what would you do (need advice about a friends bday party)

my girlfriend is planning a party at a restaurant for her birthday. there will be 10 of us. orginially the plan was to have it at her house and have dinner in, but then she changed her mind. hannah was supposed to come with us, but now with the change in plans i am not sure what i should do.

my friend wants to go out to eat at 730, which is hannah's bed time. i know her and she would be a mess in a restaurant at that time. when she is tired she needs to sleep. period. we have no one who can babysit, unless my dh stays home with her, which totally stinks b/c he is friendly with a few other husbands who are going and we havent seen them in a while.

do i take hannah with us and risk the chance of her being cranky or just forgo the dinner?

Re: what would you do (need advice about a friends bday party)

I wouldn't take her... not fair to Hannah and that is late for her to be out. If she's cranky, not fair to everyone there.

Was dinner at her house scheduled for the same time? or earlier?

I think you have two choices:

1. Go alone or

2. Say you can't make it... but the second sounds as if you aren't going for another reason if you originally planned on taking DD to your frined's house for dinner at the same time.

I learned to never mess with the bedtime or nap schedule, especially trying to coordinate two, so, yeah, we miss a lot of invites and family (of which there are no young children anymore at all) tends to get annoyed because they forget how it is.

Re: what would you do (need advice about a friends bday party)

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

I wouldn't take her... not fair to Hannah and that is late for her to be out. If she's cranky, not fair to everyone there.

Was dinner at her house scheduled for the same time? or earlier?

I think you have two choices:

1. Go alone or

2. Say you can't make it... but the second sounds as if you aren't going for another reason if you originally planned on taking DD to your frined's house for dinner at the same time.

I learned to never mess with the bedtime or nap schedule, especially trying to coordinate two, so, yeah, we miss a lot of invites and family (of which there are no young children anymore at all) tends to get annoyed because they forget how it is.

Re: what would you do (need advice about a friends bday party)

we are the only one with kids. dinner was scheduled at that time orginially for her house , but i thought no big deal i will bring the PNP and hannah will sleep in another room.

i hear ya about the bedtimes! we have worked so hard to keep a good routine and hannah is a wonderful sleeper b/c of it. and yes, i feel my friends would make a comment about me not coming.

Message edited 8/30/2007 7:34:00 PM.

Re: what would you do (need advice about a friends bday party)

Hmm, well, if it was ME and I was talking about Ava, I'd just take her. We have done this a few times and have gotten lucky. Ava is also the type of child who needs to sleep when it's time to sleep, but she's also super social, so the social aspect of dinner always seems to keep her preoccupied. She also likes to put on "the Ava show" for everyone, so we can usually stretch an extra two hours if we're with a group of people
However, if you really don't want to chance it, then I'd either have DH stay home with her, or both of you not go.

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well, I dont know your DD but if it wrre ME - - my DD needs her sleep when she is tired and is a MESS without it - AND when she is put to sleep late, it screws her all up for that night and the next day. I wouldnt take her - Id have DH stay home with her and go myself....

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I've learned no dinner is worth a cranky baby. I would stay home rather then mess with her bedtime.

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I wouldn't take her..i would beg, plead for a family member to watch DD. She will probably be miserable and you will not enjoy yourself anyway. Not worth the stress...at least thats how i would feel.

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I'd go without DH. I think taking your DD could be you just taking care of her the whole time and if she's miserable, you'll be miserable. Maybe you can make plans to have some of them over for a dinner one night so your DH can see the husbands. I wouldn't not go though since your DH can stay home with your DD.

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i think if it was that important to go and Dh wanted to go too-- id probably go for a little bit-- keep my fingers crossed she was ok and bow out early...