whiny vent about friends wedding shower

i'm in a wedding on may 3. there are 3 bridesmaids and the moh. the bride wants the shower at her parents house and her mom wanted to be involved in the planning.. totally fine.
about a month ago we all got an e-mail from the mom saying that the earliest date the shower could be would be the last weekend in february because the brides dad wants to do some remodeling around the house that won't be done till then. so she asked us all the write back if that date was good or what date would be good. i wrote back and never heard anything else! finally tuesday i had to e-mail the moh to find out what was going on, and she writes back like " oh yeah, the shower's gonna be on march 2nd"- ok, and when were you gonna tell the rest of us?? i know she has a guest list and addresses, but she didnt' say anything about sending out the invitations yet-- hello!! its barely a month away! she also said in the e-mail that she doesn't know what to do about food yet and wanted to e-mail back and forth some ideas.but wouldn't it have been better to start all of this earlier so we could make a time to meet in person ( we're all spread out all over NJ) and talk about this instead of sending a billion e-mails back and forth??
i know it'll all work out and i'm just too much of a planner... but its driving me nuts!! the bride was also in my wedding and helped give me an awesome shower so i just want to make sure hers is the same way.. and right now i don't feel like its gonna be! thanks for listening if you made it this far!!

Re: whiny vent about friends wedding shower

Can you call the mom or MOH and talk to them to see what you can do to help?

Re: whiny vent about friends wedding shower

Communication would be nice.

You're right the invites need to go out in the next week or so. But I think you have plenty of time to plan the menu. My sister & I made a shower last year - and it took us one day to hammer out a menu and 2 days to shop & cook for it.

Email back with some things you were thinking or tasks you just want to handle just to keep the ball moving and everyone in the loop.

I am sure it's going to be a wonderful shower!