When did your DH stop playing video games/watching violet movies around DC?

I have been having a fight with DH. I really don't want him playing violent video games/watching violent movies around DS. He is only 5 months. He says he will stop when he "understands". I don't know how to get across to him that this is unacceptable. If you have "trained" your husband, any suggestions on how to do it?
TIA!

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Didn't happen here! 22 mts, still going strong

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I never let him play his video games or watch anything like that in front of DD from the very beginning....20 months and he still won't.

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As soon as we noticed that DS would react to the images or noises. FIL on the other hand thinks it is fine to watch Die Hard in front of DS. This is our next major issue to overcome.

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I think it was somewhere around when DS started to actually look at the TV when we were holding him. For the first couple of months, he wanted to be held constantly, so if either DW or I wanted to watch a violent movie, odds were that we would have DS in our arms.

We did realize, however, that once he started looking at the TV, we had to stop. You can never tell when DC will be "aware" of what is going on,and what they will absorb. How does your DH know when DC is old enough to "understand"? What if DH is a few months off?....

I never played violent video games around DC. DS always needed to be held, so it's hard playing games with a baby in your arms....

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Since about 2 months of age, we have tried not to have any media-i.e. no TV, computer monitor, videos, video games, etc. We started at 2 months, simply because that's when we became aware that the AAP recommends against all of it until 2 years of age.

Law and Order is pretty violent, and pre-2 months I would have that on. Now, not at all.

We are not always successful-i.e. when we have company over, we don't say anything or if the DH is trying to catch the end of a basketball game, etc we bend the rules. It's a "best practice" for us.

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Well, we don't watch anything like that anyway and DH doesn't play video games, but I do have a funny story. DD has started being even more alert when the TV is on (it's rarely on if it's not one of her shows)...there were people kissing the other day and she say "oh no....kiss!!!!" at the TV , so no more of even that kind of TV while she's up

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DH watches wrestling all the time, but has been better about listening to his 'bad' satelitte radio.

But, DS (18 months) likes wrestling so much that he tackled a 4 year old at the pediatricians office last week.

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I'm still trying to get DH to stop listening to Howard Stern with DD in the car.

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ummm,

what's violent?
I guess its not just hubbies...

We dont plan to change much of what we do. I play games more than my hubby does. I dont see a need to stop.

I grew up watching Stephen King's IT and those HORRIBLY (sarcastic) Looney Tunes and Heaven forbid.. I watched the Road Runner destroy Willie Coyote! Watched Dawn of the Dead in black and white, all sorts of slasher bloody thriller movies. When I got a little older we made a movie night out of "B" movies. And Star Wars is classic and I can't wait for her to get into it!



Now I do agree no SEX on TV where I can help it. But I'm sorry I see no issues with blood and gore. I probably wouldnt let her watch it by herself and never late at night (like my father did ) but he always let me watch them and told me what was real, wrong, and why for everything.

Language is gonna come back and bite me in the butt. I KNOW my mouth is gonna get me in trouble with her. I'm a sailor's daughter!!

Still I know if not from me, she'll get it from just going outside and I'd rather explain what the F word means at home and how its not to be said, than have her run up to me in a store going "F" "F" "F" because she heard some teenage employee say it.

I guess each to their own or different strokes for different folks???

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Posted by Xelindrya

ummm,

what's violent?
I guess its not just hubbies...

We dont plan to change much of what we do. I play games more than my hubby does. I dont see a need to stop.

I grew up watching Stephen King's IT and those HORRIBLY (sarcastic) Looney Tunes and Heaven forbid.. I watched the Road Runner destroy Willie Coyote! Watched Dawn of the Dead in black and white, all sorts of slasher bloody thriller movies. When I got a little older we made a movie night out of "B" movies. And Star Wars is classic and I can't wait for her to get into it!



Now I do agree no SEX on TV where I can help it. But I'm sorry I see no issues with blood and gore. I probably wouldnt let her watch it by herself and never late at night (like my father did ) but he always let me watch them and told me what was real, wrong, and why for everything.

Language is gonna come back and bite me in the butt. I KNOW my mouth is gonna get me in trouble with her. I'm a sailor's daughter!!

Still I know if not from me, she'll get it from just going outside and I'd rather explain what the F word means at home and how its not to be said, than have her run up to me in a store going "F" "F" "F" because she heard some teenage employee say it.

I guess each to their own or different strokes for different folks???

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Right now, I do watch wrestling while holding them, but will stop once they get to be of an age where they can start imitating the moves.

Yeah and I mean, I grew up on Looney Tunes and we watch Tom and Jerry with the kids - it's all good

Message edited 2/23/2009 4:05:41 PM.

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i am lucky b/c DH does not play violent video games (well i don't think the Wii has violent games )

neither of us watches anything violent with DS around - the TV is either on noggin, or something tame like the news, Food Network or ESPN. if we want to watch something, we wait until DS goes to bed.

ETA: just realized i did not answer your question. our DCs are the same age and i TOTALLY think that now is the time where they start to understand that some people/events can be "bad." i think it's a good idea to stop now, even if he thinks your DC doesn't "get" it yet, how does he know for sure?

and if all else fails, ask your ped - i am sure they would be on your side

Message edited 2/23/2009 4:11:26 PM.

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DH plays World of Warcraft and several other violent interactive video games. He appreciates the fact that I refuse to have CSI even on while DD is in the room, yet sees nothing wrong with having her in his lap while he is playing. She is 14 months and he's still at it.