Why do I feel so down? I feel as bad as I did after DD was born...

I am not sure why but the past three days or so I have felt so down and out. I cried so much and have been abrupt with DD. I feel like a bad mommy and I don't know how to stop it. I am at work now and I miss her terribly but I know that when I get home I will be stressed if she doesn't go to sleep easily.

She has been eating and sleeping poorly and I just started back to my grad classes and I just feel overwhelmed like I did when she was first born.

I want her to be the happy baby she was before...

Re: Why do I feel so down? I feel as bad as I did after DD was born...

you're not alone. try to take some mommy alone/relax time if possible.

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You have alot on your plate, grad school is HUGE! You should be proud of yourself and cut yourself some slack. I'm sure your DD will get back on track and things will feel under control. Just take one day at a time. Try to sneak in any extra rest that you can, every bit counts.

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it sounds like you are going through a rough patch...it will pass

when you feel yourself getting stressed out, take a breather, count to 10, walk away from dd if you have to

you are NOT a bad mom, you have alot on your plate and are stressed out, you are only human

fm me if you want to talk

Message edited 1/31/2008 7:47:26 PM.

Re: Why do I feel so down? I feel as bad as I did after DD was born...

First, You are NOT a Bad Mom. You are working and going to Grad School. That's a lot right there. I give you and every mommy that does this soooo much credit.

I have been having a little trouble getting DS to sleep as well. DH has been working LONG hours. In on the go (SAHM) from 7AM until DS decides to close his eyes. Right now, I hear him crying over the monitor. For us, CIO pretty much works. It's hard doing it myself though.

Take it one day at a time. I think our DCs are the same age. FM me if you EVER need to talk.

Re: Why do I feel so down? I feel as bad as I did after DD was born...

Posted by lvdolphins



First, You are NOT a Bad Mom. You are working and going to Grad School. That's a lot right there. I give you and every mommy that does this soooo much credit.

I have been having a little trouble getting DS to sleep as well. DH has been working LONG hours. In on the go (SAHM) from 7AM until DS decides to close his eyes. Right now, I hear him crying over the monitor. For us, CIO pretty much works. It's hard doing it myself though.

Take it one day at a time. I think our DCs are the same age. FM me if you EVER need to talk.

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I'm sure your DD is going through something right now that is making her a poor eater/ sleeper. It could be teething. I hope that it passes soon and she'll be back to her old self.

Give yourself a little leeway. As PP said, you are doing many things right now, not to mention all of the right things. You are working, going to grad school and taking care of DD. It's bound to feel overwhelming at times. Hang in there!

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Really at this time I figure why bother trying to get him to bed! tonight we watched Jacks big Music show on demand and then he fell asleep. We will see for how long it goes. I actually called in sick to work today bc of how bad last night was.
You are not a bad mom. You have a lot going on and it is normal to be down. Just remember sometimes you have to do some things for yourself!

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Hang in there. You are both just having a rough spot. Just remember she feels your stress just as much as you do. Breath. Like someone else said take a walk or sneak in a bath if your dh will let you. Just breath.

Message edited 1/31/2008 9:34:52 PM.

Re: Why do I feel so down? I feel as bad as I did after DD was born...

I just had a bad patch too. DD was cutting four molars and was generally crabby from the minute we got home to the minute she went to bed. Then she would wake up every 2 hours at night.

This too, shall pass. It will get better again.

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It happens to the best of us. I was at my end today as well. I even started crying because I was so frustrated with myself and how I was acting.

You have a lot on your plate and at least you are aware that you have a short fuse. You'll have good days and bad. But, you are not alone.

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I know - I go through days like that too - I think we just take on so much as mommies!!!

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Parenting has its ups and downs, your in a down period now but remember it will be followed by a beautiful up.....hang in there

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Jules, you are a great mom!!! She is going through a rough patch right now, but will be back to her smiley self soon. You are doing so much right now, it's bound to get stressful. Take it one moment at a time and hang in there it will get better!

Connor also thinks you are a great Godmother We are here for you !!!!!

Re: Why do I feel so down? I feel as bad as I did after DD was born...

You have a lot going on...try to take sometime for yourself. Even if its to take a walk We are here for you!