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NovemberSue
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Susan
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What's wrong with my MIL?
She wants to buy my daughter the same thing we got her for Christmas.
Message edited 12/8/2005 9:11:21 PM.
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Posted 11/28/05 2:08 PM  |
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BrunetteMom
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
I'm sorry but I really don't see what the big deal is.
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:12 PM |
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NovemberSue
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Susan
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
If you asked your MIL to watch your child so you could buy a specific gift and she KNEW that was your BIG GIFT and then all of a sudden she wants to get one too?
Its like she is trying to out-do the parents and has to get the same thing and then some.
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:14 PM |
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BrunetteMom
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
I would have seen it as a problem or her being spiteful if there wasn't a kitchen already at your mom's house. But being that your mom has a kitchen for your daughter, I don't see it as a bad thing for her to want to buy your daughter for her house, despite the fact that you were going to buy her one too.. I'm sorry. 
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:19 PM |
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michele31
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
I can understand why you would be upset. I know you have A LOT of MIL issues so this is just one more issue that she is upsetting you with. I think it is unfair. If she wants to get her a kitchen for her house she should wait until Easter time. That is very rude to try and do the same gift as "santa".
editted to add that my parents do often spend more on gifts or clothing for Molly. I don't mind that at all. That is fine. But my mom would never say she was buying the SAME gift as "santa" was.
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:20 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
It was nice for your MIL to get a big gift like that but I can understand how you feel. YOU"RE the parent...and want to get her the big gift. As long as your MIL isn't getting nasty about it, I think all is fine!
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:21 PM |
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NovemberSue
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Susan
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
Posted by michele31
I can understand why you would be upset. I know you have A LOT of MIL issues so this is just one more issue that she is upsetting you with. I think it is unfair. If she wants to get her a kitchen for her house she should wait until Easter time. That is very rude to try and do the same gift as "santa".
Thank you Michele. That is another point as well. Its Santa's gift to her and she shouldn't get two of them. It will make it less special in my opinion and I just think there are plenty of other things she can choose from.
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:23 PM |
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NovemberSue
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
Posted by BrunetteMom
I would have seen it as a problem or her being spiteful if there wasn't a kitchen already at your mom's house. But being that your mom has a kitchen for your daughter, I don't see it as a bad thing for her to want to buy your daughter for her house, despite the fact that you were going to buy her one too.. I'm sorry.
Well, perhaps it wouldn't be so awful if it was bought a year later or something but that is OUR BIG GIFT to our daughter for Christmas.
Message edited 12/8/2005 9:12:48 PM.
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:41 PM |
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BrunetteMom
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
Posted by NovemberSue
Posted by BrunetteMom
I would have seen it as a problem or her being spiteful if there wasn't a kitchen already at your mom's house. But being that your mom has a kitchen for your daughter, I don't see it as a bad thing for her to want to buy your daughter for her house, despite the fact that you were going to buy her one too.. I'm sorry.
Well, perhaps it wouldn't be so awful if it was bought a year later or something but that is OUR BIG GIFT to our daughter for Christmas.
Try and imagine your big gift to your child and then someone else buying that and a bunch of other things as well. Plus my MIL says things out of spite to bug me and tries to play it off innocently as if she didn't realize.
Like I said, I'm sorry.. I did't know that there was a tiff between the two of you. I wouldn't consider giving any of my kids something that they already had as a "big gift" to begin with so that's why I didn't see it as a big deal. My apologies.
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:48 PM |
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NovemberSue
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
Brunettemom: You don't need to apologize for your opinion. I don't take offense. Thats what makes us different,we won't all agree all of the time.
My mom has a little toy stove for her to play with and the one we got her is a stove,refrigerator and ironing station. Its bigger and has more things. I was very excited about it and have been talking about getting it for her for a long time.
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| Posted 11/28/05 2:54 PM |
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BrunetteMom
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
Posted by NovemberSue
Brunettemom: You don't need to apologize for your opinion. I don't take offense. Thats what makes us different,we won't all agree all of the time.
My mom has a little toy stove for her to play with and the one we got her is a stove,refrigerator and ironing station. Its bigger and has more things. I was very excited about it and have been talking about getting it for her for a long time.
I totally understand.  You were very excited about this and voiced it to your MIL and instead it was more as a competition thing? am I right? that's not nice.
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| Posted 11/28/05 3:07 PM |
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iffer042373
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
This is something that my MIL would do she is always making comments to me and this weekend she had said she didn't know what to get for marissa and the nasked me what I had bought for her and I started naming things and she said oh I am goign to get that or I can get this but I already bought it so why would you go and buy it if I am only gonna have to return it. She makes no sense I understand totally
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| Posted 11/28/05 3:13 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
Ok since the question was What's wrong with my MIL? -here's my guess as to the answer...
In my opinion, MILs tend to worry that they won't be loved as much as the "other grandmother" -- which as ridiculous as that sounds makes them go insane.
If you look at most of the MIL complaints on this board - they're just trying to get their time in, wow them with their gifts, etc so they can be assured that they will be loved and not pushed off to the side as they pushed their own MILs off. It's basically karma coming to bite all of us in the azz.
So back to the answer- there is nothing wrong with your MIL - she's just as nuts as all MILs become.
Signed -
Future Mother in law - God help me...!
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| Posted 11/28/05 3:22 PM |
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NovemberSue
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Susan
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Re: What's wrong with my MIL?
Message edited 12/8/2005 9:12:22 PM.
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