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seaside
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by Jbon630
No, if i didnt see the car start, or break lights go on within 30 seconds, I'd move on. Hysterical what offends people these days.
This. People have no right to rush you along when you're in a spot, no matter what you're doing. For example, people who rush mothers trying to pack up kids in strollers, etc. deserve to wait forever. Why should the mom feel rushed unpacking and buckling/calming her child just so someone else without a spot can get in the store faster? I have to remind myself not to rush when people get impatient with me. Moms should not fail to pack up all of their stuff (without forgetting anything), buckle everyone in properly (and calmly--no tears), and pull out safely just because some bully feels entitled to honk or otherwise rush her.
OP--do what works best in your day, whatever that is. It is your parking spot, and no one should be stalking you.
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gina409
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Re: Who is wrong here?
idk...i guess i am the oddball here but i find it really rude
and i am NOT talking about someone honking at a mother getting her kid out of a stroller or someone putting packages in the car
i mean someone sitting in a parking spot and eating while cars r looking for spots
the spot is there for you to shop and when you are done shopping you should go right?
idk i just think common courtesy to put bags in car and go about your day
but i do not drive so what they hell do i know
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| Posted 9/30/12 9:30 PM |
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by gina409
idk...i guess i am the oddball here but i find it really rude
and i am NOT talking about someone honking at a mother getting her kid out of a stroller or someone putting packages in the car
i mean someone sitting in a parking spot and eating while cars r looking for spots
the spot is there for you to shop and when you are done shopping you should go right?
idk i just think common courtesy to put bags in car and go about your day
but i do not drive so what they hell do i know
Maybe it is.
It's something that I have done without even thinking, if that makes sense. I never really thought I was doing anything potentially wrong because it was like autopilot:
run in TJ, grab my wrap, settle into car, connect cell to charger, put pocketbook on passenger seat...look at my wrap, and figure, "mmm..I'll just take a quick bite before I go."
Then a bite turns into eating the whole thing, before I even really start the car.
Overall, I think I will move my car to another lot or something.
I don't like to eat anywhere near work because I don't want to talk to anyone on my break- I want to be alone. If people see me "dining" in the parking lot, people will be knocking on my windows to chat.
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| Posted 9/30/12 9:46 PM |
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newbie00
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by MorningCuppaCoffee
I think it's common courtesy to go somewhere else if it is a very crowded lot, where it is clear that others are sitting and waiting/circling for a spot.
I agree with this. I personally would just drive back to the office and eat it in my car there.
Message edited 9/30/2012 9:57:18 PM.
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| Posted 9/30/12 9:56 PM |
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mrsboss
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Re: Who is wrong here?
How is this rude? It's your spot, you're entitled to sit there, eat, put seat back & relax for as long as you'd like. Like PP said, I'd move along after 30 seconds if I realized the person wasnt leaving.. What's the big deal
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| Posted 9/30/12 10:15 PM |
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Adri
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by mrsboss
How is this rude? It's your spot, you're entitled to sit there, eat, put seat back & relax for as long as you'd like. Like PP said, I'd move along after 30 seconds if I realized the person wasnt leaving.. What's the big deal
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| Posted 9/30/12 11:22 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by MaZz
I don't know who is wrong but I too would be pissed if I saw someone just hanging out in their car eating in a full parking lot where I'm waiting for a spot. You could easily pull out and park somewhere else to eat your lunch. Had the shoe been on the other foot, I think you'd be annoyed as well.
This.
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| Posted 10/1/12 12:54 AM |
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ElizaRags35
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Who is wrong here?
I don't think it's wrong because you are in the space and until you leave, it's "yours" but for me, I would find somewhere else to eat. If I know it's a crowded lot and people are waiting, I make sure I get in my car and get out, just as a courtesy in hopes that if someone sees me looking for a space, they give me the same courtesy. DH always takes his time getting out of a space and I'm always telling him to hurry if someone is waiting.
Is there a nearby park or something like that you can go to eat? I used to pick up lunch and sit in my car overlooking a pond. Much better than a boring old parking lot!
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| Posted 10/1/12 1:21 AM |
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by MaZz
I don't know who is wrong but I too would be pissed if I saw someone just hanging out in their car eating in a full parking lot where I'm waiting for a spot. You could easily pull out and park somewhere else to eat your lunch. Had the shoe been on the other foot, I think you'd be annoyed as well.
This is how I feel too.
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| Posted 10/1/12 1:47 AM |
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MrsA1012
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Who is wrong here?
I think the considerate and thoughtful thing to do is to leave the spot right away.
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| Posted 10/1/12 7:51 AM |
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mylovesX3
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Re: Who is wrong here?
I don't think you're wrong because it's your spot.
I personally would leave, because I would feel pressure to eat fast. That's just me.
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| Posted 10/1/12 7:58 AM |
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by MrsA1012
I think the considerate and thoughtful thing to do is to leave the spot right away.
See this is what is frustrating to me. Not your comment but in general people who feel this way. If you went to a store in the complex and bought something are you not allowed to continue to use that spot? Why do we feel we are entitled to something that isn't ours? Just because you want a spot, or are looking why is that someone else's issue to the point someone should feel forced out of THEIR spot? A pp said they would never rush a mother and that's different, but what if OP was a diabetic? My point is while we're, a general statement about humans here, are busy judging someone about how they "wronged" us or were rude to us we are making assumptions. We are not entitled to everything and anything we desire. If someone isn't moving from their spot move on. If you buy a sandwich and want to eat it in your car eat it. It's not like she is parked in a handicapped spot....are you
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| Posted 10/1/12 8:03 AM |
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Who is wrong here?
^ I think some people are just nicely saying that it would be kind to move (even if it is my spot and its quick).
Generally I agree, but after a few times of angering people, I started to wonder if I felt compelled to move because of how they reacted.
If I saw someone quickly just eat, I don't think it would bother me. However, if I was rushing and it was crowded, maybe I would be annoyed as well.
So I shall move from now on. No harm done. Just was an interesting situation that made me wonder... Am I coming across as entitled? Or are they? There were differing opinions on this silly matter, so maybe there is no clear cut answer.
I swear, it's this parking lot  it turns people!
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| Posted 10/1/12 8:31 AM |
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BriBri2u
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by InShock
Posted by Holly
I would NOT tell anyone I am not leaving either-I don;t owe it to anyone. The same thing if I am at a shopping plaza and putting my package in my car and closing it and going into another store. I am entitled to do so!
Being "entitled" to do something doesn't mean you have to be rude about it. Common courtesy would be a simple wave-off to someone waiting. Not sure why you seem to have such a poor attitude about such a simple courteous act.
Posted by Teachergal
If it were me I would drive back to work and eat in my lot there. I don't think it's fair to stay if it is a busy lot and everyone is waiting for spots.
That is the problem with so many people today - the "me, me, me" attitude.
I also don't think it's fair to stay in a busy lot to eat. I would drive to a less crowded area and eat.
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| Posted 10/1/12 9:18 AM |
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Diane
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Re: Who is wrong here?
I have done this, and I would just let them know I am not leaving.
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| Posted 10/1/12 9:26 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Who is wrong here?
I know that parking lot and usually there IS a spot you can find if you're willing to walk a fair distance. I always go right for these becuase I HATE following people to their cars unless it's the only option (like at holiday shopping time, completely full parking lots, etc). I am rarely fast when I get into my car, regardless if I'm with DD or not. I like to organize myself, check my phone, maybe make a call before I start driving (I am not a fan of the hands free feature), etc. I can't stand when someone follows me and I now feel like I have to rush to accommodate them when I like to take my time.
I think you have every right to eat in your car and this is exactly why I don't follow people. I would feel really bad if I knew I caused someone to rush their lunch (or whatever else they wanted to do in their car at their own pace) becuase I wanted a closer spot. As others have said, I guess as a courtesy you could wave them on if you see them following you but I feel like they're being rude for following you in the first place. That is such a pet peve of mine unless it's absolutely necessary (which I don't believe it is in that parking lot).
The only time something like this has really annoyed me was at a super busy 7-11 in the morning. There were NO parking spots, you could barely drive through the tiny lot becuase people had made their own illegal spots, people were parked across the road, you couldn't get a spot if your life depended on it and low and behold I see several people leisurely drinking coffee, eating a bagel, reading the paper in their cars! THAT made my blood boil. In that situation I think it's SUPER rude. Drive down the freggin block to have your leisurely breakfast instead of making other people late for work! 
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| Posted 10/1/12 10:06 AM |
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MaZz
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by PeasandCarrots
Posted by MrsA1012
I think the considerate and thoughtful thing to do is to leave the spot right away.
See this is what is frustrating to me. Not your comment but in general people who feel this way. If you went to a store in the complex and bought something are you not allowed to continue to use that spot? Why do we feel we are entitled to something that isn't ours? Just because you want a spot, or are looking why is that someone else's issue to the point someone should feel forced out of THEIR spot? A pp said they would never rush a mother and that's different, but what if OP was a diabetic? My point is while we're, a general statement about humans here, are busy judging someone about how they "wronged" us or were rude to us we are making assumptions. We are not entitled to everything and anything we desire. If someone isn't moving from their spot move on. If you buy a sandwich and want to eat it in your car eat it. It's not like she is parked in a handicapped spot....are you
If the food was needed ASAP because of being diabetic, I personally would have just eaten at the place where the food was bought. If its not a dire emergency, I don't see the big deal in pulling out of the spot and eating elsewhere. This is common courtesy IMO... I always move out of my spots ASAP. Not because i feel pressured but bc i just feel like its the right thing to do in a crowded parking lot. As for the mother example, I am a mother and never feel rushed to get out of a spot... I take my time getting the baby and the groceries in the car. And I've never had someone NOT understand that situation.
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| Posted 10/1/12 10:06 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: Who is wrong here?
I always ask someone (or more like gesture), "are you leaving?". I personally think it's on the spot seeker to do so.
I probably wouldn't eat my lunch in the car there though just bc I would be uncomfortable with all the people trying to see if I'm leaving. Just sounds annoying.
Lol at how "the diabetic" always enters the scenario on here.
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| Posted 10/1/12 10:07 AM |
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Superkat
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by Adri
Posted by mrsboss
How is this rude? It's your spot, you're entitled to sit there, eat, put seat back & relax for as long as you'd like. Like PP said, I'd move along after 30 seconds if I realized the person wasnt leaving.. What's the big deal
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| Posted 10/1/12 10:45 AM |
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tink23
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by Teachergal
If it were me I would drive back to work and eat in my lot there. I don't think it's fair to stay if it is a busy lot and everyone is waiting for spots.
I agree with this.
I'm not getting the whole "It's your spot until you leave it" mentality. Sure, use the spot while you're shopping, but while you are eating? I mean, if it wasn't a busy lot who really cares, but if the place is noticeably busy, the CURTEOUS thing to do would be to find a less busy place to eat.
I don't know how anyone would even be able to enjoy their food with people swarming around them looking for spots.
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| Posted 10/1/12 11:28 AM |
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maymama
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Re: Who is wrong here?
this sort of thing drives me CRAZY!
is there a posted time limit on spots? NO!
What if you were parked and disabled and someone ran into the store to shop while you sat in the car - same thing. The person waiting for the spot has no idea why you arent leaving and it really isn't their business.
If I see a person get into their car, I will wait for 30 seconds to look for reverse lights. If I dont see them - I drive on.
What if I had to make a business call? There are a million reasons why you might stay in the parking spot for 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes.
People are lazy. Unless it is Christmas at the mall, you can find parking. Park in the next lot over and walk if a spot isnt available.
You are NOT wrong, you waited for a spot, you got it, your timeline now. Do what you need to do and then move on and once the spot is open, the next person can move on in and do the same.
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| Posted 10/1/12 11:48 AM |
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maymama
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Also, if you don't turn the car on (no back lights on) no one except that first person who saw you get into the car will even know there is someone in there! No one will swarm, there will be no problem.
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| Posted 10/1/12 11:50 AM |
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MrsSx2
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by chilltocam
Posted by Holly
I would NOT tell anyone I am not leaving either-I don;t owe it to anyone. The same thing if I am at a shopping plaza and putting my package in my car and closing it and going into another store. I am entitled to do so!
You might not "owe" anyone an explanation, but its just common courtesy - something that there's just not enough of these days (as has been the subject of other posts on here). It doesn't cost you anything other than a split second, to waive the waiting person on. I have to say, its that kind of attitude that just makes day to day life a little more stressful, for no reason.
To the OP, I don't think its a big deal to stay in the spot and eat, but again, just as a common courtesy, if you know the lot is really busy AND there is somewhere else you can get to easily, then I night do that.
ITA with this.
I would be super annoyed if I was waiting for your spot in a very busy parking lot and you didn’t even take the time to wave or motion to me that you had no intentions on leaving the spot. It wouldn’t take but 2 seconds and very little effort to do that. So, I don’t think your “wrong”, but I do think its annoying.
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| Posted 10/1/12 12:24 PM |
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MrsFrizzle
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Who is wrong here?
You're not wrong. Just wave them along. Sometimes I make a call or text before I leave my spot. It's not a big deal they can find another spot. They'll survive.
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| Posted 10/1/12 12:36 PM |
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BeachMom
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Re: Who is wrong here?
Posted by BeachGal
I would eat away but I would tell the person when I was walking to the car that I wasnt leaving. If they didnt see me tell them then its their problem.
Same here. One quick gesture that your not leaving is more than enough. Busy parking lots tend to get alot of over anxious people, your in a spot, it's your till you leave. Just because your in your car in a spot does not necessarily mean you are leaving.
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