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Bridex100
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When did you start disciplining your child?
I think I've read that a child doesn't know better until s/he is about 18m old.
I witnessed my friend make her 13m old "cry it out" in a corner of a restaurant when he was acting out. I thought this was a bit much for a young boy.
At the same time, I thought perhaps I should start doing "time outs" and not let DS act up? DS is a pleasant kid when he gets what he wants. I usually just distract him with something else if he throws a tantrum.
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CrankyPants
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
I didn't start timeouts until 18 months. Before that I relied solely on re-directing which I think is much more appropriate at that age.
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| Posted 5/10/10 12:17 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
Posted by CrankyPants
I didn't start timeouts until 18 months. Before that I relied solely on re-directing which I think is much more appropriate at that age.
That is what I thought. I almost feel it's cruel to punish a child who doesn't know right from wrong.
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| Posted 5/10/10 12:22 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
Posted by CrankyPants
I didn't start timeouts until 18 months. Before that I relied solely on re-directing which I think is much more appropriate at that age.
DD is 15 months old and this is what I do.
Especially during meal time when she decides to throw her food on the floor. As soon as she does, I say "Food doesn't belong on the floor, if you throw it down, you are done eating" (or something like that). I remove all the food from her tray and throw it out.
She will throw her sippy on the floor (she does this on purpose). I have a 2 pick up "rule" After the 3rd time, she doesn't get it back. I always tell her after the 2nd time, that if she does it a 3rd time, the sippy goes back in the fridge, or in the sink...etc....
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| Posted 5/10/10 12:44 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
I've started a modified type of time out a couple of months ago - at around 14 months. I know when they are testing me. They may not know right from wrong, but when I tell them "no" several times, and then they look right at me and go back to doing what I just told them not to do, they are testing me.
If I just let them do whatever it is, then I feel I am letting the walk all over me, and I don't want to start that pattern.
A time out at this point is removing them from the situation, sitting them down in another part of the room, saying "time out" and walking away. if they start crying I ignore them for 1 minute. If they leave the spot I put them in, I don't do anything but if theye come over to me, I ignore them for 1 minute.
IMO they have to know that not listening/inappropriate behavior has consequences.
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| Posted 5/10/10 12:59 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
As soon as I realized she understood good from bad in that she wanted something and didnt want something else. Once I could actually hold her attention as in she'd respond to me. We'd positively reinforce good behavior and provide no stimulation after the word "no"
By 10m she knew "no" very well. She also had learned not to touch certain things, not allowed in the bathroom and she knew our 'look' meant business.
At 20m .. now... she throws a tantrum after we say no.. and I just let her. She lays on the floor and cries. 1min - 2min sometimes up to 5mins then I just act like nothing happened but I absolutely refuse to give in. So if she wants a bottle and its not bed time and she tosses a fit well fine. I let her cry then walk away. 5mins later we walk in like nothing's happened. If she's still crying we just ignore her and will come to us for comfort. That's fine but we don't baby her we just pick her up and sit her next to us. She'll lean on us and sniffle but she moves on. If she still reaches for the bottle we put her back on the floor and don't touch her.
Thankfully so far she's been decent in public.
Message edited 5/10/2010 1:17:29 PM.
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| Posted 5/10/10 1:14 PM |
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
We had a few rules - mostly safety when DS was 1 year - no blinds, no remotes - he was told these rules from about 6 months. He got about a 45 second time out at 13 mos. He knew he did wrong b/c he had that sh!t eating grin.
Now he's 2 - still gets 2 min time-outs but when different teachers at school have him - they say how well behaved he is. We are strict with him. He knows when we are serious and when we are playing.
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| Posted 5/10/10 1:18 PM |
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LeShellem
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by CrankyPants
I didn't start timeouts until 18 months. Before that I relied solely on re-directing which I think is much more appropriate at that age.
That is what I thought. I almost feel it's cruel to punish a child who doesn't know right from wrong.
Honestly every child is different but I know for a fact that DS knew right from wrong from 12 months. He's 14 months now and if he act us I simply leave him alone for a minute and wait for him to calm down.
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| Posted 5/10/10 1:22 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
we haven't started time outs or anything like that. DS is 20 months old, we just try to redirect his attention. The thing is he has a major tude (screams no, throws things if he is mad, tries to hit my cat) and he def. knows when he is not supposed to do certain things. If we tell him no, he looks at us and smirks. I can't imagine putting him in time out, he wouldn't stay for 1 second 
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| Posted 5/10/10 1:23 PM |
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lucyloo
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Re: When did you start disciplining your child?
At 7 months I'm working on "no" and redirecting his attention. Also when we are in public and he gets loud I gently "sshhh" and talk to him softly. He is starting to *seem* like he gets it. Who knows. I just don't like the idea of doing nothing about it.
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| Posted 5/10/10 1:33 PM |
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