



Maybe there is something going on with his mother that he hasn't told me. Shes been dealing with cancer for long time.



Speak to your Dh first and ask him why he would want it to be only you 4 and not your parents inlcuded as well. You're right it could be that your MIL is not doing as good as you may have thought she was.

Posted 4/3/09 3:14 PM
 

RockysGirl
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Cassandra

Re: What would you do?

Posted by MissRadiant

Posted by Melmel821

Posted by TheDivineMrsM

Explain your rationale to him, and that you want your family together. I think the six of you getting together is a sweet idea. I'd question his resistance to all go out together as a family.



Maybe there is something going on with his mother that he hasn't told me. Shes been dealing with cancer for long time.



Speak to your Dh first and ask him why he would want it to be only you 4 and not your parents inlcuded as well. You're right it could be that your MIL is not doing as good as you may have thought she was.



ITA

Honestly, my first reaction would be for him to just include my parents as well - but you made a good point. Maybe there is something going on with his mother that he hasn't told you. If it's really important to him that it's just the 4 of you, maybe you should consider letting him have this one (esp since his mother isn't in good health) Chat Icon That's my opinion at least. HTH:

Posted 4/3/09 11:29 PM
 

Jenna04
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Jenna

Re: What would you do?

Are you close with his parents? Why dony you call them ask if its ok to invite your parents?

I personally cannot ever picture either of my parents objecting to a group dinner, esp bc you work so much but I don't know their situation so its hard to say :( hope it works out

Posted 4/4/09 3:54 PM
 
 
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