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johnsae
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What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
DH has sooooooooo many high school and college friends who have multiple kids. We are invited to every birthday/christening/etc...I am tired of sending gifts and buying gifts. If we can't attend a kids birthday, is it expected that I still send a gift in the mail? I think I know the answer, but I'm still hoping I don't have to
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Posted 2/25/09 10:36 AM |
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nbc188
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Honestly, if it’s someone we’re close to, I would. If it’s someone we’re not very close to, I probably wouldn’t unless you’re going to see within a few weeks of the party, then I would.
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Posted 2/25/09 10:40 AM |
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shellybean
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
I would think no unless its a nephew or niece...you could always send something tiny...
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Posted 2/25/09 10:50 AM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Posted by shellybean
I would think no unless its a nephew or niece...you could always send something tiny...
I agree.
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Posted 2/25/09 10:51 AM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Always send a gift.
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Posted 2/25/09 10:59 AM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Posted by nbc188
Honestly, if it’s someone we’re close to, I would. If it’s someone we’re not very close to, I probably wouldn’t unless you’re going to see within a few weeks of the party, then I would.
I agree!
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Posted 2/25/09 11:25 AM |
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nylisa
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Posted by GaryElla
Always send a gift.
me too
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Posted 2/25/09 11:26 AM |
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Depends!
I personally don't unless they are friends (close friends!) or they are family members.
If you have the time, money and energy, then I think it is EXTREMELLY nice of you to do it for each party even if you don't attend.
I personally would not want to feel pressure to do so. But again, it depends which circle of friends/what type of relationship and what is "expected" of you with your DH's friends.
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Posted 2/25/09 11:29 AM |
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MST9106
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
I only do it for family and CLOSE friends.
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Posted 2/25/09 11:35 AM |
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johnsae
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
thanks all....they definitely are not close friends, so i'm not going to send a gift this time. thank you all so much for your advice!
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Posted 2/25/09 1:18 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Posted by cgdg61606
Posted by nbc188
Honestly, if it’s someone we’re close to, I would. If it’s someone we’re not very close to, I probably wouldn’t unless you’re going to see within a few weeks of the party, then I would.
I agree!
I agree too.
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Posted 2/25/09 1:19 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
I do. For parties we have missed, I send GCs inside a bday card.
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Posted 2/25/09 1:22 PM |
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BeachMom
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
I would only do it for close friends and family.
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Posted 2/25/09 1:27 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
I would send a gift especially if this is a group and people would say so and so sent a gift but then someone else did not get one. I have a suggestion. Take $100. Go to TJ Maxx or Marshalls. Buy a ton of gifts and put them in gift bags. Pop in the mail when this situation arises! One of my friends gets personalized gifts a lot. People seem to like those-Not sure where you live buit there is astore in Peppertree Commons in Commack that does this-I think Merry Go Round?
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Posted 2/25/09 1:29 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
If it's within a group you have already sent gifts in the past, then I would send something, even a GC in a card. Otherwise, if I am not going to SEE the person in the near future, and I don't see them regularly, I wouldn't get a gift.
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Posted 2/25/09 2:12 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Posted by MST9106
I only do it for family and CLOSE friends.
Same here
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Posted 2/25/09 2:39 PM |
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
I only send for family and close friends. If its a birthday party I only send a gift if I would have got the kid a gift without a party.
Now that I am a mom I would never expect anyone that didn't come to dc's party to send a gift. He gets so much stuff he doesn't need anything. I only invite people so I have the opportunity to see them.
Message edited 2/25/2009 3:11:40 PM.
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Posted 2/25/09 3:09 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
My rule is if you're invited a gift is given regardless if you can make it or not.
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Posted 2/25/09 3:17 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
As OP said I would do it if it is family and close friends.
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Posted 2/25/09 3:21 PM |
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cantbelieveit
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Re: What's the etiquette for a kids birthday party you can't attend...do you still send a gift?
Posted by MST9106
I only do it for family and CLOSE friends.
Me too.
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Posted 2/25/09 4:15 PM |
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